10 inspiring quotes about love.

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It’s not easy but I think it’s important to us to choose love because love is the most powerful force in the calendar. And, by love, I don’t mean puppy love: I mean unconditional love, forgiving love, tough love and true love.


Here are 10 quotes to emphasize this:


1. ‘Now, more than ever, it is important to choose love. ’- Dr. Deepak’s Chopra

 

2. ‘Have enough courage to trust love one more time, always and forever.’-Maya Angelou


3. ‘Love takes of masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.’- James Baldwin


4. ‘The chance to live and be loved exists no matter where you are.’- Oprah Winfrey


5. ‘Fundamentally, love means to go beyond likes and dislike.’- Sadhguru


6. ‘Eventually, you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.’- Gary Zukhav


7. ‘Reason is powerless in the expression of love.’- Rumi


8. ‘Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold—that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.’ -Maya Angelou


9. ‘You can only give away what you have inside of you, become an instrument of love.’ Dr. Wayne Dyer


10. ‘Being deeply lovedby someone gives you strength, whilelovingsomeone deeply gives you courage." – Lao Tzu

Lo que aprendí al ver mi enamoramiento con otra mujer.

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Decepción. Trastornado. Humillación. Desesperación. Enfado. Confusión. Estas son las 6 emociones que seguían circulando por mi cuerpo cuando vi a la persona que estaba enamorada de ligar y amar a otra persona.


Verá, hasta ese momento, había recibido tantas señales de que ESTE y yo estábamos destinados a ser. Casi se sintió como una colaboración cósmica. Sentí que el Universo me enviaba señales: cuando nos reunimos hubo un intercambio de energía sincero y profundo, y algunos lectores psíquicos se habían referido (a quien yo creía) a este hombre como alguien con quien posiblemente podría tener un futuro. (Hay más detalles que elijo omitir para la privacidad de esta persona).

Entonces, cuando surgieron estas emociones, mi cuento de hadas se perdió. El futuro que había construido entre él y yo en mi cabeza, se hizo añicos. Mi alegría se convirtió en amargura, mi sonrisa se convirtió en desagrado, mi apertura se cerró, mi sinceridad se convirtió en duda y cuando sentí que el cuchillo atravesaba mi corazón, me sentí como un idiota por creer. Mi diálogo interno comenzó con la cantidad de mujeres con las que he oído que ha estado y me pregunté cómo pensé que sería diferente a la forma en que generalmente trata a las mujeres.

Pasé unos 20-30 minutos sintiéndome derrotado y luego me hice una simple pregunta: ¿quién es él para mí? Lo que me llevó a otra pregunta: ¿por qué tiene tanto poder sobre mí?

Las dos respuestas que mi intuición me dio fueron que él es un extraño y si pudiera darle a un extraño ese poder, tengo trabajo que hacer conmigo mismo. Podría pasarme la vida culpándolo o perdonándome a mí mismo, perdonarlo y seguir con mi vida.


No tengo que responder cómo solía hacerlo cuando era un niño; Puedo romper esa cadena y encarnar realmente lo que significa ser un adulto. Los adultos se elevan por encima; no se quedan revolcándose en sus emociones, culpando a la otra persona y manteniéndose en modo receptivo.


Esta situación también me devolvió a una pregunta que sigue llegando a mi cabeza: ¿soy suficiente? Primero respondí, 'SÍ' por enojo hacia él, pero seguí haciendo la misma pregunta y la respuesta se hizo más suave a medida que respondía. Aún sí! ¡Sí! ¡Sí! ¡Sí! ¡Soy suficiente y siempre he sido suficiente!


Sentí una profunda aceptación de mí mismo y un conocimiento de que soy suficiente. Este conocimiento es algo que nadie puede quitarme de encima. Este conocimiento cuesta más que el dinero y no puede ser reemplazado por otra cosa que no sea verdaderamente encarnarlo y creerlo porque es verdad.

Él ha cumplido su propósito en mi vida y cuando lo veo o veo / escucho algo de su trabajo, estoy agradecido por el viaje que me llevó de regreso a algo que nadie puede quitarme.

What I learnt from seeing my crush with another woman.

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Disappointment. Upset. Humiliation. Despair. Anger. Confusion. These are the 6 emotions that kept circling through my body as I saw the person that I have a crush on flirt and love up with someone else.


You see, up until that point, I had received so many signs that THIS guy and I were meant to be. It almost felt like a cosmic collaboration. I felt like The Universe was sending me signs: when we met there was a deep and sincere energy exchange and a few psychic readers had all referenced (who I thought to be) this man as someone who I could possibly have a future with. (There are more details that I am choosing to leave out for this person’s privacy.)

So, as these emotions came up, my fairytale was lost. The future that I had built between him and I in my head, became shattered. My joy turned into bitterness, my smile turned into displeasure, my openness became closed off, my sincerity turned into doubt and as I felt the knife cut through my heart, I felt like an idiot for ever believing. My inner dialogue began of how many women I have heard that he has been with and I wondered how I thought that i would be any different to how he usually treats women.

I spent about 20-30 minutes feeling defeated and then I asked myself a simple question: Who is he to me? Which led me to another question: Why does he have so much power over me?


The two answers that my intuition gave me were that he is a stranger and if I could give a stranger that much power, I have work to do on myself. I could spend my life blaming him or forgive myself, forgive him and move on with my life.


I don’t have to respond how I used to when I was a kid; I can break that chain and truly embody what it means to be an adult. Adults rise above; they don’t stay wallowing in their emotions, blaming the other person and stay in responsive mode.


This situation also brought me back to a question that keeps finding its way into my head: Am I enough? I first replied, ‘YES’ out of anger towards him but kept asking the same question with the answer becoming more soft as I answered it. Still Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! I am enough and have always been enough!


I had a feeling of deep acceptance of myself and a knowing that I am enough. This knowing is something that no one can take that away from me. This knowing costs more than money and is not able to be replaced by anything other than truly embodying and believing it because it is true.

He has served his purpose in my life and when I see him or see/hear some of his work, I am grateful for the journey that led me back to something that no one can take away from me.

6 things that I learnt from taking back my ex.

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When I got back together with a romantic partner I'd broken up with, I felt a lot of judgement from people around me. They asked me why I would do such a thing when there are so many fish in the sea.

The truth is that there's no real reason I got back together with him. I could ask myself why I did it, and I could label myself or try to turn back the clock. But it happened, and I believe that there was a reason.

Our relationship eventually fell apart, but I learned a lot from it, and for that I am grateful.

Here are six lessons that taking my ex back taught me:

 

1. Love is not enough.

Don't get me wrong, love is magnificent. Love can make amazing things happen. Love is the foundation of a healthy relationship. However, if your future, happiness or health are at stake, it's not enough. When a relationship is going through a difficult time, love by itself won't keep the relationship intact. Respect and considerate behavior also do.

 

2. When someone says that they understand you, they will try their best not to make you cry.

We often say that the person we love understands us like no one else does. If your partner really understands you, they have no reason to make you feel badly about yourself. People who understand you are aware of how they can impact your life, and for that reason won't intentionally bring pain and agony upon you.

 

3. Just because you miss something doesn't mean it's good for you.

We all have that feeling of emptiness when we decide to eliminate something (or someone) from our lives. That doesn't mean that what we let go of was healthy for us. We're creatures of habit, so it only makes sense that we will miss something that we've become used to. Missing someone isn't an indicator of whether you should give someone a second chance; how they treat you is.

 

4. Everything in life changes and evolves, including people and relationships.

I'm a sucker for nostalgia, and I often find myself getting stuck in the past and wanting things to be the way they used to be. The truth is that things will never be how they once were. It isn't possible to recreate the past in the present. Things change, and in that process, people grow together or they grow apart. The energy spent forcing things to be how they used to be can be spent on more significant and progressive aspects of your life.

 

5. All of your friends and family can't all be wrong about one person.

Sometimes our desire for things to go our way distorts the truth. Your family and friends have your best interests at heart. If they all disapprove of your relationship, that's a red flag. It might be phrased through judgement and command, but their concern is something to listen to. They want you to be loved the way you deserve to be loved.

 

6. Someone's love is not owed to you by the amount of time you've invested in your relationship.

You may have given many years and invested a lot of time into a relationship, but that doesn't mean that you're owed someone's love. Mutual love is easy. Sometimes it requires work, but constant work is exhausting. A relationship shouldn't be a burden; it's a beautiful blessing that two people want to give to one another.

There is something so beautiful about you.

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There is something beautiful about you

And it makes me want to hide

You see, before there was ever a ‘you’

I had a lot of pride.


I promised myself that next time jealousy would not take over me

So when it arises, I run

And when I run, I leave you behind


I see you. I see you trying to pull me in.

But I don’t know what you are pulling me in to.

A healthy relationship or a game?

It’s hard to tell because I am not good at winning.


I’m used to giving my all and having it being taken from me.

Right under my feet.

I’m used to crying next to a bottle of wine

and wondering how any of it could’ve been.


So, I find myself questioning if this is different?

Could you be the one that they say you are?

It could all make sense until one day...

It doesn’t.


I’ve felt the jealousy, anger, betrayal, rage, passion and good sex.

Show me how we can rise above this time

So that you don’t become just another ex.


Show me that they were right about you.

And, that it was always meant to be you.

Because on my end I have no idea what to do.


Maybe I’ll keep running every time that we make eye contact, out of fear.

Or, maybe one day, I will pull you near.

Ce que j'aurais aimé savoir avant ma première rupture

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Lors de ma première rupture, je me rappelle avoir eu l'impression d'avoir échoué. Se sentir confus par le fait que j'aimais tellement quelqu'un, mais que rien de bon n'était sorti de nous ensemble pendant un moment. Je me sentais épuisé par le drame et le chagrin.

Je ne pense pas que j'aurais résisté au changement inévitable si j'avais entendu ce qui suit avant ma première rupture:

1. Vous serez OK.

Au milieu de chagrin d'amour, il est très facile de penser que la vie sans la personne que vous aimez ne vaut pas la peine d'être vécue, mais c'est complètement faux. Vous étiez en vie avant de rencontrer cette personne et vous serez en vie après que cette personne ait quitté votre vie. Parfois, les émotions que l'amour peut vous faire passer semblent écrasantes, mais elles passent et un jour elles seront un souvenir.

2. Il y a trop de personnes en vie pour être coincées avec quelqu'un qui n'est pas sur la même page.

Une fois que vous avez donné à quelqu'un beaucoup d'efforts et d'amour, il semble difficile de s'en aller. On pourrait avoir l'impression que tout ce temps était un gaspillage. Cependant, ce qui est un véritable gaspillage est de donner à quelqu'un votre amour et vos efforts qui ne le veulent pas. Il y a quelqu'un, parmi des milliards de personnes en vie, qui veut et qui acceptera votre amour.

3. Si cela est censé être, ce sera.

Forcer les choses à travailler ne les rendra pas. Combattre et nier la vérité autour de vous ne vous épuise et vous laisse déçu. Vous serez plus content si vous acceptez des choses pour ce qu'elles sont. Travailler contre les forces de la réalité ne vous aidera pas à réaliser quelque chose de progressif.

4. L'autre personne a aussi son mot à dire.

Deux personnes forment une relation, pas une! Si votre partenaire veut sortir, il veut sortir. Vous ne pouvez pas changer sa décision. Parfois, cela peut nuire à votre ego quand quelqu'un décide de partir ou de rompre avec vous, mais il y a tellement de fois que vous pouvez convaincre quelqu'un d'aimer sans que vous ayez l'air fou.

5. "Derrière le rejet est la protection de Dieu."

C'est l'un de mes dictons préférés car c'est tellement vrai! Le plus tôt quelqu'un vous dit que vous n'êtes pas ce qu'il veut, plus vite vous pouvez aller de l'avant et trouver quelqu'un qui vous dira que vous êtes.

6. Le drame ne dure que tant que vous le permettez.

Oui, les ruptures peuvent être désordonnées et dramatiques, mais seulement si vous leur permettez d'être ainsi. Vous êtes le seul à pouvoir laisser le petit drame derrière vous si vous voulez le laisser derrière vous. Si vous voulez le drame, restez-y! Si vous ne le faites pas, laissez tomber! Cela peut sembler difficile à laisser aller, mais ce qui est plus difficile, c'est de se laisser abattre par des drames inutiles qui ne mènent à rien de positif.

 

What I wish I knew before my first break-up

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During my first breakup, I remember feeling like I'd failed. Feeling confused by the fact that I loved someone so much but nothing good had come out of us being together for a while. I felt exhausted by drama and heartache.

I don't think I would have resisted the change that was inevitable if I had heard the following before my first breakup:

1. You'll be OK.

In the midst of heartache, it is very easy to think that life without the person you love is not worth living but that is completely untrue. You were alive before you met that person, and you'll be alive after that person leaves your life. Sometimes the emotions that love can put you through seem overwhelming, but they do pass, and one day they'll be a memory.

2. There are too many people alive to be stuck with someone that isn't on the same page.

Once you've given someone a lot of effort and love, it seems hard to walk away. It may feel like all of that time was all a waste. However, what is a true waste is giving someone your love and effort that doesn't want it. There's someone, out of billions of people alive, who wants and who will accept your love.

3. If it's meant to be, it will be.

Forcing things to work won't make them. Fighting and denying the truth around you only exhausts you and leaves you feeling disappointed. You'll be more content if you accept things for what they are. Working against the forces of reality won't help you achieve anything progressive.

4. The other person has a say too.

Two people make up a relationship, not one! If your partner wants out, he wants out. You can't change his decision. Sometimes it may hurt your ego when someone decides to leave or break up with you, but there are only so many times you can convince someone to love without you looking crazy.

5. "Behind rejection is God's protection."

This is one of my favorite sayings because it is so true! The sooner someone tells you that you aren't what he wants, the quicker you can move on and find someone who will tell you that you are.

6. The drama only goes on for as long as you allow it to go on.

Yes, breakups can be messy and dramatic, but only if you allow them to be that way. You're the only one who can leave the petty drama behind if you want to leave it behind. If you want the drama, stay in it! If you don't, let it go! It may seem hard to let it go, but what's harder is being run down by unnecessary drama that doesn't lead to anything positive.

5 cosas que le diría a todos mis Exes

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Cada vez que escucho una canción que solía escuchar cuando estaba en una relación, me lleva de vuelta. Y, a veces, la emoción me abruma. Muchas veces, me encuentro con ganas de llegar sabiendo que no es una buena idea. Entonces, en lugar de tender la mano, canalicé toda mi energía en este artículo. Poniendo mis pensamientos al papel y esperando nada a cambio. Esto es lo que le diría a todos mis ex novios:

 

1. Te amo

Sí todavía te quiero. El amor ha estado y siempre estará allí, se acaba de transformar. Si no fuéramos o estuviéramos destinados a serlo, es irrelevante para mí porque tuvimos nuestro tiempo. Aunque las relaciones no son eternas; amor es. Acepto nuestro espacio y siempre tendremos amor por ti.

 

2. Nadie ganó o perdió.

Pasé tanto tiempo enojado contigo y queriendo contarte uno sobre ti, solo para darme cuenta de que estaba perdiendo. Cuando no estamos en nuestro mejor momento, estamos perdiendo. El hecho de que hayamos decidido no estar juntos, no significa que una persona haya ganado o perdido, simplemente significa que ya era

tiempo.

 

3. Te deseo la vida más feliz que puedas tener.

Experimenté una serie de emociones contigo: de la tristeza a la felicidad y la alegría a la ira. Pero finalmente, estoy agradecido de poder haberlo hecho alguna vez. La mejor parte de mí reconoce la mejor parte de ti y la peor parte de mí envía la peor parte de tu amor. Eres luz y amor. Y, espero que estés viviendo en tu luz.

 

4. Lo siento.

Puedo ser muchas cosas, pero perfecto no es una de ellas. Mirando hacia atrás, me podría haber comportado mejor en muchas circunstancias y ahora que lo sé mejor, (con suerte) lo haré mejor. Lamento haber sido cruel, desconfiado, ruin y rencoroso por los tiempos que fui.

 

5. Estás perdonado.

Juré que nunca te diría estas palabras, pero el perdón es más para mí de lo que es para ti. Al igual que Nelson Mandela, dijo: "La falta de perdón es como beber veneno y esperar que la otra persona muera". Al no perdonarte, estaba bebiendo el veneno. Aprendí que si quiero progresar en la vida, no puedo seguir reviviendo el pasado y culpándote. Entonces, te perdono.

5 things that I wish I could tell all of my Ex’s.

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Whenever I hear a song that I used to listen to when I was in a relationship, it takes me right back. And, sometimes the emotion overwhelms me. Often times, I find myself wanting to reach out knowing that it is not a good idea. So, instead of reaching out, I channeled all my energy into this article.

Putting my thoughts to paper and expecting nothing in return.


This is what I would tell all of my ex-boyfriends:


1. I love you.

Yes, I still love you. The love has and will always be there, it has just transformed. If we weren’t or were meant to be, is irrelevant to me because we had our time. Although relationships are not eternal; love is. I accept our space and will always have love for you.


2. No one won or lost.

I spent so much time being angry at you and wanting to have one up on you, only to figure out that I was losing. Whenever we aren’t at our prime, we are losing. Just because we have decided not to be together, doesn’t mean that one person won or lost, it just means that it was time.


3. I wish you the happiest life you could ever have.

I experienced an array of emotions with you: from sadness to happiness and joy to anger. But ultimately, I am grateful that I ever could.

The best part of me acknowledges the best part of you and the worst part of me sends the worst part of you love. You are light and love. And, I hope you are living in your light.


4. I am sorry.
I may be many things but perfect is not one of them. Looking back, I could’ve behaved better in many circumstances and now that I know better, I (hopefully) will do better. I’m sorry for being unkind, untrusting, mean and spiteful for the times that I was.


5. You are forgiven.
I swore that I would never say these words to you but forgiveness is more for me than it is for you. Like Nelson Mandela said, ‘Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die’. By not forgiving you, I was drinking the poison. I learnt that if I want to progress in life, I cannot keep reliving the past and blaming you. So, I forgive you.

10 reasons why I will choose love, over and over.

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It’s difficult to stay open to love and believe in love but we have to. We have to because love is electricity that we ignited our veins. And, like Maya Angelou says, ‘Have enough courage to trust love one more time always and always.’


These are reason why I will always give love a chance:

1. Because love is fuel.

2. Because love is power.

3. Because love is connection.

4. Because nothing compares to true love.

5. Because love unites us.

6. Because love opens doors.

7. Because although loving can be hurtful, at least we have the memories.

8. Because love is freedom.

9. Because what is life without love?

10. Because love keeps us alive.

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