Looking back, I have always been able to see things that were only clear to the third eye and not the clear visible eye, I have always had deep intuition and knowing about certain things. However, this became more pronounced when I decided to embark on a spiritual journey of holistic health and emotional healing.

It has been an amazing journey and one that I would never take back. It has revealed a lot and mostly about who I am and that all the answers I have ever needed are within.

With that being said, the more I have gotten to know myself, the more that I have had to accept that not everyone is for me and I am not for everyone.

For my wellbeing, I have had to detach myself from certain people- not because anything is wrong with them; we are just on different paths.

Here are 4 types of people that I have had to avoid on my spiritual journey:

1. People who force me to be happy.

When I had my ultimate self-realization moment, I felt like I had to be perfect to fit into the spiritual community. You know the saying, ‘When you make plans, God laughs’? That is what comes to my mind when I think of how I used to pretend to be Holy and enlightened for others when I hadn’t addressed the full aspects of spirituality.

God’s love is truth and people who want you to ignore that don’t love you fully. I had to accept that not all people will understand my full spiritual journey and they don’t have to. But, it is not for my benefit or theirs to put on a fake smile all the time- I would be living a lie. The foundation of spiritual growth is awareness, not a coverup for others but so that I can be honest with myself and progress as a person.

2. People who talk about me behind my back.

One of my pet peeves is people who talk about you and not to you. I am a very in-your-face person and I don’t always get it right but I do my best to communicate to someone I know and not about them. As a collective, we have become too cowardly and it is having an effect on our fundamental pillars of truth. Sometimes, we would rather smile at someone than let them know we are not happy with them. It also doesn’t have to be the opposite extreme. We can communicate our truth with compassion and love.

Love is truth and if people can’t be honest with me then there is no room for them in my life because betrayal is a form of low vibrational energy. It won’t help anyone vibrate higher.

3. People who don’t listen.

One of the biggest lessons I have ever learnt is to listen. As a passionate person and someone who has a lot to say, it is not my forte and something I am always working on. When I started working on this skill, I noticed how few people actually listen to what you have to say.

Too many people want quick fixes for others in their life and love to be heard but don’t listen. Communication works both ways. If you are always talking and not allowing others to speak, you aren’t in a conversation, you are in a monologue with yourself.

4. People who gaslight me.

Have you ever left a conversation where you expressed how you felt from a place of concern and genuineness but, were met with energy that is non-supportive and combative? This is a form of gaslighting. And, it can be used for different reasons and in my ways.

Ultimately, when someone gaslights you, it makes you question what you know to be true. The kind of gaslighting I have recently come to acknowledge is in the spiritual and wellness world where if one speaks of something concerning or true, they are met with sayings like, ‘It will be fine’, ‘don’t let it bother you’ or ‘try to be grateful.’

We can be grateful and still be concerned about something that we need to change, the two can both be true. I don’t have to be happy all the time and I don’t have to be sad all the time. I choose to surround myself with people who aren’t trying to re-shape how I feel to make themselves feel better or control me. I choose to be around those who support me and I do the same for them.