A yoga playlist inspired by surrender and trust.

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Music is the soul of life. It allows us to come together and can raise your vibrations, allowing one to live in high vibrations- if we want. 


There has been new research that focuses on how music can elevate our levels of energy. Or, do the opposite of that. 


Here is our trust inspired playlist:

1. I am light- India.Arie.

2. Never mess with Sunday- Yppah.

3. Gooey- Glass Animals. 

4. You- Petit Biscuit. 

5. Suited- Shekhinah.

6. Retrograde- James Blake.

7. Antidote- Morcheeba. 

8. Buscó me- Bebe.

9. Always in my head- India.Arie

10. Orange Sky- Alexi Murdoch. 

4 Things that traveling alone has taught me- by Diana Athena.

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My whole life I have been so attached to people around me: my romantic partners, my friends and my family. So much so that I never really took the chance to understand or even to explore what I wanted for myself. 

Traveling in a group was a big part of it for all the obvious reasons like splitting travels costs and having someone to keep me company because I felt secure with others, letting them make choices and decisions for me.

Until one day, I realized that by doing so I was depending on the people that I travel with.

In September 2016, I took my first solo getaway. I made a leap and booked the trip. I can’t say that it was an easy decision; but, it certainly was the right one. That time away was the best quality time I have ever spent with myself. 

Ever since then, I have become very careful in choosing a traveling buddy and I always consider traveling alone being the best time spent with me. 


Here are a few things traveling solo has helped me understand: 

1. Being in a new environment clears the mind

Having a routine is comforting and knowing your neighborhood, your hometown can feel safe and secure. But a lot of time worrying about the same problems can also become a part of a monotonous routine, leaving no space for change in thoughts and patterns. That’s when traveling can come in handy. Better yet, traveling solo! Nothing clears one’s mind better than new surroundings, a push to solve new challenges and figure out new ways. The mind simply has no room or energy to loop around what seemed like a problem if it’s occupied and overwhelmed by figuring out all new sensory overload from the new exciting world. 

 

2. Traveling requires an element of surrender, going with the flow. 

It is likely that things may not be the same way as they are where you live. You won’t have access to your favorite supermarket or your regular cup of a bedtime tea.This may become uncomfortable if you are used to and like controlling your experiences (not to mention flight delays or unwanted traffic). However, try considering those things as a part of the adventure. This can be an opportunity to fill up that empty space with something new or do something that you have been holding off doing, like listening to that podcast you didn’t have time for.

 

3.It is important to keep an open and curious mind.

You can always find reasons to not like something and to stick with what seems familiar. However, it takes more courage to accept risks of new experiences, but that is also the only way to expand your perspective. 

 

4. You have to take full responsibility for your emotions/experiences.

Being with myself has truly helped me to get in touch with my own feelings as emotions can be contagious when we share them. While traveling with a partner, it is easy to express certain feelings to find approval/support. It also becomes easy to adopt your partner’s opinions as your own if you spend a lot of time together. However, when you are the only one making choices and conclusions about your experiences, you have plenty of room to be honest about the emotional coloring of your experiences. For me, that is the best way of getting to know myself better. Because I don’t have to worry about anyone else, so the only question remains is what do I want/experience/feel. 

12 Meer dinge wat ek seker weet.

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Al weet ek dat ek baie geleer het, is daar nog meer om te leer. Ek is vasbeslote om tyd te neem om na te dink oor iets  wat tyd nodig het om na terug te kyk.



Dus, voordat ek meer leer, is dit my pouse-knoppie. Die kans is dat ek 'n paar dinge wat ek seker weet, erken:



1. As ek iemand anders vra om my lief te hê, moet ek myself eers liefhê.



2. Soms beteken liefde om meer van iemand te vra.



3. Eenvoudig is nie maklik nie, maar dikwels waar ons almal moet begin.



4. Wees getrou aan u drome en wat u moet doen om dit te laat gebeur.



5. Mense kom en gaan, maar jy sal altyd bly.



6. Wie is beter om jou lief te hê as jy?



7. Is u genoeg sonder u telefoon, huis, motor, geld, titel of status?



8. Soms beteken liefde om te laat vaar om iemand te dwing om te verander en hulle te aanvaar vir wie hulle is. Skep dan afstand sodat dit jou nie beïnvloed nie en waarin jy glo nie.



9. 'n Baie goeie, gelukkige lewe met moraliteit, vriendelikheid en waardes is gratis.



10. Mense wat in 'behoort' te leef, leef in die verlede.



11. Alles wat waardevol is in die lewe, insluitend welstand, verg werk en moeite.



12. Om oor iets te doen en dit te doen is twee verskillende

12 More things that I know for sure.

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Even though I know that I have learnt a lot, there is still more to learn. I am a firm-believer of taking the time to reflect upon something(s) that might need time to look back on.


So, before I learn more, this my pause button. A chance where I get to acknowledge a few things I know for sure: 


1. If I ask someone else to love me, I need to love myself first. 


2. Sometimes love means asking more from someone. 


3. Simple is not easy but often where all of us need to start. 


4. Be true to your dreams and what you need to do to make them happen. 


5. People come and go but you will always remain. 


6. Who better to love you than you? 


7. Without your phone, house, car, money, title or status, are you enough? 


8. Sometimes love means letting go of forcing someone to change and accepting them for who they are. Then, creating distance so that it doesn’t affect you and what you believe in. 


9. A really good, happy life with morality, kindness and values is free. 


10. People who live in ‘should’ve’ are living in the past. 


11. Everything valuable in life, including wellbeing, takes work and effort. 


12. Talking about doing something and doing it, is two different

3 Formas de negatividad que debes dejar si quieres vivir una vida más feliz y mejor.

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Todos hemos estado en una situación o alrededor de una persona que quería llevarte a su vibración negativa, nivel de energía. Todos hemos experimentado los celos, la ira, la inseguridad, el resentimiento o la venganza de otra persona y deseamos no estar separados de eso.

De hecho, todos hemos sido los que enviamos estas bajas vibraciones. La mayoría de las veces, sin siquiera darnos cuenta de que los estamos enviando.

Lo bueno de nuestras vidas es que tenemos la oportunidad de elegir la vida que queremos. A través de los hábitos de reentrenamiento, los pensamientos y los sistemas de creencias, podemos elevar nuestras vibraciones, manifestar nuestros sueños y vivir nuestras mejores vidas. Esto solo es posible a través de la elección, elecciones diarias que nos alinean con nuestro poder superior.

Aquí hay 3 formas de negatividad que debes dejar si quieres vivir una vida mejor y más positiva:

1. Inseguridad.

Solía ser muy inseguro, a veces todavía lo soy. Solía querer que otras personas tuvieran, lucir como se ve alguien más o decirme a mí mismo que no era digno porque era quien soy. Suena triste, lo sé; Sin embargo, la mayoría de la gente piensa así. Vivimos en un mundo de constantes comparaciones y una sociedad en la que rara vez nos hablamos amablemente, nos motivamos y nos elevamos. Hace unos años, decidí amarme más día a día porque estar en guerra conmigo solo me estaba deprimiendo. En lugar de mirarme al espejo y criticar quién era yo; Elegí apreciarme por lo que soy. No fue fácil pero valió la pena. Ahora entiendo completamente que ser inseguro solo atrae más inseguridad y negatividad en mi vida. Cuando soy amoroso y confiado, un mundo de felicidad está abierto y listo para que lo explore.

2. La necesidad de tomar y no dar.

Otro aspecto negativo de nuestra cultura es que antes de dar, queremos tomar. Creo que esta es la mentalidad más repugnante que podemos tener, ya que afecta todo en nuestra vida. Cuando entramos en una situación que busca obtener, levantamos la guardia y luego el verdadero amor, el respeto y la amabilidad salen por la ventana. Muchos de nosotros estamos alimentados con la idea de que no hay suficiente para todos, pero esto es una mentira. Una de las formas tóxicas más grandes de pensar es que lo que está destinado a mí está destinado a otra persona. Si trabajas lo suficiente, das lo suficiente, amas lo suficiente, disfrutas lo suficiente y vives a tu máximo potencial, entonces lo que significa para ti definitivamente te encontrará. Por lo tanto, no hay necesidad de luchar por ello ni de quitárselo a otra persona.

3. Miedo.

El miedo puede ser muchas cosas y podría ser el paraguas sobre los dos temas anteriores. Sin embargo, cuando menciono el miedo en este párrafo, me refiero a tener miedo de expandir sus horizontes debido a lo negativo que podría suceder. Si piensas en nuestras vidas, más bien está sucediendo que no. Estás vivo, tienes aliento, eres capaz, eres capaz, eres suficiente, has hecho lo suficiente ... en última instancia, todo funciona para tu bien. Asegúrate de hacer lo mismo y de alinearte con la elevación y la intención

3 Ways of negativity that you need to let go of if you want to live a better and more positive way of life.

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We’ve all been in a situation or around a person that wanted to bring you down to their negative vibration, energy level. We’ve all experienced someone else’s jealousy, rage, insecurity, resentment or vengefulness and wished that we weren’t apart of it. 


In fact, we have all been the ones who have sent these low vibrations out. Most of the time, without even realizing that we are sending them out. 


What’s so great about our lives, is that we have the chance to choose the life that we want. Through re-training habits, thoughts and belief systems, we can raise our vibrations, manifest our dreams and live our best lives. This is only possible through choice, daily choices that align us to our higher power. 


Here are 3 ways of negativity that you need to let go of if you want to live a better and more positive way of life:


1. Insecurity

I used to be very insecure, sometimes I still am. I used to want other people have, look the way that someone else looks or, tell myself that I wasn’t worthy because I was who I am. Sounds sad I know; however, most people think like this. We live in a World of constant comparisons and a society where we rarely speak kindly to each other, motivate each other and lift one another up. A few years ago, I decided to love myself more day-by-day because being at war with myself was only bringing me down. Instead of looking in the mirror and criticizing who I was; I chose to appreciate myself for who I am. It wasn’t easy but it was all worth it. I now fully understand that being insecure only attracts more insecurity and negativity into my life. When I am loving and confident, a world of happiness is open and ready for me to explore. 


2. The need to take and not give.

Another negative aspect of our culture is that before we give, we want to take. I believe that this is the most sickening mindset that we can have, as it affects everything in our life. When we go into a situation looking to get, we put up our guard and then true love, respect and kindness go out of the window. Many of us are fed the idea that there is not enough to go around but, this is a lie. One of the biggest toxic ways of thinking is that what is meant for me is meant for someone else. If you work hard enough, give enough, love enough, enjoy enough and live to your fullest potential then, what is meant for you will definitely find you. So, there is no need to fight for it or take it from somebody else.


3. Fear. 

Fear can be many things and could be the umbrella above the two previous topics. However, when I mention fear in this paragraph, I am elaborating upon being afraid to expand your horizons because of a negative that might happen. If you think of our lives, more right is going on than not. You are alive, you have breath, you are capable, you are able, you are enough, you have done enough... ultimately, everything is working for your good. Make sure that you are doing the same and aligning yourself with elevation and intention. 

Dear God, I’m sorry (A prayer of hope).

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Dear God


I am sorry for falling into the trap of negativity that was set up by me listening to what he (my former partner) had to say about me. W’s expression towards me hurt because I feel like it is not valid. I know that I am not heartless and one who is constantly seeking attention. So, to hear the opposite of that hurt me deeply. 


Thank you for this experience because I am learning two very important things: that if I really believe that I am better off without him, now is the time to prove it, and that my life is worth living in happiness, peace, respect and abundance. Anything that doesn’t fall within those boundaries, I want to leave behind. 


God, please help me call on The Angels that I need to get through this difficult time. This period is one where people who have hurt me think that they deserve me. Please give me the strength to prove to myself and be a testimony that I am worthy of what I truly want, a World of abundance. With that, a partner who treats me as an equal. 


I ask for all the courage that I need to walk into ‘The Unknown’ because I can feel that where I am headed is better than where I came from. 


I believe in a life of prosperity, hope, joy and strength. Please help me get there. 


Amen,

5 Ways to stay inspired everyday by Diana Athena.

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Five Ways to Stay Inspired.

 

I am a fiery person so, I get inspired and motivated quickly. And then, I dive right into doing what I need to, to get it done. Working, chasing after what you want, getting things done- these are all great qualities to have. However, unfortunately, that first feeling of huge inspiration can sometimes start fading away, over time. Especially if we are talking about long time goals which require patience and consistency. And, sometimes it can become very hard to stay committed to what seemed like pure magic in the beginning. 


Through years of practice and self-awareness, I have found a few strategies which help me to stay with the flow of motivation. I would love to share these, and hope that you will be able to catch that inspiration and make it a part of your working process. 


Inspiration can not be forced, but it can be carefully tended to. I hope those simple tricks will help you to stay motivated on your journey:

 

1. Break long term goals into smaller steps.

Long-term goals can be overwhelming. Not only is it hard to believe that they are achievable, but it is also very hard to find the right path towards them and to see the bigger picture. I found it helpful to break the big goal into a few smaller steps first. For example, what would be the first step towards that thing you really want? It may be buying a laptop if you are planning to write a book or taking an additional course to learn more about business managing, if you are looking to start your own company. 

 

2. Celebrate and acknowledge your victories.

Congratulations! You are one step closer to your goal, this is a big deal! You put in the work and you have made it happen and you should give yourself credit for it. My biggest mistake has always been thinking that I haven’t done enough. While driving myself crazy with it and waiting for someone else’s approval. But, the fact is I am my own best judge. If I don’t give myself credit for the work I have put in, no-one else will notice it. So, the next time you have a spare five-to-ten minutes, find and acknowledge things you have already done so that you can you can be proud of yourself. 

 

3. Give yourself time.


Just as much as it is important to work hard, it is important to give yourself time to rest. Change is overwhelming and even if it is getting you closer to your finish line, it is important to give yourself time to rest and recharge in order to receive the benefits of the work you’ve put in. Stepping aside for a little while can also give you a clearer view at your work and result in fresh ideas. 


4. Create a routine

As clichéd as it may sound, setting up a routine is incredibly helpful. We all have busy lives and sometimes things can get in the way. Finding  exciting stuff like spending time with friends and discovering new relationships, with the addition of demanding and overwhelming events like problems with family or health issues. However your busy schedule may look, it is important to still find time and space for your commitment. Not only will it keep you accountable, but it may also help to keep you grounded. So go ahead and set aside that important time a day that you will spend working on achieving your goals and make it your routine. 

 

5. Set up your working space

Get creative with your working space. Bring on all the crazy ideas! Print out pictures of people who inspire you, display your work that makes you proud, burn some candles or sage or use essential oils, buy some fresh flowers or, get a plant. There are so many ways to make put an imprint on your space, regardless of whether it’s your office, home or a shared space. The main goal is to use what you like, what will keep you motivated and to create a space where you would want to spend your time. 

 

Ce dont chaque zodiac astrologique a besoin pour devenir plus émotionnellement évolué.

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L'astrologie est l'une des premières formes de science traditionnelle, elle est basée sur la manière dont l'Univers est aligné dans un moment particulier. Bien que je ne sois pas un astrologue, c'est une de mes passions. Un que j'ai passé de nombreuses heures à étudier.



De temps en temps, j'écris des articles sur l'astrologie. Cette fois, c’est comment chaque signe peut évoluer émotionnellement en fonction de son placement dans le zodiaque.



Voici comment votre signe peut évoluer vers un personnel plus équilibré, émotionnellement:




1. Capricorne - Pour libérer le besoin de contrôler.
2. Verseau - Écouter les émotions des autres sans les forcer à agir face à un problème particulier.
3. Poissons - Pour voir les situations des deux côtés, pas seulement les vôtres.
4. Bélier - Abandonner la nécessité d'être le centre d'attention.
5. Taureau - Pour être plus ouvert d'esprit.
6. Gemini - Pour méditer ou penser quand vous êtes en colère ou contrarié.
7. Cancer - Pour baisser la garde.
8. Léo - Pour aligner tes vies avec bonheur.
9. Vierge - Pour accepter plus que les gens.
10. Balance - Pour pratiquer l'équilibre de l'intérieur, d'abord.
11. Scorpion - Prendre la responsabilité de vos émotions ou sentiments intenses.
12. Sagittaire - Laisser les autres diriger aussi.

What each zodiac needs to be emotionally evolved.

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Astrology is one of the first forms of traditional science, it is based on how The Universe is aligned in a particular moment. Although I am not an Astrologer, it is a deep passion of mine. One that I have spent many hours studying. 


Every once-in-while, I write articles about astrology. This time, it is how each sign can emotionally evolve based upon their zodiac placement. 


Here is how your sign can progress into a more balanced personal, emotionally: 



1. Capricorn- To release the need to control. 
2. Aquarius- To listen to others’ emotions without forcing them to take action about a concern.
3. Pisces- To see situations from both sides, not only yours.
4. Aries- To let go of the need to be the center of attention. 
5. Taurus- To be more open-minded. 
6. Gemini- To meditate  or think when you’re angry or upset. 
7. Cancer- To let your guard down. 
8. Leo- To align your lives with happiness. 
9. Virgo- To be more accepting of how people are. 
10. Libra- To practice balance from within, first. 
11. Scorpio- To take responsibility for your intense emotions or feelings. 
12. Sagittarius- To let others lead, too.



Izinto ezi-3 engizifundile mayelana nobudoda obunobuthi.

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Ngesonto eledlule, ngangiprakthiza i-yoga esitishini seyoga yendawo futhi owesilisa wabeka umatilasi wakhe phambi kwami, lapho kunesikhala esiningi eduze kwami. Lokhu kungivimbele ukuthi ngizibone ezibukweni zangaphambili- ezinye iziteshi ze-yoga zinezibuko ngaphambili ukuze ukwazi ukulungisa ngokwakho ukuqondanisa kwakho ekilasini.

Ngenkathi lo omunye uzakwabo eqala ukuzilolonga, wayelokhu engibheka kulo lonke lelo klasi ukuze ngimbone. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngangifuna ukuhamba kepha ngabe sengikhumbula esinye sezifundo ezinkulu kakhulu engizifundayo. Ukuthi, ubudoda obukhulu kakhulu kumuntu budala ubuthi ezimpilweni zabo. Uhlupheka nje.

Uma sicabanga amandla wesilisa, sihlobanisa nobulili. Kodwa-ke, sonke (ngamandla) senziwe ngobudoda nangowesifazane. Ukuba nokuningi kokunye kukwakha ukungalingani kithi ngokwethu, impilo kanye noMhlaba. Kwifilosofi yasempumalanga, bakholelwa ukuthi ibhalansi inokulingana phakathi kwamandla wesilisa nowesifazane.

Ngakho-ke, lokhu akwenzelwe amadoda kuphela. Abesifazane nabo bafakiwe.

Yilokhu engisanda kufunda ngakho mayelana nobudoda obunobuthi:

1. Kungakhathala.

Muva nje ngiphumelele ekuphumeni kahle. Ngenkathi sihlukana, ngasola mina futhi ngamthukuthelela ngokuphila ngamandla anobuthi besilisa. Ukusola kwami njalo kuye akuzange kuzwakale kulungile ngoba ngifundile futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ukuze ngiqhubekele phambili, kumele ngizisebenzele. Ngabaza ukuthi ngidonsela kanjani umuntu onje empilweni yami. Ngesikhathi ngimbonisa empilweni yami, ngangikhathalele imali. Ukwenza imali, ukwakha amabhizinisi ami nokwakha ikusasa. Okuyikho, kusebenza.

Kodwa-ke, lapho sichitha isikhathi esiningi emalini, emsebenzini nakwenza, siphila kuphela emandleni ethu wesilisa. Ibhalansi idalwa ngokuthatha isikhathi sethu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, siyozikhathala.

2. Kwenza ukuzithiba.

Wake wambona umuntu onenkani futhi onamandla, ofuna ukuthatha yonke into futhi enobunzima bokuthatha izeluleko kwabanye? Uma une, akuwena wedwa. Ngisanda kuvumela umuntu othile empilweni yami ofaka lezi zimpawu.

Isizathu sami esikhulu sokuqeda ubudlelwane bethu ukuthi, abantu abanenkani, abaqhutshwa yi-Ego futhi abahlangabezana nobunzima bokuhamba, badale izinkinga ezimpilweni zabo nakwezinye izimpilo zabanye abantu ngoba imvamisa kungumuntu osendleleni yabo. Kuze kube yilapho bafunda ukuyeka, zinikele, babe nozwela futhi babe nokuthula ngokwabo, akukho lutho ongabenzela khona. Kungithathe ukuthi ngifunde le mfundo kaninginingi kodwa, ekugcineni ngiyifundile.

3. lonakalisa ubudlelwane.

Kunezikhathi eziningi kuphela ukuthi ungaba ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophila ngokuyinhloko kumandla abo wesilisa kuze kube yilapho uqala ukuzizwa egijimile, ebalekela phansi futhi kungathi udinga ukuvikeleka ngoba ubudoda obukhulu kakhulu bungadala ukuhlukunyezwa ku ukubambisana.

Ukuze ube nokuxhumana okunempilo nomunye, umuntu kufanele azimisele ukuvuma lapho ziye zazwisa umuntu ubuhlungu. Okungukuthi, uma umuntu ehlala kubesilisa babo, uzothola ubunzima bokwenza. Ubuningi bendoda ngokuvamile bubangela abantu bacabange ukuthi bazi konke nokuthi bahlala beqinisile, okuyinto engenakwenzeka. Wonke umuntu uyakhula, uyafunda futhi lapho siqala ukucabanga ngenye indlela kulapho sicindezela abantu kude nokungazinaki kwethu nezenzo zethu zobugovu

3 Things that I have learnt about toxic masculinity.

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Last week, I was practicing yoga at a local yoga studio and a man placed his mat right in front of mine, when there was a lot of space around me. This prevented me from seeing myself in the front mirrors- some yoga studios have mirrors in the front so that you can correct your own alignment during class. 


As this fellow practitioner began to practice, he kept looking at me throughout class so that I would notice him. At one point, I wanted to leave but then I remembered one of the biggest lessons that I am learning. That, too much masculinity within a person creates toxicity in their lives. He is merely suffering. 


When we think of masculine energy, we associate it with gender. However, all of us (energetically) are made of masculine and feminine. Having more of one creates imbalance in ourselves, life and The World. In eastern philosophy, they believe that balance is having equilibrium between masculine and feminine energy. 


So, this is not only for men. Women are included too. 


This is what I have recently learnt about toxic masculinity: 


1. It can be tiring. 

I recently went through a well-needed break-up. When we broke up, I blamed him and was angry at him for living in his toxic masculine energy. My continual blame towards him didn’t feel right because I have learnt and know that to move forward, I must work on myself. I questioned how I attracted someone like this into my life. At the time that I manifested him into my life, I was concerned with money. Making money, building my businesses and creating a future. Which, is valid. 


However, when we spend too much time on money, work and action, we live only in our masculine energy. Balance is created by taking time for ourselves. Otherwise, we will tire ourselves out. 


2. It creates self-sabotage.

Have you ever come across someone who is so stubborn & forceful, who wants to take on everything and has difficulty taking advice from others? If you have, you are not the only one. I recently let go of someone in my life who embodies these characteristics. 


My ultimate reason for ending our relationship was that, people who are headstrong, Ego-driven and have difficulties letting go, create problems in their own lives and other people’s lives because they are usually the person who is in their own way. Until they learn to let go, surrender, be compassionate and be at peace with themselves, there is nothing that you can do for them. It has taken me learning this lesson over and over but, I have finally learnt it. 


3. It ruins relationships

There are only so many times that you can be in a relationship with someone who is living primarily in their masculine energy until you start to feel run-over, run-down and as though you need protection because too much masculinity can create abusive behaviour in a partnership. 


In order to have a healthy connection with another, one must be willing to admit when they have caused someone pain. Which, if someone is living in their masculine, will find difficulty doing. An abundance of masculinity usually causes people to think that they know everything and that they are always right, which is impossible. Everyone is growing, learning and when we start to think otherwise is when we push people away with our negativity and selfish actions. 



12 Reasons to forgive myself.

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I once heard forgiveness to mean, ‘giving up the hope that things turned out differently.’ I firmly believe in forgiveness as it is one of the foundational bricks in building a stable house of unconditional love, with ourselves and others. 


I recently noticed that I had been forgiving others and forgetting to forgive myself. 


So, it is time to forgive, again. I forgive myself because: 


1. I am human and I will mess up. 


2. I am not meant to be perfect. 


3. Sometimes I can be crazy, mean, selfish, rude, inconsiderate, vengeful, resentful and unkind but I am working everyday to be a better person. 


4. Having negative traits doesn’t make me a bad person. 


5. Everyday I am a different person and I want to embrace who I am today. 


6. In forgiving myself, I can forgive others. 


7. Unconditional love begins with me. 


8. Projection and blaming others is stifling. 


9. Internal growth begins with me. 


10. The past has already happened and I can’t do anything but apologize where necessary. 


11. I forgive because now that I know better, I will do better. 


12. I choose to remove anything in the way of my happiness. 

3 Commonly used spiritual phrases that cannot be applied to everything and everyone.

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You could argue that everyday, more and people are becoming spiritual and waking up to a deeper awareness of themselves and why they are placed on This World. 


With the growth in interest of spirituality recently , we are looking to certain people to guide us. Which, is great! However, we need to remember that spiritual leaders and healers are a part of an industry, too. And, just like with other groups that market towards a specific demographic, a few people and ideologies tend to dominate over the majority. 


With that being mentioned, certain spiritual phrases have become catchy and are being used for everything. When that is not how spirituality works. Spirituality is not a one-stop shop where we state a phrase and then continue living like robots, it is all encompassing and based on compassion, understanding and love. 


Here are 4 commonly used phrases that cannot be applied to everything: 


1. Everyone is doing their best


The human (in me) who has tried their best to be a better person agrees with this statement; however, the side of me that has previously (and still) been given information but continued to do something that wasn’t for my benefit over-and-over again, would disagree. Yes, some people are doing their best but, some aren’t. My best is not someone else’s best. But, that doesn’t mean that I can see when someone isn’t. Sometimes we sell ourselves short. We might have all the information, money and tools that we need to improve but continue to live as though we don’t. Sometimes, we get in our own ways and we need reminders that we are capable of doing better than continually sabotaging our future. 


2. Everything that happens to you is a reflection of you. 


I completely understand the foundation of this phrase, that every situation is a chance to look within ourselves and see how we could’ve contributed to a situation. However, try telling someone who has been sexually harassed, raped or abused that what has happened to them is their fault. It comes across as insincere and lacks compassion, which is the foundation of spirituality. Yes! Most situations have required our participation but sometimes things happen to people and it’s more about supporting them and guiding them to the light. As opposed to unintentionally blaming them because you heard a catchy spiritual phrase that you need to repeat to someone else. 


3. What you focus on expands


As a daughter of two Scientists, this phrase is one of my favourites. It allows us to take charge of our lives and reminds us that we have power over our lives. The only contradiction of using this phrase for everything in our life is a similar one to the last paragraph, what if a predator seeks you out, stalks you and then follows you for extended period of time? Which, recently happened to me. I am certainly not a victim and in-control of my life; however, mentioning this phrase to someone who has gone through what I have been through, or a similar situation, can be callous. It is subconsciously blaming the person that it has happened to. 


I firmly believe in the power of focus; however, sometimes things happen to people that they were not expecting to happen. These situations could have happened to someone for them to learn a lesson, to grow or to lead them to another circumstance- not just because they were energetically focusing on something. 

Les 12 types de personnes avec qui je choisis de m'entourer.

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J'ai récemment traversé une transformation interne sérieuse où j'ai dû réévaluer mes actions, où j'aimerais être dans le futur et qui vient avec moi dans ce voyage.

Je n'ai aucune animosité ni haine envers ceux que j'ai choisi de laisser derrière moi. Le processus de transformation m'a permis de voir clairement qui je garde dans ma vie et j'ai décidé, en allant de l'avant, que je voulais être entouré de ce genre de personnes:

1. Des gens gentils

2. Les personnes qui réfléchissent sur leur comportement.

3. Les gens qui sont heureux pour eux-mêmes.

4. Les gens qui sont heureux pour moi.

5. Les gens qui soutiennent.

6. Les gens qui sont honnêtes.

7. Les gens qui sont ouverts.

8. Les gens qui sont authentiques.

9. Les gens qui ont des motivations sincères.

10. Les gens qui sont respectueux.

11. Les personnes qui écoutent en premier et parlent ensuite.

12. Les gens qui pensent que l'amour est tout aussi important, sinon plus, que l'argent.

The 12 Kinds of people that I choose to surround myself with.

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I recently went through a serous internal transformation where I had to re-evaluate my actions, where I would like to be in the future and who is coming with me on this journey. 


I have no animosity or hate towards those who I have chosen to leave behind. The process of transformation has allowed me to see clearly who I keep in my life and I have decided, moving forward, that I want to be surrounded by these kind of people: 


1. Kind people


2. People who reflect on their behaviour. 


3. People who are happy for themselves. 


4. People who are happy for me. 


5. People who are supportive. 


6. People who are honest. 


7. People who are open. 


8. People who are genuine. 


9. People who have sincere motives. 


10. People who are respectful. 


11. People who listen first and then speak. 


12. People who think that love is just as important, if not more important, than money. 



4 of The Biggest lessons that I have learnt growing up in South Africa.

Photo by Mpumelelo Macu.   This Article is dedicated to my late Grandfather, Anthony ‘Spabo’ Sithebe.

Photo by Mpumelelo Macu.

This Article is dedicated to my late Grandfather, Anthony ‘Spabo’ Sithebe.

Although I was born in New York, I identify completely with being South African because I was mostly raised there. And even though, my family’s heritage is not completely Southern African, I identify mostly with this culture and what it has offered me and The World. 


I will start with this, not one country is perfect because a country is made up of people and in any group of people, there is diversity. Different minds, bodies and souls that congregate together and unite. 


Although, South Africa may have some problems, I am very fortunate to have had grown up in this country. I currently live in Los Angeles, a place that I love; however, my heart will always be in Africa, no matter where I go because (this continent) leaves an impression so deep in your heart that you can never escape it once you have travelled to it. 


These are 4 of the best lessons that I learnt growing up in South Africa. 


1. Ubuntu (togetherness). 


Ubuntu is a word that is a loose translation to mean togetherness and connection. We are raised to believe that this is first before anything else. Practicing Ubuntu, reminds us that people are valuable and no money, job or house can replace the connection that you can develop with another person. Togetherness is above race, religion, ideologies and currency- it is based on humanity and what is in your heart. 


2. Forgiveness


Africa is a continent that is resilient. It is the most colonized continent and has had the most of its riches taken from it. But when you visit this continent, you will meet the kindest, friendliest and most genuine people that you have ever met in your life because we are raised to forgive. The rest of The World may see this as weakness; however, this mentality has taught me that if you want to take my money, my materials and steal from me, take it! You can take anything from me but my joy and my peace- the two most important things in life.


3. Strength


Having been born into a family of two parents who are both Scientists, one of them who was a Political Activist and wanted by The Apartheid South African government, I have seen first hand what strength and belief can do. I am so proud of my parents, who were raised in Soweto, and went on to achieve some of the most incredible things in This World. They have been examples to me of what is around you is not the end. If you believe in yourself and a dream, that belief is stronger than anything else that you might encounter along the way because once you achieve it, you will have forgotten about anything that you had to encounter along the way. 


4.  Hakuna Matata


You might be familiar with this phrase from The Lion King, which is an actual fable from Southern Africa. In loose translation, it means no worries ever. Which Africa (as a whole) embodies. Yes, everyone has problems but once you start listing your problems, the list can go on-and-on forever. Problems are a part of our daily lives but how we look at them and what we do with them can make them into worries. And when we worry, we are the most affected by our worries by anyone else. This saying has taught me that if you can’t do anything about something, let it go. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not stressed over

12 Ways to Protect your Light.

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When we start to raise our vibration, it is important to protect the work that you have done in becoming a higher-vibrating being. 


When I was younger, I used to think that the more light that I developed, the more light that I had to give to others. Which (in theory) sounds great but in practice can be tiring. 


I have learnt that each of us are responsible for our own light. Yes! We can be influenced but our internal work is up to us. 


Here are 12 ways to protect your light


1. Acknowledging and accepting your truth. 


2. Standing in your truth. 


3. Aligning your chakras. 


4. Meditation. 


5. Prayer. 


6. Saying no to things and people that suck your energy. 


7. Saying yes to things and people that elevate your existence. 


8. Rest when it is time to rest.


9. Appropriate crystals. 


10. Cleansing, internal and external. 


11. Almost-daily physical movement. 


12. Practicing gratitude, abundance and seeing the silver-lining in situations. 

I looked in the mirror and found…ME.

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I looked in the mirror 

And discovered beauty. 


I looked in the mirror 

And found a story.


I looked in the mirror 

And saw magic.



I looked in the mirror

And said sorry. 


I looked in the mirror And found forgiveness.



I looked in the mirror 

And I smiled. 


I looked in the mirror

And I fell in love. 


I looked in the mirror 

And I made some promises to have boundaries. 


I looked in the mirror 

And I laughed. 


I looked in the mirror 

And I understood. 


I looked in the mirror 

And I felt complete.

I looked in the mirror

And I found me.

12 Things that I would rather be other than skinny.

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We see the word ‘skinny’ everywhere: Try a pill to make you skinny, try a particular diet to make you skinny or even, try drinking some potions/teas to make you skinny. The list goes on and on. 


In our desperate effort to be skinny, we forget about the amazing things that our body is doing for us.


It has taken me many years to realize this but being skinny is not the biggest accomplishment that I want to achieve in The World. 


There are so many more things that I would rather be. Here are 12 of them: 


1. Healthy. 


2. Strong. 


3. Graceful. 


4. Grateful. 


5. Present. 


6. Kind. 


7. Brave. 


8. Courageous. 


9. Smart. 


10. Authentic. 


11. Humble. 


12. Intelligent.