We often hear the negativities of living in a ‘Patriarchy’, I would however argue that The Matriarchy is just as responsible for a lot of the issues that we have today.

It’s time to bring balance and equilibrium into our bodies, minds and hearts. That requires holding both The Matriarchy and Patriarchy responsible for the issues in our families and society.

For a few decades, we have not held women accountable because of the past. We are told that females went through a lot in history, which we did. I am very proud of the feminine ancestors that came before us but now it’s time for us to do our part.

Here are 3 ways that we can The Matriarchy:

1. Stop hating men.

I had a mentor who used to say negativity is more powerful than positivity and unfortunately, he was right. You see, we often align ourselves with people who have a common enemy to us and will unite with those who are enemies with our enemy.

It may not come from a bad place to want to bring someone who has hurt us down and band together with others who wish the same but it is a form of negativity. And, when we develop relationships based on hate, it will manifest itself in the relationship itself one day.

Unfortunately, this has become the trend with many women that I see. I was one of them. There is a collective energy amongst us to hate men and not welcome them in because of the past.

As the saying goes, what we hate controls us. And, how can we expect to have healthy relationships with men when we speak negatively of them and deny their strength in masculinity. I can say today that there are way more men getting it right than wrong, we need to acknowledge this.

2. Support one another.

I grew up in a household with many females and went to an all-girl school for most of my life. While I have made some lifelong friendships, most of my interactions with other girls and women have been hurtful, mean and shallow.

I used to think this was a reflection of me and that could very well be true. So, I include myself in saying that we all need to be more supportive of women.

Last Summer when it was trending to support other women on Instagram and Facebook, I was stunned at how some of the tags were from people who didn’t even care to check up on me during the pandemic so, were they really supportive?

Support is more than a like or picture on Instagram, it is meant to be genuine and we can all do better with this. Instead of criticizing another women for how she looks, maybe ask her how she is doing today. She is human after all.

3. Access our internal feminine divinity.

When I decided to embark on the journey of abundance, I found out so much about myself. Mostly that I had been faking real support for other women because I hadn’t been honest with myself.

I remember being in a yoga class where another yogi was asked to demonstrate a posture and I felt a deep sense of jealousy burn my chest. I was so shocked that I had that in me. I then went on to discover that I had been living in limitations that if someone else had it (especially a woman) then I couldn’t have it. This is the opposite of abundance. Now I look at it as though, if they can so can I. There is more than enough for all of us.

Other women can succeed and I want them to because that means so can I. We can support one another and compete healthily to be better versions of ourselves. No one has to lose out for me to win or feel better about myself.