Written by Hali Tsotetsi
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We have all interactions with people that has left us feeling icky. Whether it’s with a stranger, neighbor, family member or colleague, negative situations or dealing with negative people can leave you feeling an array of emotions that you want to rid yourself of.
Instead of thinking so binary, in black and white, these interactions can teach us a lot about ourselves and people. I am a firm-believer that every situation and person can teach us in life so that we receive the full benefits of living.
Once someone has been rude to you, it is easy to pass on that negativity. There are times that defending yourself is necessary; however, getting into minor arguments with everyone who is rude is a waste of time.
Here are 3 More Things that I have learned about haters:
1. They are miserable.
You don’t see generally happy people starting arguments with others or planning to bully, gossip or demean another person because people who are fulfilled or happy within themselves don’t need to be mean to other people. Not everyone will get along with everyone; however, there are certain people who thrive off of negativity.
Those who start arguments with others, will be the first to gossip or, will openly bully others to prove their authority. These are not content people. Living a life of misery and negativity is not something worth attaining towards or satisfying. Their behavior is because they are not at peace with themselves and it spreads to others.
2. They know not what they do.
Most of us have been a hater at some point in our lives, so I don’t want to run around pointing the finger at others. However, at a time in our lives, some of us choose to let negativity go: whether it’s with a person or situation. Or, we become a full-time hater.
Full-time hating is quite the job, it requires a lot from us and most people who are stuck in this cycle have no idea. It has become so habitual that it is engrained in their DNA. It seems like a crazy concept and as though it is a mere cop out for those who live like this.
But, most haters have no idea that they are so hateful because they have spent their lives pointing the finger at others, that self-reflection and accountability has rarely crossed their minds.
3. They will only bring you down.
If you are the hater and you notice that you are aligned with negativity, I recommend seeking some sort of therapy or professional help. It is better to start today than to be sucked into a world of negativity when there is more to life than being grumpy, miserable and jealous of others.
If you are around one (or a few haters), try to distance yourself from them because they will only bring you down. They might not mean to do it but overtime, they will become so negative that it will have some sort of impact on you. It might sound cold and as though you aren’t being a good friend to a negative friend or family member to a negative family member; however, your life is yours.
Who you surround yourself with, you will become unless you make a conscious decision to align yourself with positivity and distance yourself from those who are aligned with negativity. It is not up to you to deal with haters.