My twin-flame/ soulmate journey began almost ten years ago when I was told that I would marry the man who I believe to be my twin-flame/ soulmate. Although there is a belief that we have many in our life, this connection that I have with this man is very unique and special.

Please read up on our journey in the articles that I have previously written about this. In its eccentricities and complications, I have found simplicity and peace by accepting the following:

1. Soulmates do not have to be romantically involved.

We have been sold this idea that your soulmate is perfect and that when you meet them, you should spend your life with them. However, my twin-flame journey story has proven otherwise. We were in a romantic relationship that was dismal, toxic and, filled with secrecy and lies. Which is not the foundation of a healthy relationship. I love this man very much but do not believe that we express our love for one another in a healthy way. I used to place the blame on him but have come to realize that although our energies share a deep love, they are incompatible.

2. I have learnt some of the best lessons.

As I have previously mentioned, my twin-flame/soulmate is well-known in the music industry. What prevented me from beginning a relationship with him when we first started dating was his bad-boy persona. I come from a well-educated family and both my parents are Scientists. Since I was a kid, I believed that I would marry someone who was in technology or in a similar line of work. So, when this man (twin-flame/soulmate) approached me initially, I was very resistant. Along with who I had seen myself with, I come from a family of strong women and pictured myself being embarrassed if I ended up being with a man who, I thought, was exploiting females in his videos and DJ sets. Eventually, I gave the relationship a chance and I am grateful that I did. Because I learnt a lot. One of the best lessons that I learnt was to practice from a place of compassion and kindness, especially for those who don’t agree with me. I used to judge him and label what he does as bad (sometimes I slip up and still do); however, I have learnt to educate from a place of humility. He is not a bad person for not being who I expect him to be.

3. If I believe in something, I will be called to practice it.

As I have previously elaborated, I was very judgemental towards my twin-flame/ soulmate because I had always pictured myself being with someone who was the physical form of Bruce Wayne from Batman. So, when literally the opposite person showed up, I was disappointed, enraged and upset. I spent months and months running away from him and our connection. Then one day, I had a deep thought that if I really believed in my compassion and sincerity then being with him could allow me the chance to explore this. Although, this relationship has involved a lot of heartbreak and pain, we have had some of the best memories. He is one of my dearest friends and our relationship is constantly evolving. But, one thing that I do know is that this connection has showed me that if I believe in compassion, it is not only for people who think like me. Sometimes compassion has to be extended for those who have deeply hurt us the most.

4. Someone else’s truth deserves to be spoken.

I decided to leave the relationship because I had felt manipulated and coerced into not living in my authenticity and freedom. I was beginning to victimize myself in our relationship. I held on to this mentality and belief system and it upset me, particularly recently when he released a few songs that blame me for why we ended. Songs that I have had to listen to because they play almost everywhere. I started to create a ‘this is happening to me’ mentality in my head about this. But then I remembered, if this is his truth, he is allowed to speak it. Yes, having to hear his words about me have deeply upset me and knowing that millions of people will listen to it might paint me as such. But that is his story. I don’t have to agree with it but still hear it.

5. The future is Unknown.

One of the articles that I wrote before was about how I was told by many tarot-card readers, mediums and intuits that the two of us would get married. I spent a few nights praying and crying in an attempt to release him from my life and future path. I was traumatized at the idea of spending forever with him. After we broke up, I decided to manifest in someone new. To let go of the idea of needing to be with him because it was bringing me down. I chose to release my future to God and manifest in a partner who is evolved, treats women with respect, knows their internal worth, stands up for what they believe in and is contributing to enlightening The World. Whether or not I meet this man is up to God. But I do know that I will not settle for a partner who is not of this energy or actions. This is what I deserve and until he comes, I promise to enjoy every single day of my life. There is no point in pining over a situation that brings me down or isn’t serving my higher purpose in life.