Like Maya Angelou said, ‘When we learn, we teach’, and as a yoga teacher I feel that it is my responsibility to learn and shed light on situations that I am going through to remind others that they are not alone in a world that can feel so isolating and lonely sometimes.

If you are not familiar with the period in my life when I was in a relationship with a well-known personality, I recommend reading my former love articles to catch up to speed so that you can fully understand this journey that I have been on. As a believer in life is what you make it, I believe that this time of my life was needed to grow, learn and flourish.

It has been 9 months since I ended this relationship that became toxic to me and I am still dealing with remnants of what once was. Because once you make a decision to have someone a part of your daily life, you can’t go back. You’re not meant to.

Here are 3 things that I wish I had known before I ended a relationship with someone famous:

1. There is a lesson to be learnt.

Contrary to the fact that I share stories about personal growth and experience, I believe in keeping the privacy of others. My former partner is not the only famous person that I have dated, been on dates with but I keep this information private because I don’t believe in speaking from a place of needing to prove anything or my worthiness.

However, this relationship transformed me because I truly believed that he was my soulmate. Only to find out that I needed him to get to the next level of spirituality. Some refer to this as a twin flame connection. This was one of the biggest tests that I have ever faced because I was shown that if I truly believe in health and wellness, I need to put forward actions that create it in my life. If I relied on him to do so, it was not happening- it was up to me to elevate my standards and align myself with people and things that support my growth.

2. You will have to hear about them and see them frequently.

One of the hardest things about this break-up that I have experienced is having to see his face on billboards, social media and hear his music (some songs about me) on the radio or in public places. In the beginning, I didn’t handle this well because I was victimizing myself. I would question, why me? Why can’t I erase him from my mind? Why did I make such a big mistake and date this man?

Honestly, nothing is ever wasted. This scenario has reminded me of that. I gave my all. We both loved each other and gave our all which was enough. I have gotten to the place with us that I am no longer resentful or angry. In fact, I listen to his music (even songs about me) and can appreciate his talent and the fact that we shared something so beautiful once.

3. They might pull out all the stops to get you back.

When I ended this relationship, I was unaware of how much he would try to get me. I actually don’t think that I even realized the lengths that he would go to, to do so because I felt that we were at the point of no return. After I ended it, I began to understand the cycle of narcissism and verbal abuse because he would try to manipulate me to get me back and use tactics to have me in his life. But then treat me poorly when we were back together.

You might question, why would a famous person need to manipulate someone to be in their life? Because being a well-known person doesn’t make you immune to needing to loved, liked and issues that have developed because of trauma. No one is immune to human suffering.

Upon ending it, he began stalking me, hacking my phone, writing hit songs about me giving up too soon and told me that he would never give up until I was his wife. Mind you, I ended our relationship because I found out about his infidelity. This is not to highlight his negative attributes, it is merely to say that even when you are justified about ending a relationship with someone famous, they might pull out more stops than someone else who isn’t because they have the resources to go all out.

I had to (and still) make a decision to stay true to what I believe a relationship is about: kindness, honesty, respect, vulnerability, loyalty and faithfulness. I know in my heart that he is not the partner for me to grow old with and this knowing protects me from any attempts he makes to convince me otherwise.