Should we blame or console the wives of sexual predators?


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The ‘Me too’ movement has taken The Western World by storm. It has shaken up the use of those who have abused their power whilst taking advantage of others.

With people like Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby and more closely to The Yoga World, Bikram Choudhry. The question that surrounds this movement is that, how did all of these men’s’ wives not know the ‘truth’ of what has been going on? How did handfuls of alleged victims bypass a partner’s intuition of what they were really up to behind closed doors?

Were they really unaware of what was going on? Were they in denial? Or, did their wives have too much to lose to be truthful?

Whether you may admit it or not, The Choudhry’s have had a big impact on the yoga world in The US, particularly hot yoga. The yoga that was created by Bikram Choudhry. Bikram, he says, had been a yoga teacher in India when he was visited by a few American celebrities at his Ashram, where he studied under his Guru, Bishnu Gosh.

Allegedly Bikram was encouraged by his Guru and celebrities that he had cured to move to Los Angeles, which he did. In interviews, he often talks about how Hollywood needed him because of the lack of spirituality and common sense here.

Many have argued and said that what he spoke of being the problem in Los Angeles is what led to his demise. How ironic! The fame, being surrounded by women, money and cars created the person we have come to infamously know as Bikram Choudhry today, the man who went from having it ‘all’ to being exiled and an American fugitive within a couple of years.

Behind all the allegations, alleged abuse and debauchery was a woman who stuck by him, Rajeshree Choudhry. A woman who is/was beautiful inside and out. A woman who is, and has been, the source of so much love and knowledge in the yoga community.

Granted, it may be none of our business. However, if someone is a public figure and goes through a very public and nasty divorce, are we deserved an explanation as to why these women stayed in such a toxic environment for so many years? Should we paint them as the accused too? Or, accept them as the victim?

Is it our place to ask the questions? Or, are questions un-necessary?

In most cases, when you marry someone you split their financial gains? So, do you split their faults, mistakes, wrongdoings and mistakes?