Although I have never been a pessimist, the older that I was getting, the less that I was believing in having a healthy relationship with someone who I believe is worthy.

After my recent break-up, I decided to focus on men who are kind and remind myself that good men who want to be in a healthy relationship exist. I made this switch because after having so many relationships not work out, I had nothing to lose but believe that I am worthy of a healthy union with a man who believes this, too.

I have since been on dates and had great conversation with some great guys. We’ll see where this leads but it does feel a lot better to be optimistic about people, in general, as opposed to lumping a gender or group of people together because every single person in this world is different- and, is meant to be unique.

In the spirit of honesty and positivity, this is what I will never call ‘men’ again:

1. Dumb.

2. Lazy.

3. Sex-orientated.

4. Cheaters.

5. Liars.

6. Deceitful.

7. Idiots.

8. Worthless.

9. Too wimpy.

10. Inconsiderate.

11. Unkind.

12. Oppressive.