I am not all-knowing. However, when I learn, I like to teach from a place of experience and wisdom. I have spent the last year and a half, studying and healing from narcissistic relationships as a result of being in many. Some in my love life, others in my family and work.

It has been a journey and a continuous one. It has required self-reflection, growth and being willing to see how I played a part so that I can move forward from it.

You see, every narcissist needs someone or something to provide them with a false sense of being and exaggerated self-worth because deep down, they feel unworthy. That is not the only thing that makes some a narcissist. I have provided a list below as to if you might be dealing with one so that you can get the professional that you need in order to move on with your life from this person.

Here are 9 red flags of Narcissists:

1. They love-bomb you one day and reject you the next.

2. They have very little self-reflection.

3. It is never their fault. You’ll find them blaming others for what they have done.

4. They project their intentions onto you. For example, they cheat on you in relationship but then are jealous of the prospect of you cheating.

5. You feel uneasy and used when (or after being) in their presence.

6. They only speak ill of others.

7. They choose careers where they are in the spotlight, like teaching, acting or dancing. Not all performers are narcissists but it does take a level of narcissism to want others to see you on a public level- it’s not bad to have a few narcissistic tendencies.

8. They have difficulty apologizing.

9. They lack empathy or compassion. Using phrases like, ‘You should’ve known better’ when you need confiding.