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9 Affirmations for healing from trauma.

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Whether we like to admit it or not, a lot of life involves pain and hurt. However, it is our job to release it and move forward from it.

Like the saying goes, ‘Turn lemons into lemonade.’


There is a lot of negativity and hate in The World but I am not interested in amplifying that. I am more aligned with healing, progression and moving forward with an open heart.


As such, it is up to all of us to do so regardless of what has happened to us and to do so with a lightness to let go and surrender situations that become to heavy for us.


There are many ways to do this but one of my favorite ways is to affirm it by repetition or inner-acknowledgement.


Here are 9 affirmations for healing from trauma.


1. I release the burden of victimization.


2. I open myself up to healing.


3. I move forward with love and grace.


4. I am open to being humble.


5. I practice forgiveness.


6. I am in the flow of life, what is not meant for me is not coming with me.


7. My growth is my choice.


8. I am connected to divinity and in divine order, when it is time to let go I shall.


9. I am in a perpetual state of healing.



Dear Hater (disguised as a fan)

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Dear hater (disguised as a fan),


I want to apologize for carrying any resentment or anger towards you. It is not my job to judge you, that is up to God.


I actually feel kind of sorry for you. A part of you reminds me of how I used to be: broken and empty. Sad and lonely. In denial and living a lie. You are very transparent. And, you think you can run from it but God is keeping count.


You see, I have always seen you for who you are. It is very clear that you are so lost in your insecurities that you wear them as clear as clay.


I want to thank you; however, for teaching me a lesson that I keep re-learning over and over, how people treat me has nothing to do with me. I’m sure you have behaved this way before and a part of me wishes that you get well while the other part acknowledges that there is only so much others can do for you.


You choose your path and have chosen one of lies, deception and false-hoods. Which is okay. Live your life! It’s not up to me to punish you or get revenge on you, that is for God.


All that we do comes back to us. That was a catalyst for why I became a Yogi. Yes, yoga is not just a physical practice to look good. It is a practice about truth, honesty and growth. Something I hope you will learn about one day.



9 Affirmations for 2021.

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Another year is upon us and I am so grateful to be alive. Although last year was a tough one, it was one of the best years that I have had because I learned many lessons.And, I remembered the biggest lesson of all: divine source has placed a light in me (and in all of us) that is ignited once we allow it to work through us.


I am not a huge fan of New Year’s Resolutions; however, I do support betterment and intentional new beginnings.


Here are 9 affirmations for 2021:


1. I allow Divine Source (God) to work through me for The Higher Good.


2. I am a medium for Divine’s Source message and purpose.


3. I am in alignment with Divine Source.


4. I am in alignment with abundance.


5. I am still instead of overreacting.


6. I am at peace with my past.


7. I embrace new beginnings.


8. I know that everything is working out for the greater good.


9. I surrender all of my worries, anxieties and stresses to Divine Source because they have no place in my life.


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Together, we rise! With Alena Wertalik.

Alena Wertalik

Alena Wertalik

1. What has been a big part of your growth as a woman?

Growing up, I was trained by an ex-captain of the Mexican calvary horseback riding. I worked with him from when I was 8-years old to about 18-years old. He taught me how to build an impenetrable wall and be “bulletproof”. I was very clear on what this meant: that whatever hit me, physically, emotionally, mentally, it would bounce right off me, and I would keep going. 

I was proud of this armor, and am grateful for the process of building it up, because it ingrained in me the discipline and stamina that I have today. I am also just as grateful for the processes and experiences that asked me to do the painful work of breaking that armor down, which mostly happened in my last 10 years as a yoga teacher. The best way I can describe how this working of “breaking down” has shifted me is in how it has changed my definition of what it means to be bulletproof – I no longer see it as something hitting me and bouncing off before I keep going. Now, when “it” hits, it penetrates. I feel it fully. And I keep going. 

2.    Who, which person (s) has inspired you to stay true to your role in your divine feminine?

 

Someone who I have yet to meet – my unborn daughter. At the time of writing this I am five months pregnant. In the last five months I have seen and felt so much of why my body was designed how it was, and it has changed my relationship with it. I thought I had learned to love my body through the practice of celebrating it, but the love I have for it now is unconditional. This baby has taught me how to respect not only my boundaries, but to see what I am capable of. And, I know that her greatest moments of inspiration have yet to come. One of them will be when I give birth in March 2021, because the times when I have felt my most divine feminine have been in my moments of complete surrender, and I know that giving birth will be a great experience of this feminine power. 


3. What other women have supported you when you needed it the most?

 

I have a support system of women that I am in awe of. They are stunning, strong and encompass what I strive to be every day. I do give myself some credit for having chosen the women I surround myself with, but I actually have to give most of that credit to my mom. My mom has four daughters who have all chosen unique paths and have walked them with fierce independence. She has instilled in us what it means to love fully, take responsibility for our choices, and commit to doing the right thing, whatever the cost. 

 

4. What has been the hardest part of being a strong woman? 

To notice when I’m teetering that line between being strong and being tough. The difference between the two, to me, is that to be strong there has to be an element of vulnerability, which I feel is an innate ability that women are often taught to suppress.  On the surface, this makes some sense; if you look up “vulnerable” in the dictionary, it says “susceptible to emotional or physical attack or harm,” which I imagine doesn’t seem desirable to most. However, I have noticed that the mechanisms and experiences that have asked me to be the most vulnerable have been the ones that have allowed me to connect and grow. My truest moments of vulnerability have turned out to also be the strongest I have experienced.

5. Where do you see yourself evolving in the next few years? 

I, like most, have seen and experienced a lot of destruction this year. On a personal level, this included the loss of my job, my apartment, and many of the people I considered friends. But from destruction comes evolution, and I am already seeing signs of it. One major way of course is becoming a mother and a wife in the next year. I am also in the process of getting my applications ready to start law school next fall, and pursue something that has been a dream of mine for a long time. And I will keep teaching yoga! I’m very excited to be working with a childhood friend of mine on a barre/yoga virtual studio called Better Balance Fitness that will be launching in the next couple of weeks.

6.  What imprint would you like to leave on the world? 

Probably one that no one will ever notice because it happens as a byproduct of the collective consciousness – of us each choosing to see ourselves in one another and committing to lifting each other up to be the best versions of ourselves. 

7. What is your social media or ways that we can keep up with you and your work? 

 

My instagram is @onebreath_onemovement.

9 Red flags of a Narcissist.

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I am not all-knowing. However, when I learn, I like to teach from a place of experience and wisdom. I have spent the last year and a half, studying and healing from narcissistic relationships as a result of being in many. Some in my love life, others in my family and work. 

It has been a journey and a continuous one. It has required self-reflection, growth and being willing to see how I played a part so that I can move forward from it. 

You see, every narcissist needs someone or something to provide them with a false sense of being and exaggerated self-worth because deep down, they feel unworthy. That is not the only thing that makes some a narcissist. I have provided a list below as to if you might be dealing with one so that you can get the professional that you need in order to move on with your life from this person. 

Here are 9 red flags of Narcissists: 

1. They love-bomb you one day and reject you the next. 

2. They have very little self-reflection. 

3. It is never their fault. You’ll find them blaming others for what they have done. 

4. They project their intentions onto you. For example, they cheat on you in relationship but then are jealous of the prospect of you cheating. 

5. You feel uneasy and used when (or after being) in their presence. 

6. They only speak ill of others. 

7. They choose careers where they are in the spotlight, like teaching, acting or dancing. Not all performers are narcissists but it does take a level of narcissism to want others to see you on a public level- it’s not bad to have a few narcissistic tendencies. 

8. They have difficulty apologizing. 

9. They lack empathy or compassion. Using phrases like, ‘You should’ve known better’ when you need confiding. 

Why do I want to forgive her?

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Why do I want to forgive her? 

Because, truthfully, not everyone is coming from a genuine place. 

I forgive her because a lot of us have been conditioned to operate from a place of fear and, I too, was like that. 

I forgive her because she has shown me that she is not a friend. And, better to know now than down the road in my life. 

I forgive her because my intuition was right. I knew that she was inauthentic and would not be there for me when I needed her. 

I forgive her because I can’t control her so I choose to send her love from a distance where I know that her actions will not affect me anymore. 

I forgive her because her hurt is like hot lava and will spread and hurt anyone around her, by proxy. 

I forgive her because I am too old to deal with passive communication. I try my best to communicate from a place of integrity and then move forward with love. 

I forgive her because life is too short to dwell on people and situations that would rather see you upset than happy most of the time.