There is something really cool and exciting about dating someone who’s music you admire or a person who has been in some of your favorite movies. It can sometimes feel surreal and as though you are the luckiest person in The World.

I have had the fortune of this experience. But, along with it comes secrets, lack of privacy and other issues that can make you feel like it is not worth it. I know who I am and I have clear boundaries. I have tried dating entertainers and, although I don’t like to generalize, it is not for me.

I am grateful for the blessings and I am most certainly even more so for the lessons.

Here is why I will never date an entertainer again:

1. It takes a level of trust like no other.

As I mentioned prior, dating someone in the public eye who is known for being on the big screen in some shape or form can feel exciting and thrilling. However, after this dies out, if the relationship does not have trust, you can feel like you are going crazy.

The level of heartbreak and shooting pain to your heart is inexplicable when you see the person who you consider having a future with on the cover of a tabloid magazine with someone else. I am not a victim so I take the lesson in that, I can choose to have this type of relationship pressure and scrutiny in my life or not. And, I choose the latter.

One of my well-known ex-boyfriends recently had a child and before he could tell me, I woke up to an abrupt text from someone I knew who had read it in a tabloid. Receiving this news in the way that I had, brought my vibration to a low that is inexplicable. To me, it is not worth going through again.

2. I can’t do fake.

I don’t want to drag anyone who I have dated or been in a relationship with because I chose them in my life for a reason and I got so much. Way more than I expected to get. Even though I grew stronger and more learned in the situation, I am human and I have feelings. Because my previous relationships with people well-known have been in secret, I have had to process them in private. Sometimes feeling restricted in doing so.

Although I am a private person, I have not been able to express my love for a particular person that I connected with because it was meant to be kept a secret- a lot would’ve been on the line if I spoke about this person.

To the public, it may seem like most entertainers are truthful. But, this is not the case. Many of them are pressured into saying and doing the right thing based on how they are perceived. So, you might never know who you are really dating because they are so used to putting on a facade.

3. I want stability and peace.

Thankfully, I have never gone public with some of the well-known entertainers that I have dated. However, I have seen how being in the public eye has affected them. Although I am also a generally public person, I don’t have people prying into my personal life and those who do, I don’t respond to.

I know exactly what I want for my family in the future and it is stability and peace. This contrasts with the lifestyle of an entertainer as most of them are away from home a lot and need publicity to reach a wider audience. The total opposite of how I picture my future.

As the saying goes, ‘Never say never’. However, I have experienced it enough to know that it is not what I want for me or my future family.