We have all been, are or know someone who is a hater. Someone who is attracted to drama, loves to complain, is insecure or doesn’t believe in being positive. I have been both the hater and have come into contact with other people who have hated. Only to realize that when I was a hater, it had nothing to do with anyone else but me. I had some serious healing- which I did and am still doing.

The biggest shift that I had which took me out of a low-vibrational frequency of negativity was to understand and know that I am love and am worthy of anything that I have ever wanted, and so is everyone else. There is enough for everyone so I don’t have to be jealous and angry when someone else is doing well or is thriving.

Whenever I encounter a hater these days, I try to practice compassion because I know what it feels to be in that position. I have learnt that I can still have my boundaries up and practice compassion from a distance because how they behave has nothing to do with me. Being hateful is a symptom of lack of self-awareness, kindness, understanding, compassion and empathy.

Here are 9 things that I am sure of about haters:

1. We have all been a hater at some point in our lives.

2. Living life from a negative point of view only affects the person who sees it this way.

3. Stepping out of a hateful mindset takes worth and effort but the end result is worth it.

4. Hateful people are suffering and want to spread that feeling to others.

5. Some people don’t mean well for you.

6. Haters are only at war with themselves.

7. You will never win an argument or situation with someone who is dead set on being negative. Sometimes the best boundary is distance and letting go.

8. We can influence haters but it is up to them to change.

9. It is okay and beneficial to put up boundaries towards people who don’t mean well for you.