Dear Hali, an apology letter to my younger self.

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Dear Hali, 

I’m sorry that I didn’t believe in your capability and I believed people who knew nothing of what you are or what you are made of. 

I’m sorry for ever telling you that you are ugly, fat, worthless or not enough. Those words are untrue and only stopped you from reaching your potential. 

I apologize for letting people into your life that came in-and-out with disrespect, unkind words and toxicity. 

I’m sorry for being ignorant about your heritage and not allowing you to be proud of who you are and where you come from. 

I’m sorry that I let what happened to you build walls up against other people, for fear that it wouldn’t happen again. That fear only brought the same kind of people around over-and-over. I have now learnt that peace is power. 

I’m sorry for ever doubting you, fearing your strength and allowing anything to hide your light. 

You deserve to shine bright and I promise to make choices that align with your purpose in life, true love and peace of mind. 

I love you,

15 Reasons I have learnt to forgive when I didn’t want to.


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I have truly learnt in the past week (post break-up) that sometimes the hardest person to forgive is the one that you want to stay angry at.

*Please read the last two articles in our LOVE section if you are not up to speed.

This past week, I have been focusing on forgiveness so that I can rid myself of toxicity which manifested it’s way into my life through pain. Pain that was inflicted by someone who I used to be with.

Something else that I have learnt is that pain likes to personify itself and if you don’t catch it, it will take on a life of its own. That’s why forgiveness is the best option for me right now:

Here are 15 reasons why forgiveness is so important to me right now:

1. I forgive because toxic habits and thoughts have no place in my mind and my heart.

2. I forgive because life is about progress.

3. I forgive because freedom starts with peace.

4. I forgive because when it’s most difficult to forgive is when I need to.

5. I forgive because I want to see the silver-lining.

6. I forgive because I want to get out of my own way.

7. I forgive because I want to keep my heart open.

8. I forgive because pain goes on for as long as I want it to.

9. I forgive because there is always a bigger picture. I may not understand today but one day, I will.

10. I forgive because sometimes love requires actively leaving the past behind.

11. I forgive because the best way to learn is to become the observer.

12. I forgive because I am done taking things personally.

13. I forgive because my mindset determines how I heal.

14. I forgive because this moment is worth enjoying without the cloud of the past raining on it.

15. I forgive because I refuse to hold on to someone else’s baggage. That is theirs to deal with as I have mine to deal with, too.