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I am having difficulty sticking to my workout routine

Dear Hali,

I have trouble sticking to my workout routine. I want to lose weight but I feel like I don’t have the discipline to stick to a workout routine. I am so used to trying out the latest fad workout and then I end up not following through. I want to have a consistent workout and lose weight without my weight going up and down. Please help!- Chelsea

A lot of my clients have this issue. First thing, enjoy your workout! If you have a workout that is hard and not fun, you will have trouble sticking to it. Health is about constancy progression which can only be done through a continuous workout regime. Also, hold yourself accountable. When you start to make excuses, think about the great things that come from working out. Say things to yourself that motivate you and inspire you, it really helps.

Will I find love?

Dear Hali,

I am 32 and I am worried that I won’t get married. I have a history of unhealthy relationships and I am starting to think that I am the problem. - Anne

I So grateful for your letter. No need to worry. It makes sense that you would feel this way. This is what I recommend, write down your role that you have played in the relationships, like I enabled them, I hurt them, I played games or I didn’t create boundaries of respect. When you have your role, think about how that role is serving you ( for example being an enabler stops me from being able to speak my truth in relationships). Now, write down how you want to behave, write down how you want your partner to behave and meditate on it. Create a mantra that will help you vibrate on a higher frequency, like I am love, I believe that I will find love or my past does not define my destiny. Say it over and over again. I am not a therapist but I am a firm-believer in the power of manifestation, meditation and vibrating on a higher frequency.

Dear Hali,

I just received my 200-hr yoga certification and I am very nervous to teach. I feel like I don’t know enough and it’s worrying me. I feel like I spent so much money on something that I am not using. How do I get out of this rut? -Pam

Hi Pam,

Thank you for writing in. I completely understand as I have felt similarly to you. It’s normal to feel this way but, please trust yourself! You know yourself best so, if you need more training, take it! However, I recommend practicing your teaching dialogue to friends and family of small groups to get proper feedback. The journey of teaching is a never ending one, one that is full of ups-and-downs. Don’t get stuck in a lull because this is just the beginning. I am looking forward to your future as a yoga teacher, you will be amazed at how great you will do.

4 mots que vous ne devriez pas croire à propos de vous.

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Contrairement à ce qu'on pourrait vous dire, les mots portent le pouvoir. Bien sûr, si quelqu'un vous appelle laide ou est odieux envers vous, vous n'avez pas besoin de passer toute la journée à y penser. Cependant, vous devez être sélectif au sujet de se rappeler comment les gens vous ont adressé.

Si quelqu'un choisit d'utiliser l'un des mots suivants à votre sujet, s'il vous plaît ne le croyez pas.

Voici les mots sont et pourquoi vous ne devriez pas croire quelqu'un s'ils vous appellent ceci:

1. Indigne

Tu es toujours digne. Peu importe la race où vous êtes né, combien vous avez d'argent, qui sont vos parents ou votre profession, vous êtes toujours digne de ce que vous voulez et digne de respect fondamental. Parfois, nous sommes pris dans les cercles sociaux et nous ressentons le besoin de nous ajuster et de nous changer nous-mêmes pour nous adapter. Mais ce n'est pas nécessaire. Vous, inchangé, êtes digne. Ne croyez pas les gens s'ils vous disent le contraire. Votre pouvoir authentique vient de votre être et de votre acceptation.

2. Stupide

J'étais un étudiant D et C au collège et au lycée. Honnêtement, je détestais l'école. Je détestais tout et ne voyais pas l'intérêt d'y aller. La plus grande chose que je détestais à propos de l'école était que mes capacités cérébrales étaient mesurées selon un système et si je ne marquais pas correctement, j'étais considéré comme «stupide». J'ai alors rejeté cette idée et je le fais toujours maintenant. Si quelqu'un vous appelle 'Stupide', ne le croyez pas! Ils parlent d'un endroit qui met les gens dans une boîte. La grandeur et les gens qui accomplissent de grandes choses le font souvent en dehors des sentiers battus.

3. Graisse

Il y a quelques années, j'ai écrit un article pour MindBodyGreen pour ne pas appeler les gens «gros». Cela a suscité beaucoup de controverse. Malgré la controverse qu'il a causée, je suis toujours ferme qu'aucun de nous ne devrait utiliser ce mot et, surtout ne pas croire ceux qui nous appellent ce mot. Nous passons tellement de temps et d'énergie à essayer d'être mince que nous oublions toutes les choses incroyables que nos corps font pour nous. Notre objectif devrait être sain et fort, pas maigre.

4. Impossible

Chaque fois que quelqu'un me dit «non», une partie de moi s'illumine. Je commence à penser à tous les moyens possibles, même si on me dit que je ne le peux pas. Comme dit ce dicton: «Tout est figurable». Qui sait ce qui pourrait arriver si vous croyez que vous pouvez le faire? Je peux vous garantir que c'est plus que si vous croyez que vous ne pouvez pas.

4 words that you shouldn’t believe about yourself.

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Contrary to what you might have been told, words carry power. Sure, if someone calls you ugly or is hateful towards you, you needn’t spend your whole day thinking about it. However, you have to be selective about remembering how people have addressed you.

If someone chooses to use one of the following words about you, please don’t believe them.

Here are the words are and why you shouldn’t believe someone if they call you this:

1. Unworthy

You are always worthy. No matter what race you were born, how much money you have, who your parents are or what your occupation is, you are always worthy of what you want and worthy of fundamental respect. Sometimes we get caught up in social circles and feel the need to adjust and change ourselves just to fit in. But, there is no need. You, unchanged, are worthy. Don’t believe people if they tell you otherwise. Your authentic power comes from you being you and accepting that.

2. Stupid

I was a D and C student in junior and high school. Honestly, I hated school. I hated everything about it and didn’t see the point in going to it. The biggest thing that I hated about school was that my brain capacity was measured according to a system and if I didn’t score correctly, I was considered ‘Stupid’. I rejected that idea then and I still do now. If someone calls you ‘Stupid’, do not believe them! They are speaking from a place that puts people into a box. Greatness and people who accomplish great things often do so outside the box. 

3. Fat

A few years ago , I wrote an article for MindBodyGreen about not calling people ‘fat’. It sparked a lot of controversy. Despite the controversy that it has caused, I am still firm that none of us should use this word and, especially not believe those who call us this word. We spend so much time and energy focused on trying to be skinny that we forget all the amazing things that our bodies are doing for us. Our goal should be healthy and strong;not skinny.

4. Unable
Whenever someone tells me ‘no’, a part of me lights up. I start to think of all the ways that it is possible despite being told that I’m not able to. Like that saying goes, ‘Everything is figureoutable’. Who knows what could happen if you believed that you can do it? I can guarantee you that it’s more ways than if you believe that you can’t.

13 reasons that you deserve what you want.

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As a health coach, I am constantly reminding my clients to be positive and practice manifestation. It’s so easy to fall behind and question why we are worthy. I find myself sometimes falling on the fearful train. Asking myself if I am worthy? Who will want me or how do I know that it will manifest?

There could be many reasons why we all fear getting what we want or fear feeling worthy. Well, I am let you in on some reasons why you deserve what you want:

1. Why wouldn’t you be deserving?

2. If not you then, who would be deservin

3. You are great.

4. You are amazing.

5. You are a blessing.

6. You have been created to do great things.

7. You are a creation of love and therefore are worthy.

8. No one else can give you want.

9. No one else knows what you want.

10. Each day has been sent to us for us to make the most of.

11. There is enough for all of us to get what we want.

12. The more you get, the more you can give.

13. Who said that what you want isn’t yours?

5 questions to ask yourself before you let go of a friendship

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Recently I made a bold decision: I decided to discontinue two friendships in my life. I couldn't be friends with them any longer because I hadn't felt respected by them for a while. Before I decided to let go of these relationships, I asked myself the following questions:

1. Would you allow a romantic partner to treat you the same way that your friend treats you?

My partner at the time had stood me up once for a date. I was livid. He asked me why I had been so mad when a couple of friends of mine had stood me up, too, and I had been OK with it. He was right. I made a decision to set clear boundaries because it wouldn't be fair to have a different set of rules for people in my life. Respect is respect, regardless of the position that person holds in your life.

2. Is your friend supportive of your work and actions?

When I had previously gone through a lot of drama, my former friend would offer me food or wine to comfort me. However, I started to notice that as I began to accomplish things, her support dissipated. My friend was feeling unfulfilled in her life and, because of this, she was unable to celebrate my accomplishments. Everyone deserves friends who will celebrate their wins, not only support their weaknesses when they are feeling down.

3. Does your friend use your past against you?

Three years ago, I was in an unhealthy relationship. As a result, I did some unhealthy things to myself. One of the friends with whom that I decided to part ways would continuously remind me that I was "a mess" three years ago. She would say it in a judgemental tone. I'm not sure what her intentions were, all I know is that it hurt my feelings. If you've moved beyond your past and your friend hasn't, they are not being helpful in your growth and not helping you forgive yourself.

4. Do you and your friend engage in speaking negatively about others?

My former friend and I used to gossip about other friends, celebrities, and our neighbors. Eventually I found out that she had gossiped about me, too toward the end of our friendship. It hurt, but it wasn't surprising. Ask yourself if you and your friend spend time speaking negatively about other people. If so, remember that there may come a time when they'll gossip about you, too.

5. Do you and your friend give to one another from your hearts or your minds?

When I had mentioned to one of my friends that I wouldn't be spoken to in the manner in which she had spoken to me, she explained that she had done so much for me, which was reason enough for her to speak to me in a way that I found to be disrespectful. Over the years, we had done things for one another, and she had been keeping score. How much someone gives doesn't accumulate into friendship coupons that can be used against someone's feelings. When you give to get, what you give doesn't come from love—it comes from calculation. True friendships are based on love. Love doesn't keep score.

5 affirmations while chasing your dreams

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After nearly a decade of being in love with yoga, I made a courageous decision. I decided that I wanted to become a yoga teacher. I thought, how hard could it be? It's just talking.

As with almost anything that requires commitment, there's a honeymoon phase, followed by the phase when things don't look so bright and you wonder why you were ever there to begin with.

After having gone through this recently, I made a list for those who will chase or are chasing a dream:

1. Remember that it's meant to challenge you.

Growth doesn't happen by living in stability, comfort or ease. The only way that growth can occur within you is if you can find something that challenges you, and work through it. You may feel overwhelmed by challenge at some point, but the reward of achieving your dream is way more fulfilling than never going after what you want to achieve at all.

2. Be careful who you ask for advice.

While chasing your dream you'll get to a point where you want to give up. You'll question the cause of your dream and question whether you should continue. During this time, be cautious where you seek advice from. Unless someone can relate to what you are going through, don't ask for counsel! Find wisdom from those who are encouraging of your dream, and who understand what it means to you.

3. Believe in yourself.

The only way you'll be able to follow through with your commitment to your dream is by believing that you can do it. Others can tell you that you're capable; however, their opinion only goes so far if you don't believe that you are capable yourself. In addition, if you believe in yourself, when others doubt you it isn't worth being concerned about because you have found faith in yourself, and that's all that matters.

4. Be open to failure and rejection.

It takes a lot of courage to give everything that you have to a goal when it might be criticized, judged or rejected. There is a big possibility that you will give everything that you have only to have a failure slapped in your face. Many see failure as an ending, when it could be a beginning of another journey that leads to your dream.

5. Start trying today.

In a year, you'll wish that you'd started today what you hope to achieve. If you don't try today, how will you feel in a year? Time passes quicker than we can sometimes grasp, and today will eventually lead to the following year. Don't just sit around and think about what you want; do it!

How facing racism taught me forgiveness

Attending a predominantly white school in a newly post-Apartheid South Africa meant, for me, that a few parents didn't want their children to have play dates with me, a few kids would wipe their seats before they sat on a seat that I'd used, and boys whom I'd dated would be ashamed to tell anyone that we were an item. I wanted to hide the most obvious thing people saw about me: my dark skin.

My father and mother would continuously remind me that I was beautiful but, for some reason, I didn't believe them. I didn't believe them because so many people were telling and showing me otherwise. How could I believe the only two people who would love me regardless? Although I've always believed that I was meant to be made this way, and I've always believed that everyone was meant to be the way that they are, I was baffled by the fact that I hadn't done anything wrong to anyone but some people had treated me as though I had.

I spent a long time hating those who mistreated me because I had always treated them with respect and kindness – I felt taken advantage of.

Until one day, I forgave. I forgave the parents who didn't want their children playing with me, I forgave the kids who wiped their seats after I sat on them, and I forgave the boys who wanted to hide their attraction to me.

I forgave and forgave and forgave. I forgave because they didn't know any better, and ignorance is the easiest thing to forgive. Once I forgave, I realized that their inability to be kind to me had nothing to do with me. If you're truly comfortable in your skin, you accept all shapes and colors because you're able to appreciate difference. And everyone is different.

I forgave because I realized that I'm special. I forgave because I saw that all of us are special. Once I learned to forgive them, I became free of trying to fit into a box, and acknowledged that a life of acceptance allows you to appreciate everything for its own reason.

I forgave because they haven't had the fortune of experiencing the greatness of kindness – they are truly missing out.

What I wish I’d known before my first Yoga Teacher-Training.

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What I wish I’d known before I took my first Yoga Teacher-Training.

In 2013, I became a yoga teacher. The intensive training that I went through I am so grateful for. Although the training seemed extreme to those around me, I knew that I had to become a teacher. It felt like my destiny.

I am forever indebted to my mentors in this Teacher-Training. However, after the *TT, I learnt things about the yoga industry and practice that I wish I was told during this process.

This is what I wish I’d known before I took my first *TT:

1. Westernized yoga is a business.

It has become evident, particularly in The West Coast of The USA, that Yoga in Western society has become a business. With that being said, you are a brand. Know that if you plan on becoming a teacher in The Westernized World of Yoga, you will have to deal with politics, marketing and branding. Some of us become Yoga teachers to hide from the rest of the world. So, it can be disconcerting to find out that Yoga has become a business. Don’t let that deter you, let that drive you. Learn about the business and grow for your benefit.

2. You are worth investing in.

Yes, you are worth investing in! So, don’t sell yourself short. Don’t take just any *TT because it’s convenient or cost-efficient, take one that will help you be a better teacher for the future. In addition, make sure your TT has a solid mentorship program that invests in you too!

3. Think about where you will be able to teach after you complete your training.

A lot of *TTs provide certifications where you might have difficulty teaching at another studio. My first TT did provide me with a lot but it didn’t provide me with a 200-hour certification. Most studios require the 200-hour certification to teach at their studio because the 200-hour is generally a standard certification. If you only want to teach the yoga that you are studying, there is no need to get 200-hour certified. But, just know that you will be limited to teach at fewer studios.

4. Do you trust your gurus/mentors/guides?

You need to be able to trust who is teaching you to become a teacher! If you don’t, find someone that you do. Becoming a teacher is a challenging process and you will need to trust who is helping you get there. Trust cannot be forced, it has to come naturally.

*TT: Teacher-Training

 🇨🇿 Ce que j'aurais aimé savoir avant mes premiers cours de professeur de yoga.

En 2013, je suis devenu professeur de yoga. L'entraînement intensif que j'ai suivi m'a tellement fait plaisir. Même si la formation semblait extrême à ceux qui m'entouraient, je savais que je devais devenir enseignante. C'était comme mon destin. Je suis éternellement redevable à mes mentors dans cette formation des enseignants. Cependant, après le * TT, j'ai appris des choses au sujet de l'industrie du yoga et de la pratique que j'aurais aimé connaître durant ce processus. C'est ce que j'aurais aimé savoir avant de prendre mon premier * TT:

1. Le yoga occidentalisé est une affaire.

Il est devenu évident, en particulier sur la côte ouest des États-Unis, que le yoga dans la société occidentale est devenu une affaire. Cela étant dit, vous êtes une marque. Sachez que si vous envisagez de devenir un enseignant dans le monde occidentalisé du yoga, vous devrez faire face à la politique, le marketing et l'image de marque. Certains d'entre nous deviennent des professeurs de yoga pour se cacher du reste du monde. Donc, il peut être déconcertant de découvrir que le yoga est devenu une entreprise. Ne laissez pas cela vous décourager, laissez-vous conduire. En savoir plus sur l'entreprise et développer pour votre bénéfice.

2. Vous valez la peine d'investir.

Oui, vous valez la peine d'investir! Alors, ne vous vendez pas court. Ne prenez pas n'importe quel * TT parce que c'est pratique ou rentable, prenez-en un qui vous aidera à devenir un meilleur enseignant pour l'avenir. En outre, assurez-vous que votre TT a un programme de mentorat solide qui investit en vous aussi!

3. Pensez à l'endroit où vous pourrez enseigner après avoir terminé votre entraînement.

Beaucoup de * TT fournissent des certifications où vous pourriez avoir des difficultés à enseigner dans un autre studio. Mon premier TT m'a beaucoup fourni, mais il ne m'a pas fourni une certification de 200 heures. La plupart des studios ont besoin d'une certification de 200 heures pour enseigner dans leur studio, car les 200 heures sont généralement une certification standard. Si vous voulez seulement enseigner le yoga que vous étudiez, il n'est pas nécessaire d'obtenir une certification de 200 heures. Mais, sachez que vous serez limité à enseigner dans moins de studios.

4. Avez-vous confiance en qui sont vos gourous / mentors / guide?

Vous devez être en mesure de faire confiance à qui vous enseigne pour devenir un enseignant! Si vous ne le faites pas, trouvez quelqu'un que vous faites. Devenir enseignant est un processus difficile et vous devrez faire confiance à qui vous aidera à y arriver. La confiance ne peut pas être forcée, elle doit venir naturellement.

* TT: Formation des enseignants

🇨🇮 Lo que deseo saber antes de mi primer entrenamiento de profesores de yoga

En 2013, me convertí en profesor de yoga. El entrenamiento intensivo por el que pasé estoy muy agradecido. Aunque el entrenamiento parecía extremo para quienes me rodeaban, sabía que tenía que convertirme en profesor. Se sentía como mi destino. Estoy eternamente en deuda con mis mentores en este Entrenamiento de Maestros. Sin embargo, después del * TT, aprendí cosas sobre la industria del yoga y la práctica que desearía que me dijeran durante este proceso. Esto es lo que desearía haber sabido antes de tomar mi primer * TT:

1. El yoga occidentalizado es un negocio.

Se ha hecho evidente, particularmente en The West Coast of the USA, que el yoga en la sociedad occidental se ha convertido en un negocio. Dicho eso, eres una marca. Sepa que si planea convertirse en un maestro en The Westernized World of Yoga, tendrá que lidiar con la política, el marketing y la marca. Algunos de nosotros nos convertimos en maestros de yoga para escondernos del resto del mundo. Entonces, puede ser desconcertante descubrir que el Yoga se ha convertido en un negocio. No dejes que eso te desanime, deja que eso te lleve. Aprenda sobre el negocio y crezca para su beneficio.

2. Vale la pena invertir en. Sí, ¡vales la pena invertir!

Entonces, no te vengas corto. No tome simplemente cualquier * TT porque es conveniente o rentable, tome uno que lo ayude a ser un mejor maestro para el futuro. ¡Además, asegúrese de que su TT tenga un programa de mentores sólido que también invierta en usted!

3. Piense en dónde podrá enseñar después de completar su entrenamiento.

Muchos * TT proporcionan certificaciones en las que puede tener dificultades para enseñar en otro estudio. Mi primer TT me proporcionó mucho pero no me proporcionó una certificación de 200 horas. La mayoría de los estudios requieren la certificación de 200 horas para enseñar en su estudio, porque las 200 horas generalmente son una certificación estándar. Si solo desea enseñar el yoga que está estudiando, no es necesario obtener la certificación de 200 horas. Pero, solo sé que estarás limitado a enseñar en menos estudios.

 4. ¿Confías en quiénes son tus gurús / tutores / guía?

¡Debes poder confiar en quién te está enseñando a convertirte en maestro! Si no lo hace, encuentre a alguien que usted haga. Convertirse en maestro es un proceso desafiante y deberá confiar en quién lo está ayudando a llegar allí. La confianza no puede ser forzada, tiene que venir de forma natural.   

5 ways life can get better when you give up booze

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This year, I made a life-changing decision, one that had seemed impossible to actually follow through on before I finally did it: I stopped drinking.

Here are the five reasons why:

1. I wanted to start enjoying my mornings.

When I got drunk, no matter how much I'd hydrate afterwards, I would get headaches the morning after. Even if I only had a glass of wine, I would spend the next day hung-over and feeling negative about my day. Since stopping drinking, I wake up each day with enthusiasm about what the day will hold and I feel a lot more optimistic about what's ahead of me and I actually enjoy my mornings!

2. I got tired of acting like a fool.

While drinking, we often act on our impulses and do things we'd normally be ashamed to do. During hardships, drinking exasperated my emotions. I would find my emotions running high while and after I drank. Since I've stopped drinking, I don't have to apologize to someone about sending an unnecessarily nasty text message. I have been able to assume all responsibility over my body and my actions.

3. I wanted to remember the things that I do and the people that I meet.

It has become socially acceptable to joke with friends about some seriously terrifying behavior, such as not remembering how you got home and making a big joke of drinking and forgetting your belongings, your manners or your pride. I would meet people and forget it ever even happened. My life felt disorganized when I would hang out with the party crowd. These days, I never feel out-of-control in the way that I used to, and I don't feel as though my day/life/year is falling apart.

4. I wanted to like myself.

When I drank, I didn't like myself. I didn't like myself because I would ask why I continued to do something that made me feel so unhealthy and that led to such unhealthy choices. I would also end up eating a lot after a night out, wake up the next day with regret and feel awful about who I was and what I had done the night before. Once, I stopped drinking, I was able to eat and drink things that contributed to my physical health which reduced the shame and guilt which I had previously felt.

5. I wanted to be a nicer person.

After a few drinks, I would become impatient and rude. Things that wouldn't have bothered me if I hadn't been drunk bothered me while I was drinking. I would wake up the next day with recollections of being so rude, which left me shocked and disgusted because I knew better than to treat others that way. After deciding to rid my life of alcohol, I no longer wake up feeling like a let-down to myself and others because I can consciously treat people the way that they deserve to be treated: with respect.

*If you think you have a drinking problem, please get professional help!

5 small ways to love yourself

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Five ways to love yourself more

With all of the recent research backing it up, it has become very evident that self-love is just as important, or more important, as loving someone else that you care about.

In order to give love, you have to know and understand it first. Dr. Wayne Dyer said, ‘You cannot give what you don’t already have’.

Here are some little ways that you can love yourself:

1. Tell yourself that you are amazing!

We sometimes confuse complimenting ourselves with being egotistical or a narcissist. However, I am a firm-believer in treating yourself as your friend. Just as you would compliment your friend, compliment yourself when you look in the mirror. It’s nice to know that someone, even if it is yourself, thinks that you are lovable and worthy.

2. Practice forgiveness!

I say ‘practice’ because it really is a practice. Just like we practice yoga, a sport or dance, forgiveness requires practice because we won’t always get it right. We are human and it is easy for memories of anger and frustration to come over us. However, practice makes perfect- one day. Forgive for yourself, not for them. Freeing you up to enjoy your life and live today to it’s fullest; without the cloud of negativity hanging over you.

3. Be you! 

If you were meant to be someone else, you would be that someone. You are you for a reason. Embrace it and accept everything about yourself. Accept your curly hair, accept that you can be petty sometimes and accept that you aren’t where you want to be in your life right now. Once you accept yourself, you no longer have to fight yourself and it becomes easier to love yourself.

4. Reward yourself!

When I was younger, I often felt unworthy of anything that I received. I would mindlessly spend money when I was stressed and wonder what happened to my money the day after shopping. I have since developed a strategy where I reward myself for little things that I have accomplished. I recommend doing this for yourself. If you finished studying that chapter that seemed like it would never end? Maybe buy yourself a lipstick or cologne? Got through a tough day at work? Maybe take yourself to a movie? Tried a new spinning class that you felt was challenging? Maybe treat yourself to a delicious dessert. You are doing this thing called life well, remember that!

5. Use the mirror for you, not against you!

I teach and practice hot yoga almost everyday. If you are unfamiliar with it, the practitioner is meant to stand in front of the mirror for their alignment. As a yoga teacher, I often see students judging themselves- which can be easy to do; however, it can bring us negativity and ultimately, bring us down. Use the mirror in your favour by saying things like, ‘You are enough’ as opposed to being harsh on yourself. You can either be your bully or your best friend.  

5 façons de vous aimer plus 🇨🇿

Avec toutes les recherches récentes à l'appui, il est devenu très évident que l'amour de soi est tout aussi important, ou plus important, que d'aimer quelqu'un d'autre que vous aimez. Les Pour donner de l'amour, il faut d'abord le connaître et le comprendre.

Le Dr Wayne Dyer a dit: «Vous ne pouvez pas donner ce que vous n'avez pas déjà». Les Voici quelques petites façons que vous pouvez vous aimer:

 1. Dites-vous que vous êtes incroyable!

Nous confondons parfois nous féliciter d'être égoïste ou narcissique. Cependant, je suis un fervent partisan de vous traiter comme votre ami. Tout comme vous complimenteriez votre ami, félicitez-vous quand vous vous regardez dans le miroir. C'est bon de savoir que quelqu'un, même si c'est vous, pense que vous êtes aimable et digne.

 2. Pratiquez le pardon!

Je dis «pratique» parce que c'est vraiment une pratique. Tout comme nous pratiquons le yoga, un sport ou une danse, le pardon exige de la pratique parce que nous ne réussirons pas toujours à le faire correctement. Nous sommes humains et il est facile que des souvenirs de colère et de frustration nous arrivent. Cependant, la pratique rend parfait - un jour. Pardonne pour toi, pas pour eux. Vous libérer pour profiter de votre vie et vivre aujourd'hui au maximum; sans le nuage de la négativité qui pèse sur vous.

 3. Soyez vous!

Si vous étiez censé être quelqu'un d'autre, vous seriez cette personne. Vous êtes pour une raison. Embrassez-le et acceptez tout de vous. Acceptez vos cheveux bouclés, acceptez que vous pouvez être mesquins parfois et acceptez que vous n'êtes pas là où vous voulez être dans votre vie en ce moment. Une fois que vous vous acceptez, vous n'avez plus à vous battre et il devient plus facile de vous aimer.

 4. Récompensez-vous!

Quand j'étais plus jeune, je me sentais souvent indigne de tout ce que je recevais. Je dépenserais sans réfléchir de l'argent quand j'étais stressé et je me demande ce qui est arrivé à mon argent le lendemain du shopping. J'ai développé depuis une stratégie où je me récompense pour les petites choses que j'ai accomplies. Je recommande de le faire pour vous-même. Si tu avais fini d'étudier ce chapitre qui semblait ne jamais finir? Peut-être vous acheter un rouge à lèvres ou de l'eau de Cologne? Vous avez passé une dure journée au travail? Peut-être vous prendre au cinéma? Avez-vous essayé un nouveau cours de spinning qui vous semblait difficile? Peut-être offrez-vous un délicieux dessert. Vous faites bien cette chose qu'on appelle la vie, souvenez-vous de cela!

 5. Utilisez le miroir pour vous, pas contre vous!

J'enseigne et pratique le yoga chaud presque tous les jours. Si vous n'êtes pas familier avec cela, le pratiquant est censé se tenir devant le miroir pour leur alignement. En tant que professeur de yoga, je vois souvent les élèves se juger - ce qui peut être facile à faire; Cependant, cela peut nous apporter de la négativité et finalement nous faire tomber. Utilisez le miroir en votre faveur en disant des choses comme: «Vous êtes assez» plutôt que d'être dur envers vous-même. Vous pouvez soit être votre intimidateur ou votre meilleur ami. 

5 formas de amarte más 🇨🇮

Con todas las investigaciones recientes que lo respaldan, se ha vuelto muy evidente que el amor propio es tan importante, o más importante, que amar a alguien más que a uno le importa.

Para dar amor, primero debes conocerlo y comprenderlo. El Dr. Wayne Dyer dijo, 'No puedes dar lo que no tienes'. Aquí hay algunas pequeñas formas en que puede amarse a usted mismo:

 1. ¡Dite a ti mismo que eres increíble!

A veces confundimos elogiarnos a nosotros mismos por ser egoístas o narcisistas. Sin embargo, soy un firme creyente en tratarse a usted mismo como su amigo. Así como felicitarías a tu amigo, felicítate cuando te mires en el espejo. Es bueno saber que alguien, incluso si eres tú mismo, piensa que eres adorable y digno.

2. ¡Practica el perdón!

Digo 'practicar' porque realmente es una práctica. Así como practicamos yoga, un deporte o baile, el perdón requiere práctica porque no siempre lo haremos bien. Somos humanos y es fácil que los recuerdos de ira y frustración nos invadan. Sin embargo, la práctica lo hace perfecto, un día. Perdona por ti mismo, no por ellos. Liberarte para disfrutar de tu vida y vivir hoy en plenitud; sin la nube de negatividad sobre ti.

3. ¡Sé tú!

Si fuera a ser alguien más, sería ese alguien. Eres tú por una razón. Acéptalo y acepta todo sobre ti mismo. Acepta tu cabello rizado, acepta que a veces puedes ser mezquino y acepta que no estás donde quieres estar en tu vida ahora mismo. Una vez que te aceptas a ti mismo, ya no tienes que pelear contigo mismo y es más fácil amarte a ti mismo.

4. Recompénsese!

Cuando era más joven, a menudo me sentía indigno de todo lo que recibía. Intencionalmente gastaría dinero cuando estaba estresado y me preguntaría qué pasó con mi dinero el día después de las compras. Desde entonces, he desarrollado una estrategia en la que me recompenso por las pequeñas cosas que he logrado. Recomiendo hacer esto por ti mismo. Si terminaste de estudiar ese capítulo que parecía que nunca terminaría? ¿Quizás te compres una barra de labios o colonia? Pasaste por un día difícil en el trabajo? ¿Quizás te llevas al cine? ¿Intentó una nueva clase de spinning que sintió que era un desafío? Tal vez disfrute de un delicioso postre. Estás haciendo esto llamado vida, recuerda eso!

5. ¡Usa el espejo para ti, no en tu contra!

Enseño y practico yoga caliente casi todos los días. Si no estás familiarizado con él, se supone que el practicante debe pararse frente al espejo para alinearlo. Como profesor de yoga, a menudo veo a los estudiantes juzgándose a sí mismos, lo que puede ser fácil de hacer; sin embargo, puede traernos negatividad y, en última instancia, derribarnos. Utiliza el espejo a tu favor diciendo cosas como "Eres suficiente" en lugar de ser duro contigo mismo. Puedes ser tu matón o tu mejor amigo. 

7 ways to boost your self-esteem.

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In the past few years, I've really learned what it means to have self-worth. I am finding out more and more that when you can appreciate yourself it is a true blessing.

I thought that I would share a few ways that helped me raise my self-esteem:

1. Learn to say "no."

This way, when you say yes it's for things that are meaningful. When you learn to say no to things and people, it helps you prioritize and remember what's in your best interest. You also begin to like and appreciate yourself for having your own back. The reality is that only you can have your back because, you're the only person who can know what you truly want.

2. Forgive yourself!

The only way to move beyond the past is to let go of it. We all make mistakes, but holding on to them, or telling yourself how badly you've done won't help you achieve anything positive in your life. Let go of the judgment and nasty names that you've called yourself, and move forward.

3. Limit your apologies only for when you hurt people.

Only say sorry when you've hurt someone. When you continuously say sorry for making mistakes, you're basically apologizing for living. Everyone makes mistakes in life — that's a guarantee. It's nothing to be apologetic about. It also makes your apology to someone you've hurt more meaningful and special because you aren't throwing around the word a lot.

4. Respect yourself.

When you respect yourself, the attitude seeps into to all areas of your life. It means that what you put in your mouth, what you tell yourself and what you do all have healthy benefits to you and your body. Feeling guilty and ashamed isn't a form of respect. So steer away from things that make you feel that way. Put things in your body and mind that make you feel good about yourself and proud of your decisions.

5. Set up clear boundaries for people in your life.

People treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you allow chaos and drama into your life, that's what you'll get. If you allow happiness and joy into your life, you'll get that instead! You deserve to be respected, and only you can initiate this by telling yourself and others what you do and don't appreciate in your life.

6. Surround yourself with people who are positive influences.

People who are negative tend to be a drag to be around. It can be exhausting to deal with people that see the worst in everything. One of the great things about life is that you can decide who you want to be in your life. You deserve people in your life who will lift you up with positivity, and you deserve to lift others up with positivity, too.

7. Smile at yourself in the mirror.

If you want to be mean to yourself, then by all means, go ahead and wish you could be better-looking, call yourself hurtful names and tell yourself that you're unworthy of love. However, if you want to be kind to yourself, start by smiling. Just smile at yourself and you will begin a positive and healthy relationship with yourself.

7 façons de booster votre estime de soi

Au cours des dernières années, j'ai vraiment appris ce que signifie avoir de la valeur personnelle. Je découvre de plus en plus que lorsque vous pouvez vous apprécier, c'est une véritable bénédiction. J'ai pensé que je partagerais quelques manières qui m'ont aidé à augmenter mon amour-propre:

Les 1. Apprenez à dire "non".

De cette façon, quand vous dites oui, c'est pour des choses qui ont du sens. Lorsque vous apprenez à dire non aux choses et aux personnes, cela vous aide à établir des priorités et à vous souvenir de ce qui est dans votre meilleur intérêt. Vous commencez aussi à aimer et vous apprécier pour avoir votre propre dos. La réalité est que vous seul pouvez avoir votre dos parce que, vous êtes la seule personne qui peut savoir ce que vous voulez vraiment.

Les 2. Pardonnez-vous! La seule façon de dépasser le passé est de lâcher prise.

Nous faisons tous des erreurs, mais les retenir, ou nous dire à quel point vous avez mal fait ne vous aidera pas à accomplir quelque chose de positif dans votre vie. Lâchez le jugement et les mauvais noms que vous avez vous-même appelés, et avancez.

Les 3. Limitez vos excuses seulement pour quand vous blessez des personnes.

Seulement dire désolé quand vous avez blessé quelqu'un. Quand vous dites continuellement désolé de faire des erreurs, vous vous excusez pour vivre. Tout le monde fait des erreurs dans la vie - c'est une garantie. Ce n'est rien d'être apologétique. Il présente également vos excuses à quelqu'un que vous avez blessé plus significatif et spécial parce que vous ne jetez pas beaucoup autour du mot.

Les 4. Respectez-vous.

Lorsque vous vous respectez, l'attitude s'infiltre dans tous les domaines de votre vie. Cela signifie que ce que vous mettez dans votre bouche, ce que vous vous dites et ce que vous faites ont tous des avantages pour vous et votre corps. Se sentir coupable et avoir honte n'est pas une forme de respect. Alors éloignez-vous des choses qui vous font sentir de cette façon. Mettez des choses dans votre corps et votre esprit qui vous font vous sentir bien dans votre peau et fiers de vos décisions.

Les 5. Définir des limites claires pour les personnes dans votre vie.

Les gens vous traitent comme vous leur permettez de vous traiter. Si vous laissez le chaos et le drame dans votre vie, c'est ce que vous obtiendrez. Si vous permettez le bonheur et la joie dans votre vie, vous obtiendrez cela à la place! Vous méritez d'être respecté, et vous seul pouvez l'initier en vous disant, ainsi qu'aux autres, ce que vous faites et n'appréciez pas dans votre vie.

Les 6. Entourez-vous de gens qui ont des influences positives.

Les gens qui sont négatifs ont tendance à être un frein à être autour. Il peut être épuisant de traiter avec des gens qui voient le pire dans tout. L'une des grandes choses de la vie est que vous pouvez décider qui vous voulez être dans votre vie. Vous méritez des personnes dans votre vie qui vous élèveront avec la positivité, et vous méritez d'élever les autres avec la positivité, aussi.

Les 7. Souriez à vous dans le miroir.

Si vous voulez être méchant avec vous-même, alors n'hésitez pas, allez-y et souhaitez que vous puissiez être plus beau, appelez-vous des noms blessants et dites-vous que vous êtes indignes d'amour. Cependant, si vous voulez être gentil avec vous-même, commencez par sourire. Souriez juste à vous-même et vous commencerez une relation positive et saine avec vous-même.

En los últimos años, realmente aprendí lo que significa tener autoestima. Estoy descubriendo más y más que cuando puedes apreciarte a ti mismo es una verdadera bendición. Pensé que compartiría algunas maneras que me ayudaron a elevar mi autoestima:

1. Aprende a decir "no".  

De esta manera, cuando dices que sí, es por las cosas que son significativas. Cuando aprende a decir no a las cosas y a las personas, le ayuda a priorizar y recordar lo que le conviene. También comienzas a gustarte y apreciarte por tener tu propia espalda. La realidad es que solo tú puedes estar de espaldas porque eres la única persona que puede saber lo que realmente quieres.

2. ¡Perdónate a ti mismo!

La única forma de ir más allá del pasado es soltarlo. Todos cometemos errores, pero aferrándonos a ellos, o decirte a ti mismo lo mal que lo has hecho no te ayudará a lograr nada positivo en tu vida. Deja ir el juicio y los nombres desagradables que te has llamado a ti mismo, y sigue adelante.

 3. Limita tus excusas solo cuando lastimas a las personas. Solo pide perdón cuando has lastimado a alguien. Cuando continuamente dices disculpas por cometer errores, básicamente te disculpas por vivir. Todos cometemos errores en la vida, eso es una garantía. No es para pedir disculpas. También hace que tu disculpa a alguien a quien has lastimado sea más significativa y especial porque no estás hablando mucho de la palabra.

4. Respetarte a ti mismo.

Cuando te respetas a ti mismo, la actitud se filtra a todas las áreas de tu vida. Significa que lo que pone en su boca, lo que se dice a sí mismo y lo que hace, todos tienen beneficios saludables para usted y su cuerpo. Sentirse culpable y avergonzado no es una forma de respeto. Así que aléjate de las cosas que te hacen sentir de esa manera. Ponga cosas en su cuerpo y mente que lo hagan sentir bien consigo mismo y orgulloso de sus decisiones.  

5. Establezca límites claros para las personas en su vida.

Las personas te tratan cómo permites que te traten. Si permites el caos y el drama en tu vida, eso es lo que obtendrás. Si permites la felicidad y la alegría en tu vida, ¡en cambio lo conseguirás! Usted merece ser respetado, y solo usted puede iniciar esto diciéndose a sí mismo y a los demás lo que hace y lo que no aprecia en su vida.

6. Rodéate de personas que son influencias positivas.

Las personas que son negativas tienden a ser un lastre para estar cerca. Puede ser agotador tratar con personas que ven lo peor en todo. Una de las mejores cosas de la vida es que puedes decidir quién quieres ser en tu vida. Mereces personas en tu vida que te levanten positivamente, y también mereces elevar a los demás positivamente.

7. Sonríete a ti mismo en el espejo.

Si quieres ser malo contigo mismo, entonces, por supuesto, adelante y desearía poder estar mejor, llamarse nombres hirientes y decirse a sí mismo que no es digno de amor. Sin embargo, si quieres ser amable contigo mismo, comienza sonriendo. Simplemente sonríe y comenzarás una relación positiva y saludable contigo mismo.

The 5 greatest gifts you can give to loved ones.

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We often think of gifts as material goods, and we often demonstrate our love for those who are close to us through material gifts. But when physical gifts break or disappear, what remains?

Our love connections and the way that we treat one another can be some of the greatest gifts. Here are five that I would like to share with you:

1. Let your loved ones be who they want to be.

This means that if your loved one makes a decision you aren't happy with, accept it and trust that they will be okay. Instead of wanting your partner's life to be how you want it to be, accept that he has her own life to live. Love them enough to support their decisions unless they're harming themselves and others.

2. Just give without any expectations.

A lot of us give to our loved ones and become angry or disappointed when they do not give us something in return. We place expectations on them for them to do the same as we have done for them. Let people give to you because they want to, not because they feel as through they owe you. Giving is not a burden; it's something you should genuinely want to do.

3. Genuinely care.

There's nothing more loving than when someone looks into your eyes out of pure consideration. Asking someone how they are while you are talking on your phone isn't a sign that you appreciate and consider the person that you are talking to. Take the few seconds to make eye contact.

4. Smile at your loved one.

Smile! It may be all that they want to see after having a rough day, or even before they begin a day that they think will be challenging. Ease up your loved one's day by giving them your smile. It doesn't cost anything and can create a lighter mood among a hostile one.

5. Consider if you would want to be treated the same way that you are treating them.

Sometimes we can get lost in our own heads. Every now and then, take a look at how you treat your loved ones and ask yourself if you would want to be treated the way that you are treating them. Regardless of how they have treated you, ask yourself if you have been fair in your treatment towards them. After all, we aren't responsible for how someone has treated us but we are responsible for how we treat others. This will allow you to treat people the way that you want to; not out of retaliation of how you have been treated but because you care about them.

The many things that I can’t control vs. the one thing that I can.

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When I was a kid and in my early twenties, I suffered from a lot of anxiety. My wanting to control everything overwhelmed me and would create anxious thoughts in my head.

For the past decade, I have made an effort to let go of the past with Yoga and meditations.

I came to the realization that I am not able to control the following things and only able to control one:

• I can’t control the weather. There will be alterations in the weather day-to-day.

• I can’t control my hair. I will have bad hair days, that’s when a bun or braids comes in handy.

• I can’t control the fact that I won’t always look the way that I want to. Fat and ugly days are a real thing.

• I can’t control what people say about me. All that I can do is live true to me and do my best.

• I can’t control that student that left my yoga class upset with me. I have other students to focus on.

• I can’t control unhappy and discontent people. Sure I can be an influence but, ultimately, they are the only ones who can make themselves happy.

• I can’t control how people feel about me. They are entitled to feel how they feel.

• I can’t control being ghosted by two of my exes. People deal with closure in different ways.

• I can’t control why I was bullied in the past. ‘Hurt people hurt people’.

• I can’t control that guy who put his hand on  my backside while I was working.

• I can’t control my former boss who would make jokes about sleeping with me.

• I can’t control people who go out of their way to make me feel badly about myself.

• I can’t control when my future life partner will come into my life. 

The thing I can control:

Myself! I am the master of my thoughts and actions. Although I don’t have control over everything previously mentioned, I certainly have control over how I respond and what I will do after.

Walk into 2018 with these four empowering mantras.

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I’m not sure about you, but 2017 was a challenging year for me.Although I am grateful for the character building characteristics of being challenged; a little ease and positivity after it most certainly feels good.

As a firm-believer of affirmations and manifestations, it is important to keep ourselves motivated and empowered regardless of what happens to us.

We said goodbye to 2017 and now let’s welcome 2018 with love and assurance that our best days are ahead of us, with these mantras:

1. I am stronger than my challenges because I am still here.

Regardless of how difficult some things may seem while you are in them. Once they are done, it is clear that you are stronger than them because you are still here and your problems or challenges are not. If they are, I can guarantee you that there will be a moment in time when they won’t be with you anymore.

2. Breathe, believe and succeed.

In my opinion, the equation to a fulfilled life is remaining at peace, believing in yourself , what you love and doing the hard work. It’s important to remain calm because worrying during this process will block your blessings. To be blessed, you must be open to receive your blessings. Negativity and worry only blocks that,

3. There is power in now.

This mantra can be applied to all areas of your life. It can help you practice being in the present moment, it can help you make the most of the moment and it can remind you to live this moment because it will be gone. Choose what it means to you. And, use it to progress this year.
4. Feed your destiny.

I heard this mantra from a sermon by Joel Osteen. In the sermon, he explained that it is easy to go through periods in time that are challenging and to get caught up in being negative; however, feeding your past can only get in your own way. To maximize the potential of your future, use words and energy that positively impact your future and what lies ahead.

🇫🇷Marcher en 2018 avec ces quatre mantras habilitants.

Je ne suis pas sûr de vous, mais 2017 a été une année difficile pour moi.Bien que je suis reconnaissant pour les caractéristiques de construction du personnage d'être contesté; un peu de facilité et de positivité après tout cela se sent certainement bien. En tant que fervent défenseur des affirmations et des manifestations, il est important de rester motivé et responsabilisé indépendamment de ce qui nous arrive.

Nous avons dit au revoir à 2017 et maintenant accueillons 2018 avec amour et assurance que nos meilleurs jours sont devant nous, avec ces mantras:

1. Je suis plus fort que mes défis parce que je suis toujours là.

Indépendamment de la difficulté que certaines choses peuvent sembler pendant que vous êtes dedans. Une fois qu'ils ont terminé, il est clair que vous êtes plus fort qu'eux parce que vous êtes toujours là et que vos problèmes ou vos défis ne le sont pas. Si c'est le cas, je peux vous garantir qu'il y aura un moment où ils ne seront plus avec vous.

2.Respirez croyez et réussissez.

À mon avis, l'équation d'une vie accomplie reste en paix, en croyant en soi-même, en ce que vous aimez et en faisant le dur labeur. Il est important de rester calme car s'inquiéter pendant ce processus bloquera vos bénédictions. Pour être béni, vous devez être ouvert à recevoir vos bénédictions. La négativité et l'inquiétude ne font que bloquer cela.

3. Il y a du pouvoir maintenant.

Ce mantra peut être appliqué à tous les domaines de votre vie. Il peut vous aider à vous entraîner dans le moment présent, il peut vous aider à profiter au maximum du moment et vous rappeler de vivre ce moment car il sera parti. Choisissez ce que cela signifie pour vous. Et, utilisez-le pour progresser cette année.

4. Nourrissez votre destin.

 J'ai entendu ce mantra d'un sermon par Joel Osteen. Dans le sermon, il a expliqué qu'il est facile de traverser des périodes difficiles et de se laisser prendre au piège de la négativité; cependant, nourrir votre passé ne peut que vous suivre à votre façon. Pour maximiser le potentiel de votre avenir, utilisez des mots et de l'énergie qui ont un impact positif sur votre avenir et sur ce qui vous attend.

🇨🇮Caminar hacia 2018 con cuatro mantras de empoderamiento.

No estoy seguro de ti, pero 2017 fue un año desafiante para mí. Aunque estoy agradecido por las características de construcción del carácter de ser desafiado; un poco de facilidad y positividad después de que se sienta bien.

Como firme creyente de afirmaciones y manifestaciones, es importante mantenernos motivados y con poder independientemente de lo que nos suceda. Nos despedimos de 2017 y ahora recibamos 2018 con amor y seguridad de que nuestros mejores días nos esperan, con estos mantras:

1. Soy más fuerte que mis desafíos porque todavía estoy aquí.

Independientemente de cuán difíciles pueden parecer algunas cosas mientras estás en ellas. Una vez que terminan, está claro que usted es más fuerte que ellos porque todavía está aquí y sus problemas o desafíos no lo están. Si lo son, te puedo garantizar que habrá un momento en el que ya no estarán contigo.

2. Respira, cree y triunfa.

En mi opinión, la ecuación para una vida plena es permanecer en paz, creer en ti mismo, lo que amas y hacer el trabajo duro. Es importante mantener la calma porque preocuparse durante este proceso bloqueará tus bendiciones. Para ser bendecido, debes estar abierto para recibir tus bendiciones. La negatividad y la preocupación solo bloquean eso,

3. Hay poder ahora.

Este mantra se puede aplicar a todas las áreas de tu vida. Puede ayudarte a practicar el estar en el momento presente, puede ayudarte a aprovechar al máximo el momento y puede recordarte vivir este momento porque ya no estará. Elija lo que significa para usted. Y úsala para progresar este año.

4. Alimenta tu destino.

Escuché este mantra de un sermón de Joel Osteen. En el sermón, explicó que es fácil atravesar períodos en el tiempo que son desafiantes y quedar atrapado en ser negativo; sin embargo, alimentar su pasado solo puede ponerse a su manera. Para maximizar el potencial de su futuro, use palabras y energía que tengan un impacto positivo en su futuro y en lo que le espera.

5 words that you should remove from your vocabulary

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Words carry power, and I've found called myself names I thought I didn't mean, only to find out later that I did mean them. Because behind every word is intention.

If my intention is to be kind to myself and to others, then I have no reason to use the following words:

1. Stupid

We call ourselves, people and things stupid if they don't do what we want them to when we want them to. Releasing this word from your vocabulary allows you to accept things the way they are. Who are we to judge who someone is? What something is? And when something occurs?

2. Fat

If you're calling yourself and others this word, STOP! This word spreads pure hate. Do you want to contribute hate or love to this world? If you want to be a positive influence in this world, using this word will do the opposite of your intention.

3. Should

If things were meant to be a certain way, they would be that way. If you were meant to be with your former partner, you would be. If you were meant to be a millionaire, you would be one. If you were meant to have different parents, you would have different parents. You are exactly where you are meant to be, and you can use what you have to progress. Wishing things were different from how they are now will stop you from progressing successfully.

4. Hate

It isn't only a strong word, but a word that promotes negativity. Why focus on what's going wrong with your day and life, when you can focus on what's going right.

5. Loser

People have their own routes in this journey of life. Most of the time there isn't a winner and a loser because all of us have something to learn from life. If someone has decided to live life the way that they want to, which may seem bizarre to you and others, you aren't the judge of how and what they are meant to achieve. Have enough respect and consideration for people to let them live life the way they want, without them being fearful of labels and restrictions.

15 more reasons to forgive

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Every three months, I take a yoga challenge. I practice hot yoga for 30 consecutive days, and I also give myself 30 reasons to forgive. Here are 15 of my favorites from my last challenge:

1. I forgive because holding onto judgements about myself and others only shackles my mind and soul to negativity.

2. I forgive because I want to remember more than the wrong that's been done to me.

3. I forgive because we are all humans. Counting what is wrong with others will only bring me down; how long can I keep fighting?

4. I forgive because I am not a victim. Anything that has been done to me was not under my control.

5. I forgive because I will not allow negative people and negative situations to have a hold over my life.

6. I forgive because today is too beautiful to be spent judging and scrutinizing people around me.

7. I forgive because if I don't move past offense, I will drive myself crazy.

8. I forgive because I don't expect people to be kind; I merely appreciate those who are. The only way I can appreciate those who are kind is by forgiving those who are unkind.

9. I forgive because what has happened, has happened. It's time to let it go.

10. I forgive because in this imperfect human body I am in no state to hold anything against anyone.

11. I forgive because I can't expect others to live by my expectations.

12. I forgive because I can't rewrite the past, and I don't want to.

13. I forgive because my sense of peace is not worth sacrificing over something that happened in the past.

14. I forgive because I want to wish others well, including those who have hurt me.

15. I forgive because I want to have hope. Hope is not obtained by holding onto what has gone wrong.

4 ways to create the life that you want

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It may seem difficult to create the life that you want. Whether it may be a dream job, a new business venture or a relationship, it is possible to achieve what you want.

If you see a vision for yourself that is higher than what you see around you, make it happen. It is definitely possible!

Here are some tools to help you do so:

1. Manifest.

Manifestation is power. It is powerful because by manifesting you are raising your vibrations and putting what you want out into The Universe. Whenever I want something, I manifest it through meditation and let it go. And, most of the time it comes to pass.

2. Trust.

Through the process of creating the life that you want, you must trust The Universe or higher-being. When you trust, you release any anxiety, worry or stress because you understand that if it is meant for you, it will be. Surrender your vision and your plan to your higher-being and trust that it will come to pass.

3. Visualize.

Visualization can be powerful. I highly recommend creating a vision board. This is so that when things get difficult during the process of creating what you want, you keep going and moving towards your goals. It’s easy to get lost in the negatives of why things aren’t working. Elevate yourself by keeping a board that has images of why want what you want and the reward for doing it.

4. Make it happen.

You can manifest, visualize and trust until you are black and blue form effort; however, you must also get out there and make it happen. It may seem daunting to go after what you want because you could fail, right? But, failure is just redirection. No one who is successful got there by sitting on their couch. Creating the life you want requires making it happen.

4 façons de créer la vie que vous voulez.

Il peut sembler difficile de créer la vie que vous voulez. Que ce soit un travail de rêve, une nouvelle entreprise ou une relation, il est possible de réaliser ce que vous voulez. Si vous voyez une vision qui est plus élevée que ce que vous voyez autour de vous, faites en sorte que cela se produise. C'est définitivement possible! Voici quelques outils pour vous aider à le faire:

1. Manifeste

La manifestation est le pouvoir. C'est puissant parce qu'en manifestant vous élevez vos vibrations et mettez ce que vous voulez dans l'Univers. Chaque fois que je veux quelque chose, je le manifeste à travers la méditation et je le laisse partir. Et, la plupart du temps, cela arrive.

2. Confiance.

À travers le processus de création de la vie que vous voulez, vous devez faire confiance à l'Univers ou à l'être supérieur. Lorsque vous faites confiance, vous libérez toute anxiété, inquiétude ou stress parce que vous comprenez que si cela est fait pour vous, ce sera le cas. Abandonnez votre vision et votre plan à votre être supérieur et ayez confiance que cela arrivera.

3. Visualisez.

La visualisation peut être puissante. Je recommande fortement de créer un tableau de vision. C'est ainsi que lorsque les choses deviennent difficiles au cours du processus de création de ce que vous voulez, vous continuez et progressez vers vos objectifs. Il est facile de se perdre dans les aspects négatifs de la raison pour laquelle les choses ne fonctionnent pas. Élevez-vous en gardant un tableau avec des images de pourquoi vous voulez ce que vous voulez et la récompense pour le faire.

4. Faites-le arriver.

Vous pouvez manifester, visualiser et faire confiance jusqu'à ce que vous soyez un effort de forme noir et bleu; Cependant, vous devez également aller là-bas et y arriver. Cela peut sembler décourageant d'aller chercher ce que vous voulez parce que vous pourriez échouer, non? Mais, l'échec est juste la redirection. Personne qui a réussi n'est arrivé en s'asseyant sur leur canapé. Créer la vie que vous voulez exige que cela se produise.

4 formas de crear la vida que deseas

Puede parecer difícil crear la vida que deseas. Ya sea que se trate de un trabajo de ensueño, una nueva empresa comercial o una relación, es posible lograr lo que desea. Si ves una visión para ti que es más alta que lo que ves a tu alrededor, haz que suceda. ¡Definitivamente es posible! Aquí hay algunas herramientas para ayudarlo a hacerlo:

1. Manifiesto.

La manifestación es poder. Es poderoso porque al manifestar estás elevando tus vibraciones y poniendo lo que deseas en el Universo. Cada vez que quiero algo, lo manifiesto a través de la meditación y lo dejo ir. Y, la mayoría de las veces se trata de pasar.  

2. Confianza 

A través del proceso de crear la vida que deseas, debes confiar en el universo o ser superior. Cuando confías, liberas cualquier ansiedad, preocupación o estrés porque entiendes que si es para ti, lo será. Entregue su visión y su plan a su ser superior y confíe en que sucederá.

3. Visualiza.

La visualización puede ser poderosa. Recomiendo crear una tabla de visión. Esto es para que cuando las cosas se ponen difíciles durante el proceso de creación de lo que deseas, sigas avanzando y avanzando hacia tus objetivos. Es fácil perderse en lo negativo de por qué las cosas no funcionan. Alégrese manteniendo un tablero que tenga imágenes de por qué quiere lo que quiere y la recompensa por hacerlo.

4. Haz que suceda

Puedes manifestar, visualizar y confiar hasta que seas negro y azul; sin embargo, también debes salir y hacer que suceda. Puede parecer desalentador perseguir lo que quieres porque podrías fallar, ¿no? Pero, el fracaso es solo una redirección. Nadie que tenga éxito llegó allí sentado en su sofá. Crear la vida que deseas requiere hacerlo realidad.

What I would tell my 18 year-old self

photo by Alcy Sivyer

I remember graduating from high school almost as though it was only a few years ago, not a decade ago. When I was 18, I felt very lost.

I had no idea what I was doing in life, my career because I hated school and, secretly, had little hope that I would survive in the ‘real world’. Which, gave me anxiety because the worst thing in the world is not being able to survive.

Clearly I did survive! Being a young adult has been challenging but great. But, I wish I had been told the following things:

1. Believe in yourself.

I know that it is difficult to believe in yourself but if you don’t, who else will? People trust and hire confident people. Give yourself a leap forward in life by supporting and believing in yourself, it makes life easier.

2. Set boundaries of respect for yourself.

Right now, I see that people in your life treat you however they want to and you don’t know how to tell people to treat you with respect. First, start with respecting yourself and you will notice that most people will follow suit. Also, don’t be afraid to communicate to someone if you feel they have disrespected you. I truly believe that most people are unaware of how they behave and, in Maya Angelou’s words, ‘When people know better, they do better’.

3. Forgive!

Forgiveness is so important. Hali, there is no point in holding onto what that girl, Claire said to you, she will forget and you will be stuck holding onto negativity and stress within your body. That’s the biggest problem with unforgiveness, most of time, the person who has done wrong has no idea and we hold onto anger for something that can just be let go of. Your life belongs to you, not those who have done you wrong or hurt you.

4. You don’t have to prove that you are lovable, you just are.

You are about to go through three long-term relationships where your biggest lesson is to learn that you are lovable- you don’t need to convince others that you are. As a woman, you have been told that you are only worth being loved at a certain weight, with a certain hair colour and if you can be a good ‘wife’. But, Hali, all of that is a lie. You were made from love, The Universe’s love, and therefore, you are an expression of it. No matter what you look like, you are already worthy of love.

5. There is enough to go around.

Contrary to what you have been told, there is enough to go around. There is enough money, enough men, enough water, enough food and enough anything to let go of the need to compete with your fellow humans to get what you need, particularly fellow females. When you see another woman doing well, let it inspire you. Use her well-doing to motivate you. If she is able to achieve, so are you. Live life to life others up, not push them down.

Or, maybe learning them was part of my experience. So, I am grateful for the process that lead me to learn from them.

6 reason why I forgive myself.

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There’s truly nothing worse than regret. The truth is that when we don’t do our best or feel like we could’ve done better, we feel regret, even guilt or shame.

These negative feelings lead us no where but down a hole of anxiety and depression. We deserve better than that.

For this reason, am a firm-believer in self-forgiveness. Here are 6 other reasons why:

1. I am constantly learning and growing.

Growth is a process which will involve making mistakes. Yes, we all fall but what’s powerful is getting back up. I forgive myself because I am constantly learning and growing.

2. I am not perfect.

We are expected to do and be a lot. Nowadays, you say or do one wrong thing and people come after you via twitter or social media. We are not meant to be perfect and there is a beauty in that. If we all walked around as perfect robotic beings, life would be boring. I forgive myself for not being perfect.

3. I am in control of my happiness.

Yes, I could spend hours, days and months dwelling on my mistakes but where would that get me? Repeating negative thoughts will only bring me down. I forgive myself because I am in control of my happiness.

4. Now that I know better, I can do better.

These words are from Maya Angelou. Sometimes the only way to become a better person is through trial and error. I recently went through a situation with a man where I was beating myself up for allowing him to treat me the way that he did. A reminder of this quote came into my head and I felt calm. It took me not knowing better to find out and understand what better is. I forgive myself because now that I know better, I can do better.

5. I am stronger than what I went through.

I am stronger than my mistakes because I am still here. If I have gotten through them, then it is time to let them go. Sometimes being stronger than a situation speaks more volumes than how you got into it to begin. I forgive myself because I am stronger than what I went through.

6. I don’t always have to be right.

In the words of Joss Stone, ‘I’ve got a right to be wrong, my mistakes will make me strong.’ As a human being, I am allowed my mistakes. I’m not saying that they will happen often, however, I can let go of the notion that I need to be perfect and never do any wrong. I forgive myself because I don’t always have to be right.

4 types of people that you need to distance yourself from.

If you asked me a few years ago if I knew how to set boundaries for myself, I would  have replied, ‘Boundaries? What boundaries?’

Truthfully, I wasn’t the greatest at setting boundaries but now I find them necessary. What is also necessary is distancing yourself from toxic people.

This article is inspired by a meme that I saw on Instagram that quotes Dwayne Johnson on the type of people that we should distance ourselves from:

1. People who lie to you.

Like we were told when we were young kids, ‘A liar is a thief and a thief is a liar’. This may sound a bit exaggerated, however, you can’t trust people who lie to you. To avoid conflict and issues in your life, distance yourself from people who lie to you because you won’t be able to trust them. And, what good is a relationship that doesn’t have trust?

2. People who disrespect you.

Like my mother always used to tell me, ‘Every doormat says welcome’. That saying has stayed with me everyday of my life. When we allow people to disrespect us, we are responsible too. To protect yourself from disrespectful behaviour, distance yourself from disrespectful people because only you can stand up for yourself.

3. People who use you.

We all have people in our lives who like to push our buttons, harass us for money or feel entitled to our time. Well, it’s time for you to distance yourself from them. It is not always your problem when people find themselves in a bind. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help but don’t become someone’s crutch, you deserve better than that.

4. People who put you down.

Unfortunately insecure, mean and unfriendly people exist. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with them. You deserve to be surrounded by people who support, appreciate and acknowledge you; not people who put you down. If you hang around people who call you names, disrespect you or treat you badly, you will soon do the same to yourself.