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3 Ways that we can heal racial tensions.

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I want to spend my life healing. Living what I ask of others in all areas of my life. I have seen too many examples of the antithesis in the wellness community. People who spew trends to gain followers and attention. Growing a community is great but intentionally creating something for attention is not my goal. I want to root myself in authenticity and transparency.


There is no doubt that globally, there is a lot of tension around race and class issues that are founded upon different structures or ideas depending on where you live. So, I am not speaking for everyone. I am speaking from my experience and how I believe healing can transpire when it comes to race.


Although in many circumstances, race has become attached to a political party. This article is not about politics and never will be, on this blog. Who you choose to vote for is your prerogative.


Here are 3 ways that we can heal racial tension:


1. By speaking from a place of understanding.

I distanced myself from a friendship with someone who would identify herself as being a white liberal. We got into an argument because she was trying to tell me what racism was and gloating about how other white people are racist but she is not. However, every time I offered her a different perspective about the racism I have experienced, she cut me off and shut me down.


This, to me, is one of the ultimate forms of racism. Those who think they are championing on behalf of my demographic but don’t even allow me to speak. They know what’s better for me than I do. Which is the very definition of white supremacy.


It is so vital for us to listen to one another. We might learn from someone else. I have learned and am still learning that if I knew everything, I would be dead. Life is about growth and becoming a better person. Not diminishing what someone else has to say.


2. By acknowledging that all races can be racist.

There is a recent radical ideology that only one race can be racist because of power structure and that is a complete fallacy.


In fact, the most racism that I have experienced has been by what we socially call Latinos and Asians living in The U.S.A. When I often mention this, people dismiss me because a lot of the focus has become about racism from white people. However, the pain I have felt from being racially profiled by someone of another race (other than white) has felt just as painful.


Racism is a form of evil and within all of us is good and evil. We all carry the potential to be racist.


3. No one is above me and I am not above another.

About a year ago, I had an argument with a guy that I used to date. He would also identify himself as a white liberal. We are no longer in communication but when we did speak, he would make condescending remarks about black people and would often recommend a specific playlist that was ‘urban’ to me and I felt as though it was merely because of the color of my skin. He knew that I loved all genres of music and so did he but would only recommend a specific genre to me to listen to. I felt like he was trying to ‘put me in my place.’


I am telling you this story to highlight that often the people who feel as though they can speak for another race, in a lot of my cases it has been white liberals, carry a condescending tone that makes it seem like they are above me.


No one is above me and I am just as capable of succeeding as any other race. Therefore, I do not appreciate those who will label themselves as acknowledging that they have white privilege and then speak for me without listening to what I have to say. Or, will not acknowledge that I am capable of succeeding as much as they can. Only God is above me and my beautiful skin is a blessing, not a curse.



9 Inspirational quotes by Maya Angelou

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My lifelong inspiration and teacher is Maya Angelou. Although she has passed on, she lived a life that few of us will forget. I remember the first time hearing her voice on a soundtrack while we were driving in my Dad’s car at the age of five and felt a deep connection to her voice. Ever since then, she has had a deep and profound influence on me.

As I always say (which has been inspired by Ms. Angelou), as I learn I want to teach. And, her teachings have had a great impact on my life so I would like to share a few quotes from her to you.

Here are 9 quotes by Maya Angelou:


1. ‘Still I rise’


2. ‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.’


3. ‘Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.’


4. ‘All great achievements deserve time.’


5. ‘I got my own back.’


6. ‘I believe that everyone is born with talent.’


7. ‘If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing life can be.’


8. ‘Develop enough courage so that you can stand up for yourself and then stand up for someone else.’


9. ‘Only equals can become friends.’


Reference from www.wisdom quotes.comand Brainy quotes

3 Reasons why I stopped forcing positivity.

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They say too much of anything is bad for you and while I am hesitant to go along with the masses, I believe this to be true. Mostly because I have learned a lot about being the kind of person that gives all or nothing.
A lot of my life has been about alchemy, particularly when it comes to health and feeling good in my own body. I’ve carried this trend to almost everything that I have done and, recently, self-help and positivity.

Even though last year was the hardest year of my life, it was the one that carried the most growth for me. I learned that I didn’t have to overthink, over-fix or over-do anything, there is only so much that I can do. When I teach my students this, it makes sense to me. However, applying it is always something that is challenging- especially because I believe in hard-work and overcoming obstacles.


In 2020, I was forced to accept that sometimes I just have to sit with a feeling and not take things so personally. I couldn’t force the outcome through positive-thinking because that was becoming toxic.


Here are 3 reasons why I stopped forcing positivity:


1. I am a Spirit in a human body.
No matter what religious or cultural background you have adopted in this lifetime, life is not meant to be easy. And, when we expect it to be that way, we are only touching the surface. Which doesn’t do anything for us but project a false sense of who we are.


We cannot change, grow or evolve if we are just skimming the surface. It usually takes depth and understanding to do so. The whole human experience is meant to be profound and multidimensional; not just 3-d.


In this humanly body, I want to have evolved through depth and conception not by forcing a projected idea of what others think I should be. This experience involves crying, laughing, smiling, being neutral and other phases without judgement and attachment but with understanding and compassion.


2. Positive gaslighting is a real thing.


When I had one of my most pivotal moments in my life, I was 23 and had left an emotionally abusive relationship. Which both of us were complicit in.
After I ended this relationship, I became sober and did hot yoga everyday for 30-days straight. As a result, I had memories of shame regarding how I behaved when I used to drink to numb the pain of the reality that I created in my life. The embarrassment felt so over-whelming sometimes that I would suppress these feelings and shut them out.


I tried to erase my mistake-filled past with being perfect. Eating the right things, behaving perfectly, being almost holy and embodying what others would describe as sweet or nice. It was a facade that I projected to avoid accepting that I hadn’t behaved in the best way before.

I was subconsciously torturing myself for the past by not allowing myself to be human or feel. I was gaslighting myself with positivity by creating an alternative reality as to how things truly were. When I was faced with challenging people and things, I would lie to myself and project that it was easy and I was fine because I felt guilty of how I had acted in the past.
I came to realize that guilt cannot take back time and through forgiveness and grace, I can offer myself another chance to do things differently. Not out of force but by natural evolution and change.


3. There is no need to force anything in life.
There is a difference between effort and force. In fact, forcing some things to work out has landed me in a lot of trouble. Especially when dealing with other people.
Because I am a hard-worker and give things my all, sometimes I can give more and take on things that I am not meant to. This has attracted people (to me) who are okay with taking and offering little-in-return because when they don’t want to assume responsibility in the relationship, I will.


This is a toxic belief system. One that I have left behind. I cannot and won’t do work for others in relationships: it is meant to be shared. I used to give myself positive talks when dealing with emotionally abusive people of situations by saying things like, ‘You are stronger than this’, ‘You attracted this’, ‘We all have our issues’ or, ‘What if they were just having a bad day’.


These phrases might be true; however, if I use them to gloss over serious issues, they are not helping me or anyone else but merely doing harm. Yes, positivity can be toxic, too.



3 Ways that I healed my childhood trauma.

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It is no secret that I grew up in a household with what seemed like, to me, a narcissistic parent. When I was 5 years-old, my parents began the process of divorce and that is when looking back, I have memories of me being a happy and fun child to not anymore.


This article is not intended to blame anyone. It is to acknowledge what me and so many children who are raised by narcissistic Mothers go through. It can be a deep pain that, once we admit, can free us up of hurt that can run through the very fabric of who we are.
I grew up in a household of secrets, expcetations, gaslighting and un-necessary guilt all at the hands of my Mother. Who claimed it was for my betterment but it did the opposite.


As I write this, I am obviously emotional but I can guarantee you that I am in a much better place than I have ever been and this has been a long time coming but is imperative to let all children who have gone through emotional, physical or mental abuse that you are not alone.
Here are 3 ways that I healed my childhood trauma:


1. Honesty.


The first time that I went to therapy as an adult was when I had just left an abusive romantic relationship with a man my senior. I have always been attracted to older men.


When I stepped into my counsellors office, I felt broken, worn down and empty inside. Over the months of our sessions, I began to uncover that a lot of my pain regarding that relationship was barely about him and more of my upbringing. I had memories of my Mother calling me fat, ugly and saying that I was just like my Dad. Who she believed to be evil and had very little kind things to say about.


After uncovering this, I hadn’t fully grasped how much this damaged me and left an imprint on my self-esteem but I did start to understand that a lot of my partnership problems stemmed from the emotional abuse that I had endured from my Mother. I knew I had work to do about this but I was afraid of facing the truth.


After some time, the truth became too apparent to deny as I remembered flashbacks of her insulting me and degrading me. All of which I had labeled as punishment for being a ‘bad’ child. However, I came to realize that my acting out was a result of being insulted by, who I believed, should’ve been the person who believed in me and cheered me on the most- my Mother.


2. Boundaries


I have said in a previous article that my narcissistic relationships, as an adult, helped me create and mantain boundaries.


The older that I got, I noticed that My Mother had a problem with these boundaries that I had set. She would always find a way to impose on my life, insult me or ask me for money that she felt entitled to. Because, as she would repeat, she was the one who stayed to raise us when my Father left us. Therefore, she was immune to criticism and being held accountable.


Just like clockwork, every time I would hold her accountable for her actions or not give into her narcissistic web of deception, I was met with the victimization story. Phrases like, ‘I could have left just like your Dad did’, ‘The doctors told me to abort you but I didn’t’ or, ‘I gave you your name and put you through private school’.


This is how, I believe, narcissists may avoid all responsibility for how they treat you because at the end of the day, they convince you that they are worse off victims than you are. So when you start to hold them accountable, you are met with stories about how bad of a person you are for expecting more from them. It can be very damaging to a person’s mental health to expect respect from a narcissist because you will never get it.


As I have gone through a ton of healing, I only have space for people who are willing to be held accountable for their actions, as I am for mine. I am done dealing with people who make you feel guilty for asking for genuine respect and kindness. It is not something I will chase after someone for. Either it is given or not.


3. I developed my own voice.


Because I grew up afraid to speak up for my health and well-being, I would let people close to me treat me however they wanted to. Being raised by (in my opinion) a narcissistic Mother, I had difficulty speaking up for myself and sticking with my convictions because I was used as a prop to make her feel better about herself.


In public, she was the concerned parent, dressed to the nines and showed up for most events. However, behind closed doors, there was a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. It confused me and broke my spirit as a child living under that household.


She would have a habit of bringing up something I had done when I was a kid that was a mistake or when I was naughty to have leverage over me and to make me feel like a fundamentally bad person when what I needed was guidance. In addition, the shaming would be in front of a group of other family members so that she maintained her power. Narcissists‘ currency is power and having leverage over others so that they project how they feel onto you, empty inside.


Because I was raised by someone who literally tried to strip me of my inner voice and played mental gymnastics with me to just speak up for myself, once I did it felt unnatural and almost like someone was going to tell me that I have been misbehaving for some reason. When all that I have been is me.

Through yoga, therapy, meditation, forgiveness and God’s Grace, I have found true healing. I no longer speak to my Mother and have no plan of doing so. In fact, cutting her off was the best thing that I have ever done in my life.
If you have ever suffered emotional, physical or mental abuse from anyone- particularly a family member, I encourage you to take a step back from them for your wellbeing and seek the healing that you need.
It is time for us to heal, as a collective, and to lay generational curses to rest. Once and for all.



9 Mistruths about Empaths.

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There has been a recent rise in the need to know more about everything. To me, this is an extension of The Age of Aquarius that we have entered right now.


As we become more in tune with ourselves and expend our spiritual knowledge, we have become familiar with some terms. One of these terms used commonly these days is ‘Empath’ as though it’s a badge of honor.


However, most people who are Empaths feel Things way more than the average and most things who are feel cursed and not blessed by it.


To give some clarity about this, here are 9 mistruths of Empaths:


1. Empaths are not capable of being narcissists.


2. Empaths are fundamentally good people.


3. Empaths cannot hurt others.


4. Empaths are victims.


5. Empaths are fully understood.


6. Empaths are psychics.


7. Empaths are weak.


8. Empaths are vulnerable.


9. Empaths always come from a good place.



9 Affirmations for healing from trauma.

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Whether we like to admit it or not, a lot of life involves pain and hurt. However, it is our job to release it and move forward from it.

Like the saying goes, ‘Turn lemons into lemonade.’


There is a lot of negativity and hate in The World but I am not interested in amplifying that. I am more aligned with healing, progression and moving forward with an open heart.


As such, it is up to all of us to do so regardless of what has happened to us and to do so with a lightness to let go and surrender situations that become to heavy for us.


There are many ways to do this but one of my favorite ways is to affirm it by repetition or inner-acknowledgement.


Here are 9 affirmations for healing from trauma.


1. I release the burden of victimization.


2. I open myself up to healing.


3. I move forward with love and grace.


4. I am open to being humble.


5. I practice forgiveness.


6. I am in the flow of life, what is not meant for me is not coming with me.


7. My growth is my choice.


8. I am connected to divinity and in divine order, when it is time to let go I shall.


9. I am in a perpetual state of healing.



9 Things that I had to release to vibrate higher and attract people who are doing the same.

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I was telling a friend of my past relationship horror stories and remembered the kind of people that I used to keep in my life. Although they were a mixed bag of people, there was a general energy amongst most of them that they could use me, verbally or emotionally abuse me and, I would be okay with it.


As I have grown, that is clearly no longer the case but it took a lot to get here. All the work was worth it because I can clearly say that I have no problem defending myself and speaking up for what I believe in with convictions. All while still trying to maintain a healthy and balanced life of joy.


I’ve learned to not to take what someone else does to me, no matter what it is, personally. Because taking it as such is the first set up to taking on baggage on drama that is not mine to own.


While I have learned a lot. Some of this journey has involved me releasing a lot and sometimes reluctantly. However, I had to and now that I have, I am grateful that I was nudged by The Divine to do so.


Here are 9 things that I had to release to vibrate higher and attract people who are doing the same:


1. The need to make excuses for myself and others.


2. The need to seek revenge on others.


3. Victimhood thinking.


4. My former hate for men.


5. My former reluctance to genuinely be happy for others.


6. The need to people-please and fit in.


7. The idea that I must say yes to a favor I am asked even if I don’t want to do it.


8. To receive male attention by seeking it in degrading ways.


9. That I must expect others to do more for me that I can do for myself.

Dear Hater/ (former) fake friend,

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Dear hater/ fake fiend:


I firstly want to start off by apologizing for any feelings of resentment that I have felt for you.


Over the past 3 years, I have watched you play two sides: the one who is friendly and the other who is malicious and involved in gossip.


I apologize for contributing into the gossip as I thought that friendships needed to have this beforehand. However, now I see that they don’t. I have developed genuine friendships over the past years and none of them are like the one that we had.


I see you for who you are, a disloyal human being who is only serving herself and will do so behind the facade of a smile with ulterior motives.
Thank you for showing me who you are because now I know for sure, it is people like you that I cannot trust.

Those who claim to be neutral but secretly scheme behind the guise of peace and love.


I am writing you to let you know that I have no hate for you. Even though you will probably tell people otherwise. But, how you behave is between you and God. It is not up to me to judge you or punish you for how you have treated your ‘friends’. That is God’s work.


Maybe your karma for being a backstabber will come back to you. Maybe it won’t. It is not my job to determine the outcome.
Thank you for one of the biggest lessons that I could’ve ever received. That sometimes the people who smile the most are those who do not genuinely mean well for you.

It is one of the best gifts that I have ever received.

9 Signs of Healthy Friendships.

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Naturally, when I was younger, I wanted to have a lot of friends to prove my popularity. I thought if I had a ton of friends then it would fulfill me but as I have gotten, I know that this is not the case.


I have also been shown time and time again, that it is easy to acquire friendships; however, maintaining them can be more challenging. Especially as we become more healthy and evolve, I have decided that I don’t need to be friends with everyone.


In my life, I strive for health and that goes with friendships, too. Therefore, if a bond with someone, friend or not, becomes unhealthy, I am okay with releasing it. There is a huge difference between unhealthy and experiencing differences in any relationship.


Here are 9 signs of healthy friendships:


1. You feel heard.


2. You don’t gossip about other friends of yours.


3. There is trust.


4. You can depend on them.


5. They do not disappear on you during a disagreement or when you confront them on an issue.


6. They respect your boundaries.


7. There is as much listening and understanding as there is talking.


8. There is no hierarchy. No person is above another.


9. You feel understood, supported and as though they are loyal to you.


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9 Affirmations for 2021.

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Another year is upon us and I am so grateful to be alive. Although last year was a tough one, it was one of the best years that I have had because I learned many lessons.And, I remembered the biggest lesson of all: divine source has placed a light in me (and in all of us) that is ignited once we allow it to work through us.


I am not a huge fan of New Year’s Resolutions; however, I do support betterment and intentional new beginnings.


Here are 9 affirmations for 2021:


1. I allow Divine Source (God) to work through me for The Higher Good.


2. I am a medium for Divine’s Source message and purpose.


3. I am in alignment with Divine Source.


4. I am in alignment with abundance.


5. I am still instead of overreacting.


6. I am at peace with my past.


7. I embrace new beginnings.


8. I know that everything is working out for the greater good.


9. I surrender all of my worries, anxieties and stresses to Divine Source because they have no place in my life.


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9 Things that I would rather be other than rich.

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Sometimes I find myself being caught in the need to make money in order to feel worthy and then I remember that money is not everything. It is just a tool. Yes, it can provide us with opportunities; but so can our bodies, our minds, our relationships and our mindsets. 

Having money is not bad, it is what we do with it and how we obtain it that can lead us down a destructive path. So, here are 9 things that I would rather be other than rich: 

1. Humble.

2. At peace with myself. 

3. In-sync with life. 

4. A Child of God. 

5. Wealthy in mind and manifestations. 

6. A genuine and sincere person. 

7. Someone who supports others. 

8. Someone who supports myself. 

9. Someone who makes lemonade out of lemons- figuratively obviously! 

3 Things I wish I was told as a kid.

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I have recently overcome the pain and trauma associated with my childhood. It has taken being truthful, finding forgiveness and making peace with the past so that I can process it- in a gentle and loving way. 

This is not to blame anyone but I think as a child, we are often not told some things that can be vital for our growth. As I have forgiven my parents, particularly one parent, I have let go of the need to criticize them and add to that pain. I feel like enough people have judged me and held me to an impossible expectation for me to do it another. 

Ultimately, we forgive so that we are forgiven and I am not an angel. Like I mentioned, this is not about blame but it is about truth and honesty is the only way forward because secrets manifest into physical and/or emotional abuse, trauma and damage that can be detrimental to the fabric of our souls and beings. 

I made a choice in my life to be honest to break the generational trauma that had been passed down to me. The biggest one is that you don’t tell people what you’re going through because no one must know how you really feel. There is freedom in confronting the truth and in helping others do the same. 

So, here are 3 things that I wish I had been told as a child: 

1. You are not crazy, your school teacher(s) might not like you but I support you and am willing to speak up for you. 

I can countlessly remember when I would come home (as a child) and express how I felt picked on by my teachers. In all honesty, I hated school. I was bullied a lot, mostly by my teachers. But, you see, in traditionally African families, bullying is meant to be ignored. 

I have recently overcome the immense resentment that I carried to many of my teachers when I recently saw some of them and saw insecure people who just wanted to be liked. Hence, why they were bullies. I would be lying if I said that when I would tell my parents that my teachers were bullying me that it didn’t leave intense scarring on my emotional well-being. But, what is done is done! 

I wish I had heard that I wasn’t crazy when a teacher would tell me to sit down because the speech that I had spent so much time on was, in her words, ‘appalling and not worth listening to’, after I spoke one sentence of it. These experiences are painful and un-necessary- no matter who tells you that you need them to become stronger. So, I ask all parents to listen to your children if they feel like their teacher is bullying them. They are worthy of being listened to.  I would have had more trust in the education system and trusted authority more if I had felt heard, seen and listened to. 

It is a myth to think that teachers do not have an influence on what and how your child learns, pay attention to any feedback your child has about them. 

2. You don’t need to attend college to be successful at something that you want to do. 

I am an advocate for education and learning. I probably read a book a week. My thirst for knowledge is something that has been a common thread in my life. Something that I have learnt from absorbing tons of information is that you have to want to learn what you are consuming. 

We are in the Information Age and we have the fortune of being able to learn at the top of our fingertips- yet most people are still ignorant and unaware. I am grateful to have been born to two Scientists and have learnt a lot from them. Particularly my Father who’s brain is like a high-tech machine, he is truly a genius and revolutionary. 

However, their path and mine is different. They were able to be the first in their family to attend college and I applaud them but it is not for everyone. I have a few certifications and have spent years in tertiary education, which I am grateful I have been able to do. But, there is not one path to success. Some of the most successful people attended trade schools, didn’t finish college or took a coding class instead of attending traditional college. 

As long as you are giving your all, thriving and headed forward in the direction that you are mean to, I support whatever route you take. 

3. There is no age to success. 

Both my parents taught me many lessons but my Dad’s words of wisdom have stuck with me when I really needed them. I am grateful to have a Father like him. 

I am not sure where I learnt this conditioning of needing to ‘Keep up With The Joneses’ but I used to suffer from it and every time I had a birthday, I would become depressed. Every year, this feeling dissipates more and more but I can say now when the feeling of seeming unaccomplished comes along, I know it is not true. Not because of what I have accomplished but because the need to compete with others, when it is not for fun, is based on a lie.

The lie that looking at what someone else’s life will bring me happiness and joy when happiness is a choice. What I have or haven’t had is meant for me: whether it’s in the form of lessons or materials. I am grateful for everything in my life, including opportunities that I have ‘missed out on’. 

9 Things I am unlearning as a Spiritual Teacher.

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Almost 8 years ago, I began my journey as a yoga teacher then health coach and now spiritual guidance teacher. I have memories of who I used to be when I first started teaching and I feel like a completely different person because I am. 

You see when I started teaching, I was mentally and emotionally weaker, I had little boundaries and, I was afraid to speak up for myself. If someone had told me that I would be where I am today, I would be shocked that I could endure so much as a teacher because it is not for the weak or insecure. In fact, overtime your character (or lack of) is revealed. That is why many people quit teaching yoga. 

About 5 years ago, I made a decision to let go of the need to fit into the group-thinking of teaching because I saw a lot of my colleagues filled with pain and hurt, that was not being addressed. I decided to look in the mirror and do the real-work, as a teacher, and let go of the need to tell others what to do if I was not doing the same. 

The best way to teach is by being an example. One of which I strive for everyday. Along this process, I have been unlearningmany things as a spiritual teacher. Here are 9 of them: 

1) That my triggers are someone else’s fault. 

2) That all of my students will learn from me. 

3) That I can enforce my opinion on others. 

4) That teaching from a place of insecurity will provide me security. There is no faking sense of self. 

5) That if someone complains about me, it is worth giving merit. 

6) That if I tell others what to do, I am immune for the responsibility of my own life. 

7) That yoga will miraculously cure all of my problems. 

8) That I need to put up with inconsistency and lack of boundaries. 

9) That I need to hold onto someone else’s hurt or pain to help them get through it. I am free, in body, mind and spirit. I do not need to be weighed down by burdens. 

Why do I want to forgive her?

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Why do I want to forgive her? 

Because, truthfully, not everyone is coming from a genuine place. 

I forgive her because a lot of us have been conditioned to operate from a place of fear and, I too, was like that. 

I forgive her because she has shown me that she is not a friend. And, better to know now than down the road in my life. 

I forgive her because my intuition was right. I knew that she was inauthentic and would not be there for me when I needed her. 

I forgive her because I can’t control her so I choose to send her love from a distance where I know that her actions will not affect me anymore. 

I forgive her because her hurt is like hot lava and will spread and hurt anyone around her, by proxy. 

I forgive her because I am too old to deal with passive communication. I try my best to communicate from a place of integrity and then move forward with love. 

I forgive her because life is too short to dwell on people and situations that would rather see you upset than happy most of the time. 

What it took to get to me-September 2020

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It took me admitting that I have had unnecessary expectations for myself and others, to get to me. 

It took me understanding that lusting and crushes are not real love, to get to me. 

It took me being at peace with myself, to get to me. 

It took me letting go of blaming every man alive for some who have been misguided, to get to me. 

It took me surrendering my heart, soul and body to God, to get to me. 

It took me accepting that intuition is real, to get to me. 

It took me letting go of the need to compete with another woman for a man’s attention, to get to me. 

It took me understanding the power of forgiveness, to get to me. 

It took me accepting that health in relationships is attractive, to get to me. 

9 façons de définir des limites claires.

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Je suis un ardent défenseur des limites saines. J'ai beaucoup grandi en étant une personne «oui» et cela m'a privé de ma présence, m'a maudit d'anxiété et, par-dessus tout, m'a volé la paix. Sous mon besoin de plaire à la mentalité, il y avait le besoin de contrôler ce que les gens ressentaient et pensaient à moi.

Dans ma logique précédente, si j'étais la personne «parfaite», personne ne m'intimiderait, ne discuterait avec moi ou ne rendrait ma vie problématique. J'avais tort. Mon ancien manque de limites m'a conduit à être un paillasson pour ceux qui ont vu qu'ils pouvaient l'utiliser contre moi dans tous les domaines de ma vie: famille, travail et relations amoureuses.

Les fondements du Yoga et cette pratique m'ont aidé à fixer des limites parce que je consacrais 90 minutes par jour pour moi, mon esprit et mon corps - pour être loin de toute autre chose. J'ai mis en œuvre des croyances yogiques comme l'abandon, la méditation et la reconnaissance que mon corps est un temple dans ma vie quotidienne.

Alors que je commençais à m'ancrer dans ma pratique quotidienne, j'ai commencé à me tenir plus grand et plus fier de qui j'étais - me permettant de fixer des limites claires. Soudain, mon «oui» était oui et mon «non» était non sans culpabilité, colère ou besoin de plaire. Voici 9 façons de définir des limites saines:

1. Dites ce que vous devez dire en toute confiance.

2. Prenez de grandes respirations avant et après avoir parlé avec conviction.

3. Ne prenez pas personnellement la réponse de l’autre personne à votre limite.

4. Commencez à pratiquer le pardon afin de pouvoir parler à partir d'un lieu ancré et non de colère ou d'irrationalité.

5. Lâchez le besoin d'avoir raison.

6. Laissez tomber le besoin de se tromper.

7. Comprenez que vous ne pouvez pas changer le passé, mais que vous pouvez créer votre avenir par des limites claires.

8. Lâchez le besoin de l'autre personne de comprendre d'où vous venez et définissez la limite pour vous.


9. Acceptez qu'il est normal de prendre soin de vous-même et de renoncer à toute culpabilité liée à la communication de votre frontière à un autre.

Lo que se necesitó para llegar a mí: agosto de 2020

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Lo que se necesitó para llegar a mí: agosto de 2020

Me tomó aceptar la voluntad de Dios Para llegar a mi

Me tomó perdonar a mis padres Para llegar a mi

Me tomó curar a mi niño interior Para llegar a mi

Me tomó liberar la necesidad de imponer mi opinión a los demás. Para llegar a mi

Me tomó estar quieto Para llegar a mi

Me tomó abrazar a mi familia Soul Para llegar a mi

Me tomó entender que la felicidad es una práctica Para llegar a mi

Me tomó apreciar la masculinidad divina Para llegar a mi

Me tomó dejarme llevar Para llegar a mi

Me tomó renunciar a la idea de que lo sé todo Para llegar a mi

An Introduction to Angel Numbers.

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One of the big parts of alignment, in Spiritual terms, is seeing a synchronicity of numbers. Repeated formation of numbers like, 111, 222, 333... etc. Of course, these are not the only numbers that we see. However these are the most common. 

When one sees these numbers, they have different spiritual references. Essentially, they are messages from Angels to guide you to your most aligned and enlightened self. 

Here are a few examples and explanations of Angel numbers that you might be seeing:

111:

The number 1 signifies the beginning of something new. However, triple 1 signifies alignment. We see these numbers when we are most connected to Source and are able to visualize what we want and receive it. This is the number of manifestation. 

222

 2, specifically 22, is the highest vibrational number. You will most likely see this when you have been meditating a lot and your chakras are in alignment. It suggests that you have been doing the spiritual work and are on the right path. When you see this number, it generally means that you are headed in the right direction. 

333: 

Although many people have different versions of this. I conquer that this number is associated with something new coming into our lives to provide balance. 3 is the number of trinity, the perfect balance. When you see this number, pay attention to what has entered your life and how it is having an effect on your life- how it is providing you with balance. 

444

This has been the number that I have seen the most. It is a message from The Angels of letting go and trusting. When you see this number, you are being guided to trust that things will get better because The Angels know more about the situation than you do. So, surrender your worries to them and they will help you. 

555:

This trinity of numbers suggests that a big change is coming your way, it is usually associated with a spiritual transformation. For example, I saw this number before I met my twin flame. When you see this number, be prepared to be transformed and enlightened. 

1111

Similarly to 111, this number suggests that The Angels are telling you that you are highly aware and able to manifest. However, the added 1, is a number of high vibration. When you see this number, you are radiant and in the prime vibration for spiritual partnership, protection and manifestation. 

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12 Things that I would rather be called other than mean.

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We all have faced some harshness and unkindness in our lives. I used to believe that this was normal so I was unkind and accepted behaviour in my life that was not positive, affirming and reassuring. 

Who knows why I used to settle for less than I deserved but I see it all around- people accepting unkindness and mean-spiritedness when we shouldn’t. About 4 years ago, I went through a culmination of different events that changed my perception of how I approach people and what I wanted to project to the world. Ever since then, I made a promise to myself to practice kindness as much as possible. I don’t always get it right but that doesn’t mean that I stop trying. 

Here are 12 things that I would rather be as opposed to mean

1. Kind.

2. Understanding.

3. Compassionate. 

4. Mature. 

5. Fulfilled. 

6. Loving. 

7. Happy. 

8. Joyful. 

9. Playful. 

10. Honest. 

11. Aligned. 

12. Purposeful. 

What it took to get to me

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What it took to get to me

It took understanding the difference between money and love

To get to me 

It took me being open to not knowing everything

To get to me

It took me releasing the idea of needing to be perfect 

To get to me

It took letting go of the need to manipulate people

To get to me

It took me opening my heart and my mind 

To get to me

It took taking responsibility for what I say and do

To get to me

It took making daily choices to depict the person that I want to be

To get to me

It took me holding myself accountable 

To get to me

It took me appreciating the good and the bad

To get to me

It took me understanding that there is a bigger picture

To get to me

It took me not needing to seek revenge against myself and others 

To get to me

It took me being grateful for everything that has led me to this point 

To get to me