10 inspiring quotes By Beyoncé

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There is nothing more powerful than someone who has a vision, works hard and pushes boundaries. That is a brief description of Beyoncé. For more than 20 years, she has worked hard to raise bar of music, elevate the level of success amongst women and spread female empowerment through her actions and work. 

 

Here are 10 inspiring quotes by Beyoncé: 

 

1. The more successful I become, the more I need a man.

 

2.  We all have our purpose, we all have our strengths.

 

3.  Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.

 

4.  Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.

 

5. When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don't know you think.

 

6. If everything was perfect, you would never learn and you would never grow.

 

7.  We all have our imperfections. But I'm human, and you know, it's important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty.

 

8.  The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence

9.We all have our purpose, we all have our strengths.

10.Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.


 

Cher garçon insécurisé ...

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Cher non sécurisé,




Je te vois. Je t'entends. Tu es assez.


Ne soyez pas victime de la tendance des garçons et des hommes à penser qu’ils ont besoin de voitures, d’argent et d’un «physique gonflé» pour se sentir dignes. Toi seul suffit.



Je sais que la société vous dit d'être fort, mais je vous demande d'être vulnérable parfois parce que parfois, la vulnérabilité fait la force. Il existe une idée fausse selon laquelle pour être un homme, il faut être masculin. Parfois, être un homme signifie que vous devez être féminine.



Votre féminité vous permettra d'être qui vous êtes vraiment. Tout le monde a la masculinité et la féminité en eux. Je suis désolé de vous avoir dit de ne pas ressentir. Le sentiment est important parce que quand on se sent, on peut comprendre.



Vous pouvez comprendre pourquoi et comment vous faites les choses que vous faites. Ainsi, au lieu d'enterrer qui vous êtes vraiment, vous pouvez embrasser ce que vous êtes vraiment. Vous méritez d'être qui vous êtes.


S'il vous plaît, laissez les gens entrer. Je suis désolé pour tous ceux qui vous ont dit de ne pas le faire; Cependant, vous n'atteindrez pas votre potentiel en bloquant les gens. Laissez les gens et l'amour dans.


Lorsque votre partenaire veut mieux pour vous, prenez les devants. Ils ne vous insultent pas; ils voient votre potentiel et veulent grandir avec vous.


Peu importe combien de fois on vous dit que vous n’êtes pas digne, ne les croyez pas. Vous êtes digne de toutes les bénédictions qui vous parviennent.


Cordialement,

4 Things that I wish I could tell anyone who has ever bullied me.

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Unfortunately, bullies are a part of life. When I was younger, I would spend time running away from people who would go out of their way to make me feel less than, people who intentionally insulted me and people who told me (in so many ways) that I was not worthy.


High School was the time when I was bullied the most. And, while I was going through it, it didn’t fully process that I was being bullied because I didn’t believe that there were people who were so intentionally mean-spirited.


Once I could fully grasp that I was being bullied, I decided to stand up for myself and I made a choice to never ever let anyone try and make me feel less than. Overcoming bullying was not easy but I did and will continue to do so because I know that I am strong enough to handle it and sometimes, them.


If I ever saw the people who have previously bullied me, I would tell them the following:


1. I forgive you.

Yes, I forgive you for all that you put me through. The older that I get, I understand people more and more. I know that the place that you acted from is insecurity and not feeling worthy. Because people who feel worthy do not have the urge to make others feel unworthy. If you felt valid, you would treat people as such. Your behaviour is an example of what is going on in your mind. I hope my forgiveness helps you find peace.

Peace that you (and everyone) deserves.


2. Thank you.

You helped me access my strength and for it, I am a stronger and more capable person. They say that a diamond only starts to shine when pressure is applied to it. So, I owe a part of the twinkle in my eye to you. A lot of your actions felt un-necessary but now I know that it was always necessary in making me the strong and capable person that I am today. You gave me lemons and I made lemonade. I thank you for giving me some of the ingredients that I needed to make and shape me.


3. Only you have to live with your consequences.

When I think about you, sometimes I get angry thinking that a person like you is using your life to spread negativity. You have chosen this life to exude negativity. Of all the things that you have chosen to spread, negativity seems like a pathetic choice. Even though it may seem that way towards me, I am not the one that has to live with your consequences, you do! You have to live with what you have done. That is why I release any judgement because only God can judge others. I will continue to focus on the energy that I put out in this World. And, hope that I put out positivity and love.


4. Hating you is no longer an option.

I have spent a lot of time hating you. But, hating you only means that I have to spend time thinking about you. While I create negative thoughts in my head, you are unaware of them. So, what is the point of these thoughts anyway? My body is a temple and recreating what someone else has done to me is not serving to create peace and love in this body and mind. Therefore to you and everyone, I choose to release any hate, anger and animosity.

The Playlist of Hope: 10 chansons pour vous élever.

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Voici mes dix chansons pour vous aider à vous mettre de bonne humeur:

 

1. All night - Beyoncé.



2. Audio - Sia, Diplo et Labyrinth.



3. End of Time - Beyoncé.



4. Light It Up- Major Lazer.




5. Rise Again - Liquideep.




6. I Trust You-James Fortune.




7. Make it happen - Mariah Carey.




8. Say yes - Michelle Williams, Kelly Rowlands et Beyoncé




9. Onto The Next One - Jay-Z & Swiss Beatz.




10. Just Can’t Get Enough - Black Eyed Peas

Dear Insecure Boy...

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 Dear Insecure,


I see you. I hear you. You are enough.


Please don’t fall victim to the trend of boys and men feeling as though they need cars, money and a ‘pumped-up physique’ to feel worthy. You, alone, are enough.


I know that society tells you to be strong but I am asking you to be vulnerable sometimes because sometimes, vulnerability is strength. There’s a misconception that to be a man, you need to be masculine. Sometimes being a man means that you need to be feminine.


Your femininity will allow you to be who you truly are. Everyone has masculinity and femininity in them. I’m sorry that they told you not to feel. Feeling is important because when you feel, you can understand.


You can understand why and how you do the things that you do. So that instead of burying who you truly are, you can embrace who you truly are. You deserve to be who you are.


Please let people in. I’m sorry for all those people who told you not to; however, you will not reach your full potential by blocking people off. Let people and love in.


When your partner wants better for you, step up to the plate. They are not insulting you; they see your potential and they want to grow with you.


No matter how many times you are told that you are not worthy, please don’t believe them. You are worthy of every blessing that comes your way.

Sincerely,

4 tipos de personas de las que necesitas distanciarte.

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El año pasado escribí un artículo titulado "4 tipos de personas de los que necesitas distanciarte". Este artículo fue bien recibido de miles de personas en todo el mundo. Entonces, pensé que iba a hacer otra.




Me gustaría agregar que, "distanciarse" de algo o de alguien no lo hace egoísta; significa que aceptas a alguien o algo por lo que son y preferirías no tratar con ellos.


Aquí hay 4 personas más de las que necesitas distanciarte:



1. La gente que persigue la fama.

Antes de mudarme a Los Ángeles, no tenía un conocimiento completo de las personas que persiguen la fama. Pero definitivamente hay un tipo de persona que persigue la fama. Alguien que está constantemente buscando la validación y aprobación de las personas que los rodean. Irónicamente, estas personas a menudo no son famosas y no todas las personas famosas han buscado la fama. Menciono personas que están constantemente en Instagram, buscando desesperadamente seguidores. Me refiero a las personas que son infelices en su vida diaria, pero en las redes sociales viven como los Kardashians. Menciono a los que van a Hollywood con la esperanza de que alguien los descubra y, de repente, sus vidas cambien. La razón por la que necesita distanciarse de estas personas es que tienen mucho trabajo interno que hacer en ellas mismas. ¿Qué tipo de gente buscaría de qué huyen tantas celebridades? La respuesta es alguien que piensa que la fama puede resolver los problemas que enfrentan en sus vidas. Lo cual es completamente irrealista. Hasta que las personas que persiguen la fama aprendan que son suficientes, nada (incluida su presencia) será suficiente para ellos.




2. La falsedad.

Como Acuario y alguien que nació y vivió en Nueva York, las personas falsas me molestan. Mi crecimiento es aprender a tratar con estas personas sin ser arrogantes, tercos y con compasión y amor. Sin embargo, a veces hay que amar a la gente a distancia y recordar que todos están haciendo lo mejor que pueden. Por alguna razón, las personas que son falsas no se sienten dignas de ser reales. Que, no puedo relacionarme con. Desde que era niño, me duele ser falso con alguien porque valoro la autenticidad. Estoy aprendiendo a distanciarme de personas falsas porque están en su propio viaje y no necesito obligarlas a estar en el mismo viaje que el mío.



3. Deseo de lavado.

Todos tenemos ese amigo, familiar o colega con el que nunca podrá contar. El que continuamente te decepciona al no mostrarte ni estar allí cuando lo necesitas, a pesar de que has dado tu tiempo y energía en numerosas ocasiones. A decir verdad, no todo el mundo es un donante, lo cual está bien. Se convierte en tu problema cuando dejas que esta persona te lo haga una y otra vez, dejándote enojado o como si no fueras digno. Mereces personas a tu alrededor que se presenten o hagan un esfuerzo para aparecer y tú eres el que permite que este comportamiento continúe. Distanciándose de las personas con promesas vacías hace que las personas cumplan sus promesas y estén realmente a su disposición cuando dicen que lo estarán.



4. La ignorancia.

Realmente creo que la ignorancia es la cosa más fácil de perdonar. Sin embargo, eso no significa que tenga que tener personas ignorantes a su alrededor. En general, las personas ignorantes, no están dispuestas a cambiar su forma de pensar. Y, con quien te rodeas es en quien te conviertes. Aléjate de las personas que ven la vida solo a través de su lente y ábrete a las personas que ven la vida a través de la lente de muchos. Para que tu mente pueda expandirse también.

4 Types of People to distance yourself from.

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Last year I wrote an article entitled, ‘4 Types of People you need to distance yourself from’. This article was received well and loved from thousands of people around The World. So, I thought that I would do another.


I would like to add that, ‘Distancing yourself’ from something or someone doesn’t make you selfish; it means that you accept someone or something for who they are and you would prefer to not deal with them.


Here are 4 more people that you need to distance yourself from:


1. People chasing fame.

Before moving to Los Angeles, I didn’t have a full grasp on people who chase fame. But there is definitely a type of person who chases fame. Someone who is constantly seeking validation and approval from people around them. Ironically, these people are often not famous and not all famous people have sought out after fame. I am mentioning people who are constantly on Instagram, desperately searching for followers. I am referring to people who are unhappy in their daily lives but on social media are living like The Kardashians. I am mentioning those who  go to Hollywood in hopes that they will be discovered by someone and all of sudden their lives will change. The reason why you need to distance yourself from these people is that they have a lot of internal work to do on themselves. What kind of people would seek what so many celebrities run from? The answer is someone who thinks that fame can solve the problems that they are facing in their lives. Which is completely unrealistic. Until people who chase fame learn that they are enough, nothing (including your presence) will be enough for them.


2. Fakeness.

As an Aquarius and someone who was born and lived in New York, fake people annoy me. My growth is learning to deal with these people without being arrogant, stubborn and with compassion and love. However, sometimes you have to love people from a distance and remember that everyone is doing the best that they can. For some reason, people who are fake do not feel like being real is worthy. Which, I cannot relate to. Ever since I was a kid, it pains me to be fake towards someone because I value authenticity. I am learning to distance myself from fake people because they are on their own journey and I don’t need to force them to be on the same journey as mine.


3. Wishy washiness.

We all have that friend, family member or colleague who you can never count on. The one who continuously lets you down by not showing up or being there for you when you need them, despite the fact that you have given your time and energy on numerous occasions. Truthfully, not everyone is a giver- which is okay. It becomes your problem when you let this person do it over-and-over to you, with you being left upset or like you are not worthy. You deserve people around you who show up or make an effort to show up and you are the one who allows this behaviour to continue. Distancing yourself from people with empty promises makes space for people fulfill their promises and are genuinely there for you when they say that they will be.


4. Ignorance.

I truly believe that ignorance is the easiest thing to forgive. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to have ignorant people around you. In general, ignorant people, are not willing to change their mindset. And, who you surround yourself with is who you become. Distance yourself from people who see life through their lens only and open yourself up to people who see life through the lens of many. So that your mind can expand too.

The Playlist of Hope: 10 songs to put you in a good mood.

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Here are my ten songs to help put you in a good mood:


1. All Night- Beyoncé.


2. Audio- Sia, Diplo and Labyrinth.


3. End of Time- Beyoncé.


4. Light it Up- Major Lazer.


5. Rise again- Liquideep.


6. I trust you- James Fortune.


7. Make it happen- Mariah Carey.


8. Say yes- Michelle Williams, Kelly Rowlands and Beyoncé


9. On to The Next One- Jay- Z & Swiss Beatz.


10. Just can’t enough- Black Eyed Peas.

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4 Izinto engifisa sengathi ngabe ngazi ngaphambi kokuqala ukuthi ngangihlukunyezwa ngokocansi.

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Angikhumbuli okokuqala ukuthi ngangihlukunyezwa ngokocansi; Kodwa-ke, ngiyazi ukuthi kwenzeke izikhathi ezingaphezu kwalokho engingathanda ukuthi kwenzeke. Ngasekuqaleni kweminyaka engamashumi amabili, nganginomqashi ongangibuza ngezinsuku futhi enze imibono mayelana nokuthi 'enhle' wayecabanga ukuthi ngingubani. Kwangenza ngingakhululekile kepha mina, njengabanye abantu abaningi abayisisulu sokuziphatha okunjalo, nganquma ukuthula ngethuba lokuthi ngingase ngilahlekelwe umsebenzi wami.



Muva nje, ngishiye i-yoga studio engangifundisa ngoba ngangihlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Labuyisa izinkumbulo eziningi zendlela lokhu okwenzekile ngaphambili futhi, isikhathi esiningi, nginguye kuphela owabambelela okulungile. Ngishiya kwakuyisinqumo engikwenzile ukuze ngibe nengqondo ecacile, ukuthula futhi ngingasabi yisisulu empilweni yami yansuku zonke.


Njengawo onke, angizisoli lutho kodwa uma ngabe ngingazitshela izinto ezimbalwa ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Kungaba lokhu:


1. Iningi labantu ngeke likukholelwe ngenxa yezinkinga zabo.

Ngempela ngineqhaza lami elihle lomuntu ongathandeki wesilisa. Noma nini lapho ngikhulume ubunzima bokuthi lokhu kunakekelwa okungafuneki kuletha, ngiye ngahlangana nomuntu ',' akasho lutho olulimazayo 'noma,' okungenani ubonisa isithakazelo kuwe '. Zonke lezi zwi ziyangihlukumeza ngoba ngingaba nesithakazelo, angingeke ngikhononde ngakho. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bacindezelekile esikhathini esidlule. Bengathanda ukuba nomuntu omusha noma oguquguqukayo avaliwe ngaphandle kokwenza ushintsho oludingekayo ukuze sithuthuke njengomphakathi. Laba bantu banamathele futhi cishe bazohlala benamathela. Ungabhekeki kubo ububele noma umusa phakathi nalesi sikhathi esinzima, bheka phakathi noma phakathi kwabantu abakhathalela ngobuqotho ngawe kanye nenhlalakahle yakho.


2. Ungamangali lapho abantu bezama ukukutshela ukuthi uhlale uthule.

Emsebenzini wami wakamuva, ngivumela abaphathi bazi futhi, ngaphambi kokuba wazi, amatafula avuliwe kimi. Ngokungazelelwe ubuntu bomuntu ohlukumezayo behlehliswa ukungezwani nami ngigqoke kancane ngenkathi ngifundisa. Ngokweqile, indaba ejwayelekile yendoda ehlukumeza owesifazane, owesifazane okhulumela yena ohlangene nokuphikiswa okujulile. Ngaphambi kokuba wazi, amakilasi ami ayingxenye futhi abaphathi babengabe besakhuluma nami. Babefaka isimiso sokuthi ngihlale ngithule. Nokho, kimi, izwi lami libaluleke kakhulu kunekhokheji. Ngibonga ukuthi ngifundisa amanye ama-studios asekela, enomusa futhi angenzi iphutha lomuntu ukuthola ukunakwa okungadingeki.


3. Izwi lakho liphathelene nezindaba.

Ngasekuqaleni kweminyaka engamashumi amabili, ngangingakholelwa ngempela ukuthi izwi lami libaluleke kakhulu njengami manje. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokuziphatha kwakho nokho indlela ozizwa ukhululekile ngayo. Uma singazizwa sikhululekile ngento ethile noma othile, kubalulekile ukusho okuthile. Yebo, ungase uzinakekele. Noma kunjalo, ungase ubeke abanye amandla okusebenzisana nalo muntu naye. Ungalindeli ukuthi omunye umuntu akhulume ngoba, ngaleso sikhathi, abantu abangu-50 bahlukunyezwa kungenzeka


4. Kungase kube nzima kodwa ukwenze njalo.

Ingxenye eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu yokuma umhlabathi wami ukuthi abanye abantu engangibizile, 'abangane', babengikholwanga. Ukuntula kwabo ububele, umusa nokuqonda kungikhuthaza ukuqala kodwa kodwa ngabona lokhu njengesivivinyo somngani. Sonke singaba abangane uma sizijabulisa futhi sijabulela izikhathi ezimnandi kodwa, kuthiwani uma kufanele uvume ukuthi umngane wakho kungenzeka ukuthi udlule okuthile okukhudlwana kunalokho owafisa? Uyakholwa yini futhi ulalele? Noma, uzobahlulela futhi uthi bayakufisa lokhu?


Ungase uboniswe ukuthi abanye abantu bazakhela ukungaqiniseki kwabo kanye nokuntuleka kwekhono lokuzimela kuwe. Bavumele bahlole uhambo lwabo. Futhi, ngenkathi benza, qhubekela phambili ohambweni lwakho lobulungiswa nalokho okukholelwa ukuthi kungcono ngoba impilo yakho isesandleni sakho; hhayi abantu abafuna ukukuletha phansi futhi bakugcine ezingeni labo eliphakathi.

10 inspiring quotes by Elon Musk

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I’m a huge fan of people who want to leave The World a better place and, Elon Musk is the epitome of this. I am partially biased because I am South African too; however, this man is undoubtedly innovative and truly walks his talk. 

 

Here are 10 inspirational quotes from Elon Musk:  

 

1.When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favour.


2. You get paid in direct proportion to the difficulty of problems you solve.’



3. ‘I'm not trying to be anyone's savior. I'm just trying to think about the future and not be sad.’


4. ‘It is possible for ordinary people to choose to be extraordinary.’


5. ‘When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor.’


6. ‘Any product that needs a manual to work is broken.’


7. ‘Life is too short for long-term grudges.’

 

8. Patience is a virtue, and I’m learning patience. It’s a tough lesson.

 

9. Persistence is very important. You should not give up unless you are forced to give up.

 

10. It’s OK to have your eggs in one basket as long as you control what happens to that basket.

3 Reasons that I left The Entertainment Industry for The Wellness Industry.

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For some reason, I feel like it is finally time to reveal why I left The Entertainment Industry. Although I was born to parents who are both Scientists, my Mother’s extended family is well-known in South Africa for entertainment, particularly singing.


When I was a kid, I would hang out a lot with this side of the family and, because I could sing, everyone know that my destiny was to be a well-known singer. It was my ultimate dream. My Dad gave me the advice to follow Whitney Houston’s route and become a model so that I would get recognized and then I would be able to live out my dream as a professional singer.


I followed my Dad’s direction and I got into modeling. Being a model came with many negatives but it helped me meet a lot of people. My Dad was right! As I pursued my singing career, I began to dislike The Industry because of everything that came with it.


Here are 3 reasons why I chose The Wellness Industry over the Entertainment Industry:


1. I can now be who I really am.

When people ask me why I don’t model or professionally sing anymore, a memory of me being told that I’m fat, short and unworthy by agents and managers comes to the forefront of my mind. I have always been someone who has believed that authenticity is powerful. However, in an industry where standards sell, rebels and authenticity is hardly ever celebrated, it is very difficult to meet people who are game-changers and prolific because most people are concerned with selling and see you as a money-making machine; as opposed to a human-being. When I decided to become a yoga teacher (6 years ago), I felt like I could be myself in front of a big group of people for the first time in my life. I felt home.


2. I didn’t want to contribute to the misogyny and sexualization of women anymore.

I went to some of the best schools in South Africa and my parents spent a lot of money on my education. Furthermore, I came from a family of strong and educated women who are Scientists, Journalists and Entrepreneurs. However, when I would go to shoots or sets, I would be treated like furniture. I went from being able to have an opinion to, people reacting if I spoke a word when I wasn’t supposed to. Unless you have experienced this, it is hard to fathom. It’s hard to believe that in 2019, women are still being treated the way that we are. However, denying that it is a problem will not help us solve this problem. There is undoubtedly a culture of sexualizing women on a grand scale that feeds into the representation of women. That is why it disheartens me when men in The Entertainment Industry only have women who are close-to-naked in their videos, social media and public representation- it would be nice to see interpretations of women who are clothed and beautiful too. Sending the message that a woman is only valuable when she is naked and being used as a prop is dangerous. There is a difference between a Singer choosing to be naked and one who is forced to be, in order to sell. And, as someone who has been in The Industry, I can assure you that most of these women are being forced and pressured to be naked in order to sell in fear of being dropped by their label or a contract.

The Wellness Industry has shown me that women can serve many roles that they create for themselves; not what society has pressured us to be.


3. Health is my first priority.

I can’t tell you how many times I have been offered drugs on a shoot or set and after declining, the person (who offered it to me) refuses to work with me again. I worked closely with a Producer who would try and coerce me into taking drugs and I would refuse his offer, over and over. It got to the point where I felt disrespected because he would make me seem naïve and immature for saying ‘no’ to taking drugs. The ‘party scene’ is a big moneymaker for The Industry and, in general, people who say no to drugs or the party lifestyle are seen as boring, a buzzkill and are often not booked again or chosen to work with on a future project. I gave up needing to prove that I was not judgmental or stuck up for choosing to be healthy and careful about the direction that my life is headed in. Now, I always choose health and surround myself with people who support my decision because that decision is not easy to make, particularly around people who tell you that it’s a dumb choice to make.

4 Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Was Sexually Harassed For The First Time.

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I don’t remember the first that I was sexually harassed; however, I do know that it has happened more times than I would’ve liked it to happen. In my early twenties, I had a boss who would ask me out on dates and make comments about how ‘beautiful’ he thought that I was. It made me uncomfortable but I, like many other people who are victims of such behaviour, decided to keep quiet out of fear that I might lose my job.


Recently, I left a yoga studio that I taught at because I was being sexually harassed. It brought back a lot of memories of how this has happened before and, most of the time, I was the only one who stuck up for what was right. Me leaving was a choice that I made so that I could have a clear mind, peace and not feel like a victim in my daily life anymore.

Like always, I don’t regret anything but if I could’ve told myself a few things about sexual harassment. It would be this:

1. Most people won’t believe you because of their own issues.

I have definitely had my fair share of unwanted male attention. Whenever I have voiced the level of discomfort that this unwanted attention brings, I have been met with ‘he’s just a man’, ‘he doesn’t mean any harm’ or, ‘at least he shows some interest in you’. All of these sayings nauseate me to my core because if I were interested, I wouldn’t be complaining about it. Unfortunately, a lot of people’s minds are trapped in the past. They would rather have the innovator or change-maker shut up than make the changes needed for us to progress as a society. These people are stuck and will probably stay stuck. Don’t look to them for compassion or kindness during this tough time, look within or amongst people who genuinely care about you and your wellbeing.

2. Don’t be surprised when people try to tell you to keep quiet.

At my recent job, I let management know and, before you know it, the tables were turned on me. All of a sudden the personality of a harasser was downplayed to misunderstandings and  me wearing little while I teach. In a nutshell, the typical story of a man harassing a woman, the woman speaking up for herself which is met with deep resistance. Before you know it, my classes halved and management wouldn’t even speak to me anymore. They were enforcing a system to keep me quiet. However, to me, my voice is more important than a paycheck. Thankfully, I teach for other studios that are supportive, kind and do not make it someone’s fault for receiving unwanted attention.

3. Your voice matters.

In my early twenties, I didn’t really believe that my voice mattered as much as I do now. It is important to speak up for your morality however way you feel comfortable. If we do not feel comfortable with something or someone, it is important to say something. Sure, you might be sparing yourself. However, you might be sparing others of dealing with this person too. Don’t wait for someone else to speak up because, at that point, 50 people being harassed might

4. It might be hard but do it anyways.

The hardest part of standing my ground is that some people who I had called, ‘friends’, didn’t believe me. Their lack of compassion, kindness and understanding upset me to begin with but then I saw this as a friendship test. We can all be friends when we’re having fun and enjoying good times but, what about when you have to acknowledge that your friend might’ve gone through something harder than you wished upon them? Will you believe them and listen to them? Or, will you judge them and say that they wished this upon themselves?

You might be shown that some people project their own insecurities and lack of ability to stand up for themselves onto you. Let them figure out their journey. And, while they do, progress on your journey of justice and what you believe is best because your life is in your hands; not people who want to bring you down and keep you in their mediocre level.

The 10 Best Mantras To Wall Into 2019 With.

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There is so much power in self-talk. Often, how we speak to ourselves shows others how to treat us. If you think that you are not worthy, most people with treat you as such because you probably walk around looking as though you are not worthy. However, if you tell yourself that you are worthy, you most likely portray an image that you are. And, people are most likely to treat you as though you are worthy.


Furthermore, we are vibrational beings and vibration attracts vibration. Positive vibrations attract positive vibrations and negative vibrations attract negative vibrations. Use words to stay in alignment with positivity and the higher consciousness.


There is no time like the present to progress with confidence, positivity and radiance.
Meditate on these 10 mantras at least once a day, for 30-days, and watch your life change:

 

1. I am love.
2. I am light.
3. I am enough.
4. I am pure.
5. I am true.
6. I am worthy.
7. I am peace.
8. I am stepping into my destiny.
9. I am the observer.
10. I am exactly where and who I am meant to be.

Dear Insecure Girl...

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Dear insecure girl,


You don’t have to put up with being placed as second, third, fourth or fifth. You deserve to be number 1.

You don’t have to believe that you are not worthy of what you want, you are enough!

You don’t have to allow bad behaviour in your life for fear of being alone. You are your own best friend. People come and go but you will always remain. So, stand true in your morality and truth because only you can live with the consequences of your actions.

You don’t have to treat yourself with disrespect. Only you can treat yourself exactly the way that you want to be treated. It’s not be selfish, it’s being self-full so that you have enough to give to others.

You don’t have to spend your time worrying about what others think. There will always be someone who thinks negatively of you. It’s not your business to worry about what you can’t control, focus on what you can control.

You don’t have to spend your time on the negative. Focus on love, progress and being successful.

You don’t have to believe in their mediocrity. Mediocre people will want you on their level at all costs, don’t give in. You are more than mediocre. You are great

The most popular article of The Year: 4 Types of people that you need to distance yourself from.

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Thank you for writing us about your favourite article this year, here it is again. Just for you! Happy New Year and best of luck for 2019  

 

If you asked me a few years ago if I knew how to set boundaries for myself, I would  have replied, ‘Boundaries? What boundaries?’

TRUTHFULLY, I WASN’T THE GREATEST AT SETTING BOUNDARIES BUT NOW I FIND THEM NECESSARY. WHAT IS ALSO NECESSARY IS DISTANCING YOURSELF FROM TOXIC PEOPLE.

This article is inspired by a meme that I saw on Instagram that quotes Dwayne Johnson on the type of people that we should distance ourselves from:

1. People who lie to you.

Like we were told when we were young kids, ‘A liar is a thief and a thief is a liar’. This may sound a bit exaggerated, however, you can’t trust people who lie to you. To avoid conflict and issues in your life, distance yourself from people who lie to you because you won’t be able to trust them. And, what good is a relationship that doesn’t have trust?

2. People who disrespect you.

Like my mother always used to tell me, ‘Every doormat says welcome’. That saying has stayed with me everyday of my life. When we allow people to disrespect us, we are responsible too. To protect yourself from disrespectful behaviour, distance yourself from disrespectful people because only you can stand up for yourself.

3. People who use you.

We all have people in our lives who like to push our buttons, harass us for money or feel entitled to our time. Well, it’s time for you to distance yourself from them. It is not always your problem when people find themselves in a bind. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help but don’t become someone’s crutch, you deserve better than that.

4. People who put you down.

Unfortunately insecure, mean and unfriendly people exist. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with them. You deserve to be surrounded by people who support, appreciate and acknowledge you; not people who put you down. If you hang around people who call you names, disrespect you or treat you badly, you will soon do the same to yourself.

The 4 biggest lessons that I am learning as I approach my 30th birthday.

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In almost a month, I will be 30 and although I am proud of my life. I never imagined how that my life would turn out this way. My life has taken different turns, swivels, stops and halts . Along the journey, these are the 4 biggest and most important things that I have learnt:


1. I am the only who can validate myself.

I won’t lie, I love being in my twenties and I will miss it. However, my early twenties were difficult and challenging because I sought after validation from people and things. It took me trying to prove to other people that no matter how much I tried to prove myself, it wasn’t enough. The reason for this is because people have their lives to live. They are going about their day constantly looking through the lens of their own eyes, in search of what they need and want from life. So, how can I expect them to give to me what they might not be capable of knowing themselves? I’ve learnt and am still learning that other people may be able to compliment me; however, validation has to always come from myself. If it doesn’t, I will spend my life seeking other people’s approval and miss out on the empowerment and confidence that I can give to myself; something that no one else can give to me.

2. My life is exactly how it is meant to be.

I recently had a tough time accepting this. To cut a long story short, I was told that I would meet my soulmate by two different psychics (who randomly came into my life to tell me this). I was told and guessed that it was a well-known person who would frequent a yoga studio that I used to teach at; but came to realize that it wasn’t meant to be. My phases of mourning have included anger, upset, crying, fear, passion, stubbornness, judgment and rage because I didn’t get my fairytale. I learnt many lessons, one of them that my life is exactly how it is meant to be and living it, being present and aware of my surroundings is more important than chasing a dream or person that never was.

3. With or without someone or something beside me, I am enough.

This is an extension of what I learnt from the last paragraph. Another lesson that I learnt is that, with or without something or someone beside me, I am enough. When I was told that I would end up with this person, I started thinking about how magical my life could become. I selfishly thought about what I would get from the relationship: who I would meet and how it would help my career being with someone with him- this lasted a few days until one day, I stopped myself. I looked in the mirror and asked myself why I found it necessary to have these extra things when I am enough, right here/right now. No materials, no spouse and nothing in-between my eyes but me. I am and always will be enough, regardless of what is beside me. No materials or person can replace self-worth.

4. Love doesn’t mean force, it means support.

Love is a journey that is always evolving. This year, I fell in love with a man and we can not be together. In the beginning, it was hard to accept it but now I understand that love doesn’t necessarily mean that I have to be with him; it means that regardless of what he chosen for his life, I support him. I was afraid to admit that I loved him because if I did, I had to get his love back in return. What I know for sure is that love doesn’t always come back to us. If we receive love back from someone, great. But if we don’t, we don’t have to create suffering and pain because it didn’t go our way. Life is always working in our favour and one day, I will understand why it didn’t work out exactly how I had wanted it to. Until that day comes, I will trust God and send him love.

4 choses que j'aurais aimé savoir au lycée

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Le lycée a été une phase délicate pour moi. J'ai eu des moments où je me suis senti à l'aise; Cependant, la plupart du temps, je me sentais comme si je n’étais pas digne d’être.


J’ai fréquenté deux prestigieuses écoles de filles à Johannesburg, en Afrique du Sud. Ce qui était finalement une telle bénédiction pour mon avenir, mais il était difficile de voir beaucoup de fois quand j'étais à l'école.


Même si je suis reconnaissant d’avoir fréquenté le lycée, voici certaines choses que je souhaiterais connaître pendant mon séjour:


1. L’école ne vous prépare pas à la vie.

Après avoir obtenu mon diplôme d'études secondaires, je me suis dit que j'étais prêt à affronter The World. Je pensais que j'avais appris tout ce que j'avais besoin de savoir pour pouvoir fréquenter le collège et affronter la vie. Et je n'aurais pas pu être plus éloigné de la vérité. Je me suis retrouvé à New York, ne sachant rien de l'aide financière, des bourses, des crédits ou des prêts d'études. Le lycée est formidable, mais c’est une bulle où les vrais problèmes, comme les problèmes financiers, sont laissés de côté.



2. Être victime d'intimidation, dans une certaine mesure, vous rendra plus fort.

Quand j'ai commencé à mon deuxième lycée en 2006, j'ai été accueilli par la plupart de mes pairs, à l'exception du groupe des filles populaires. Ils étaient l’équivalent de ‘The Plastics’ de Mean Girls. On avait l'impression qu'ils contrôlaient beaucoup de la scène sociale et que leurs actions étaient menées par des esprits mesquins. J'avais l'habitude d'être une fille populaire alors ça m'a donné une autre perspective. Il y a une fille en particulier qui a clairement fait savoir qu'elle ne m'aimait pas et que parfois ça me cassait. Elle roulait des yeux quand je parlais en classe et commentais. Cependant, ma personnalité ne cède pas lorsque les gens sont méchants avec moi; Je ne fais que devenir plus fort. Être victime d'intimidation de la part de ce groupe de personnes au lycée m'a appris que, si je crois en moi-même, ou quelque chose du genre, cette conviction est plus forte que ce que quiconque pense.




3. Le lycée n'est pas tout.

Au lycée, j'avais cette idée fausse que c'était la chose la plus importante dans The World. Onze ans plus tard, c’est l’un des plus gros mensonges que je me suis jamais dit. Quand j'entends des enfants se tuer (à cause d'une brute ou de beaucoup de pression) au lycée, ça me brise le cœur parce que la vie est tellement meilleure après le lycée. Le lycée ne représente que quelques années de votre vie, il ne vaut pas la peine d'être consommé.




4. Le système de hiérarchie ne veut rien dire dans le monde.

Dans la plupart des écoles secondaires (sinon toutes), il existe un système de hiérarchie. Classant généralement de populaire à moins populaire. Cependant, lorsque nous quittons le lycée, nous sommes tous au même niveau. La plupart des collèges et universités se moquent de qui vous étiez au lycée, tout le monde recommence. Je me souviens comment je pensais que le lycée racontait comment je serais représenté quand j'ai commencé le collège. Cependant, c'est complètement faux. Le lycée me semblait limité mais, dans The World, il y a des chances illimitées de se lever et de recommencer, encore et encore.

10 Things That You Can Do To Help Save The Environment.

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The newest Climate Report that was published is frightening. Recent claims state that if we continue to emit Greenhouse gases at this current rate, Global Warming will destroy our Environment by 2040.


So, what are we waiting for? If you say The Government, there are ways for you to make a positive impact on The Environment.

Here are 10 of them:

1. Limit your plastic.

2. Recycle and reuse plastic, over and over!

3. Switch to paperless, whether it’s with billing statements or pay stubs, less paper is better.

4. Buy a shopping bag to reuse.

5. Take more public transport.

6. Switch to electric or a hybrid car.

7. Limit your meat consumption.

8. Buy from sustainable and organic farms.

9. Compost when you can.

10. Don’t litter! 

4 Things That I Wish I’d Known During High School.

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High School was an awkward phase for me. I had moments where I felt comfortable; however, most of the time, I felt like I wasn’t worthy.

I went to two prestigious Girls’ Schools in Johannesburg, South Africa. Which was ultimately such a blessing for my future but it was hard to see a lot of the times while I was in school.

Even though I am grateful for having attended High School, these are some things that I wish I’d known during attendance:

1. School doesn’t prepare you for life.

After I graduated (or matriculated) from High School, I thought that I was ready to take on The World. I thought that I had learnt everything that I needed to know in order to attend College and take on life. And, I couldn’t have been farther from the truth. I found myself in New York City not knowing anything about financial aid, scholarships, credits or student loans. High School is great but it is a bubble where real issues, like financial problems, are left out.


2. Being bullied, to an extent, will make you stronger.

When I started at my second High School in 2006, I was welcomed by most of my peers except for the group of popular girls. They were the equivalent of ‘The Plastics’ from Mean Girls. It felt like they controlled a lot of the social scene and their actions were driven by mean-spirits. I had previously been used to being the popular girl so this gave me another perspective. There was one girl, in particular, who made it clear that she didn’t like me and sometimes it broke me. She would roll her eyes when I would speak in class and make comments. However, my personality doesn’t give in when people are mean to me; I only become stronger. Being bullied by this group of people during High School taught me that if I believe in myself, or something, that belief is stronger than what anyone else thinks.


3. High School is not everything.

In High School, I had this misconception that it was the most important thing in The World. Fast forward to eleven years later, and that is one of the biggest lies that I have ever told myself. When I hear of kids killing themselves (because of a bully or a lot of pressure) during High School, it breaks my heart because life is so much better after High School. High School makes up only a few years of your life, it is not worth being consumed over.


4. The Hierarchy system doesn’t mean anything in The World.

In most (if not all) High Schools, there is a hierarchy system. Usually ranking from popular to the least popular. However, when we leave High School, we are all on the same level. Most colleges and universities don’t care who you were in High School, everyone starts afresh. I remember how I used to think that High School was telling of how I would be represented when I started College. However, this is completely untrue. High School seemed limiting to me but, in The World, there are are limitless chances to get up and start over, again and again.

10 izizathu zokuthi kungani nginqume ukugxila ekukhuthazeni.

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Masibe ngabangempela, sibe nezwe elihle ezweni lapho kuningi ukungabi nalutho okwenzekayo akulula kodwa kuyaphumelela.



Isikhathi sokuqala lo mqondo wafika kimi lapho ngineminyaka engu-9 futhi ngaya emngcwabeni woMkhulu. Amakhulu abantu akhuluma ngomusa wakhe, ukuthethelela okuqhubekayo kanye nokukwazi kwakhe ukubona njalo okuhle. Bathi izwi lakhe eliyintandokazi laliyilo, 'Wonke amafu anensimbi yesiliva'.


Ngibambe ngalokhu. Nakuba ngingakaze ngikwenze njalo, ngibambelele kulo mqondo futhi ngizame ukukusebenzisa ngangokunokwenzeka.


Nazi izizathu ezingu-10 ezenza ngihlale ngikhetha ukugxila kokuhle:



1. Ukungabi nalutho kunzima.


2. Yini esiyigxile ekukhuleni. Ukugxila ekuziphatheleni okuhle kwenza kube lula ukukhula.


3. Ngemva kokuphela kokusebenza, kukhona okumele ufunde kuwo noma ujabulele.


4. Kukhona ukunganaki okwanele kuleli Hla.


5. Yonke into engifuna ukuyibona e-World, iqala nami.


6. I-positivity engiyibekayo ibuyele emuva kimi.


7. Emkhakheni wothando uthando.


8. Inhloso yami ukukhanya, uthando nokuthula.


9. Ukumisa kwenza i-World ibe yindawo enothando kakhulu.


10. Ngoba, ekugcineni, konke kuyisifundo noma isibusiso.