The biggest lesson that I learnt when my mentor made sexual advances on me.

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In light of the new Bikram documentary on Netflix, I feel that it is my duty to share this story. I promised that I would never tell this story (out of shame); however, the more that I learn about sexual predators and the nature of how they operate, the more that I come to understand how little it has to do with the prey and more with the person who does the preying.This is a contradiction to what I had known before this incident happened to me.

Every and any industry is filled with predators; my story is one of a mentor that I had when I wanted to become a yoga teacher. As I start to write these words, I can feel a gulp in my throat and my eyes heat up as I get emotional but I promised to tell this story- no matter how difficult it is and the backlash that I will receive for doing so.

Approximately 7 years ago, I became a yoga teacher and I had been assigned different teachers to be my mentors during the process. It was an intense time in my life. Prior to my decision to become a yoga teacher, I was a waitress and had discovered the benefits of a consistent hot yoga practice. I was dead-set on becoming a yoga teacher and the person who asked me was one of my teachers, I looked up to him.

Although I have never believed in admiring any one person, I was passionate about the way that he taught, what he had to offer and his authenticity to the practice. As a practitioner, I was definitely influenced by him. One day, after class, he approached me and asked me if I was going to become a teacher because he believed in me. Words cannot describe how I felt when he said that to me. But, if I had to choose one, I would choose flattered.

By sheer coincidence, I ended up taking his class often after that. The studio that he taught at (and I practiced at) didn’t have a schedule so every class you took, you were surprised by who was teaching you. I had always (and still have) been fond of this idea because I became detached from who was teaching and focused on my practice.

As a result of our coinciding schedules, I would take his class 3-4 times a week and noticed that he would place extra effort and energy on me during class. On one of my birthdays, he wished me happy birthday and put his hand down my bra while I was in savasana (dead-corpse pose).I was in utter and complete shock. I started crying. I cried for the rest of class because one of my biggest fears had come true: an older man who was mentoring me only did so because of what I looked like as opposed to truly believing in me, my strength as a practitioner and my potential as a teacher.

I contemplated not going through with the teacher-training but I had already put down my non-refundable deposit. For days, I would think about it and become heartbroken and upset about this teacher. Even though, he did this to me, I went back to practice. I told myself that there were other teachers that I could learn from. I decided to do what most women do regularly, I shut off a part of my self-worth/esteem and I decided to continue to practice there and go through with the teacher-training.

I made a decision to set some boundaries, like not speaking to him, focus on the yoga when he was teaching and distance myself for making any solid connections with male teachers and practitioners. In retrospect, what I had to do was unfair and unjust but I felt so isolated in my decision-making. I knew that if I told my friends and family, they would wonder about my sanity and question why I was so obsessed with this yoga studio? Honestly, I did wonder about my sanity but I saw the big picture of being a teacher more than this issue with my mentor.

My plan to distance myself from him failed. My 23 year-old self didn’t understand that predators thrive off of attention and notice when their prey is not falling into their trap anymore. So, they usually try to breakdown the boundaries that you create when you distance yourself from them. One day, I was in a backbend on the floor and he placed his genitals in front of my face. I looked away from them. He pretended to give me an adjustment (still while I was in this backbend) but instead, pushed my head to look at them. I was so flustered and frozen that I broke down crying again. I proceeded to act like nothing had happened and after class, he came up to me while I was putting on my shoes and asked me why I was crying. I became enraged and stormed out.

I was stubborn about my plan of becoming a teacher that I decided to ignore what he was doing and keep my conversations with him minimal. This time, my plan worked until I was about to graduate from my teacher-training and I was assigned him as the teacher that I was meant to teach with, in order to pass graduation. To this day, I am not sure if this was purposeful or by accident. However, my nerves were out of control when I found out that I would be co-teaching my pre-graduation class with him.

Before I graduated from teacher-training, I was meant to give dialogue to a full class with a teacher and he was the teacher that I was meant to teach the class with. I found out just before I was meant to teach the class. I decided to breathe and get through it. Before we started, we were meant to have a ‘pow wow’ where we spoke about what I would teach and how he would interject. He said that I should teach the class and if he thinks that I am doing ‘badly’, he will start teaching. He told me that he had faith in me and that I would do great.

As the class commenced, I taught the first two postures and when I was in mid-sentence, he cut me off. He abruptly interrupted me and told me that he would take it from there. For the rest of the class, he acted like I wasn’t there and I had to stand in the class and not say a word. I felt mortified and had to leave so halfway throughout class, I left and lied to the front desk. I said that I had a headache and had to leave. It seemed like she knew what was going on and wanted to be on my side. In a nutshell, she implied knowing about his character and encouraged me to finish because I had spent so much money on becoming a teacher. I listened to her and went back in. I sat in a corner and I held back my tears till the class was done .

After it was done, I wrote a long e-mail to the teacher-trainer co-ordinator about what happened and she called me. I didn’t fill her in about how I had felt inappropriate behaviour from my mentor but I let her know what had happened when I was meant to teach the class. The conversation ended with her basically telling me that I need to work on my self confidence, let go of my issues with men and learn how to deal with males who will push my boundaries. After I got off the phone, I clearly knew that I couldn’t trust them.

I proceeded to teach for them and take my mentor issue into my own hands. The following time that he came up to me and touched me during class, I went up to him after class and I told him to never touch me again because it made me feel uncomfortable. He responded to me with shock and tried to make it seem like it was me who had the issue. However, at that point, I was so fed up with him that I didn’t care what he thought of me and what would happen to me after that.

As a result of this encounter, I made a promise to myself that I would always speak up if I felt compromised or violated. If not for me, then for the other women and girls who are behind me because it could happen to them, too.

This experience taught me that some people are messengers and nobody deserves to be idolized. He is human. He was a big piece of my path to becoming a teacher but I did the work, I literally fought against obstacles to become a teacher and no one can take that from me- not even the person who claims that they are the reason why I became a teacher in the first place.

Everyone is a teacher. Sometimes, our best teachers are people who are examples of how we shouldn’t behave and that it is up to every single one of us to hold one another accountable when respect, kindness and morality is being threatened.

12 Avantages d'utiliser l'huile de théier sur votre peau.

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Nous redécouvrons maintenant les avantages des huiles botaniques (les huiles essentielles entrent dans cette catégorie) et je suis reconnaissant de l'avoir reçue car, en tant que spécialiste de la peau, j'ai pu constater le pouvoir et les bienfaits de l'utilisation des huiles pour soigner la peau. Les thérapies à l'huile ont été autour depuis des milliers d'années.

Il y a beaucoup de secrets dans l'industrie du soin de la peau; Cependant, je crois en la transparence. Parce que quand nous connaissons la vérité, nous pouvons alors guérir

Voici 12 avantages d'une de mes huiles botaniques préférées, l'huile de théier:

1. Anti-fongique.

2. Anti-septique mineur.

3. Aide à guérir les infections.

4. anti-inflammatoire.

5. Anti-bactérien (l'acné est une bactérie).

6. Aide à la guérison du psoriasis, de l’eczéma et de l’acné rosacée.

7. Aide à soulager les étiquettes de peau.

8. Égale la coloration de la peau.

9. Déodorant.

10. Hydrate les cuticules sèches.

11. Peut soulager les éruptions cutanées.

12. Rajeunit et nettoie la couche supérieure de votre peau.

Pour notre ligne de soins pour la peau vegan pour les produits biologiques KindCo, cliquez ici

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• www.helpline.com

• www.newdirections.com / blog

Hali Tsotetsi est un spécialiste de la peau, pas un médecin ou un médecin

12 Benefits of Tea Tree Oil on your skin.

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We are now re-discovering the benefits of botanical oils (essential oils fall into this category) and, I am grateful that we have because as a Skin Specialist, I have seen the power and healing benefits of using oils to heal the skin. Oil therapies have been around for thousands of years.

There are many secrets in the skincare industry; however, I believe in transparency. Because when we know the truth, that is when we can heal

Here are 12 benefits of one of my favourite botanical oils, Tea Tree Oil:

1. Anti-fungal.

2. Minor anti-septic.

3. Helps heal infections.

4. Anti-inflammatory.

5. Anti-Bacterial (Acne is a bacteria).

6. Aids in healing psoriasis, eczema and rosacea.

7. Helps relieve skin tags.

8. Equalizes skin colouration.

9. Deodorant.

10. Moisturizes dry cuticles.

11. Can alleviate skin rashes.

12. Rejuvenates and cleanses the top layer of your skin.

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•www.helpline.com

•www.newdirections.com/blog

Hali Tsotetsi is a Skin Specialist not a Physician or Doctor.

5 Consejos para aumentar la exposición en Mind•Body•Connection.

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A medida que ampliamos nuestra plataforma que conecta a profesionales, estudios y clientes en bienestar, es importante asegurarse de que su perfil sea visible y visible para los espectadores.

Aquí hay 10 consejos para ayudar a que su perfil se destaque (como profesional del bienestar) y aumente la exposición:

1. Envíenos testimonios para que los espectadores puedan saber si su estilo de práctica coincide con sus necesidades.

2. Al igual que con el último consejo, envíenos un video para poner en su perfil para que pueda presentarse a los miembros.

3. La mejor manera de conectarse es interesarse en la práctica de otra persona. Pruebe el método de bienestar de otra persona para poder apoyar a otra persona. Lo que sacamos vuelve a nosotros.

4. Participar en nuestras redes sociales. Comenta las publicaciones de otros y dale me gusta a lo que otros también están haciendo.

5. Haga que sus tarifas sean asequibles. Soy un gran defensor de que a los profesionales del bienestar se les pague lo que se merecen; sin embargo, recuerde que algunas personas tienen un presupuesto limitado y abrir su rango de precios podría atraer a un cliente que tal vez no podría pagarlo si los precios son exorbitantes.

Para una prueba GRATUITA, haga clic en este enlace: Mente • Cuerpo • Conexión

* Para una prueba gratuita como profesional o cliente, use el código CONNECT.

* Los profesionales durante el juicio solo pueden publicar un testimonio. Con una membresía, se permiten 3-5 testimonios.

5 Tips to boost exposure on your Mind•Body•Connection profile.

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As we expand our platform that connects professionals, studios and clientele in wellness, it is important to make sure that your profile is visible and noticeable for viewers.

Here are 10 tips to help your profile stand out( as a wellness professional) and boost exposure:

1. Send us testimonials so that viewers can tell if your practice style matches their needs.

2. Just like with the last tip, send us a video to put on your profile so that you can introduce yourself to members.

3. The best way to connect is by being interested in someone else’s practice. Try out someone else’s wellness method so that you can support someone else. What we put out comes back to us.

4. Engage in our social media. Comment on others’ posts and like what others are doing too.

5. Make your rates affordable. I am a big advocate of wellness professionals being paid what they deserve; however, please remember that some people are on a budget and opening up your price range could bring in a client who might’ve not been able to afford it if prices are exorbitant.

For a FREE trial, click on this link: Mind•Body•Connection

*For a free trial as a professional or client, use code CONNECT.

* Professionals during trial can only have one testimonial posted. With a membership, 3-5 testimonials are allowed.

12 Izinto engizifundile ngokwamukela umzimba wami.

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Kuyinselelo ukuhlala sanelisekile ngezinto zethu ezibonakalayo ngoba imvamisa sinezithombe ezithwetshuliwe zalokho okuthonywa ukuthi sibukeke. Lapho, abantu abafakwe izithombe abakubeki kanjalo. Ngakho-ke, singakulindela kanjani okufanayo ngokoqobo?

Ngemuva kweminyaka yokuphoqa umzimba wami ukuthi ube ngenye into futhi ngidinga ukuguqula umzimba wami ube umbono womcabango wami, ngenze ukuthula nomzimba wami. Kimi, impilo iyinombolo yokuqala. Konke okunye, ngendlela ebukeka ngayo kungukungasebenzi. Ukusebenza komzimba wami kubalulekile. Kunezinto eziningi kakhulu ezenzekayo emzimbeni wami futhi ngifuna ukukuhlonipha nokwamukela lokho.

Nazi izinto eziyi-12 engizemukele futhi ngazifunda ngomzimba wami:

1. Amjika ami ayigugu.

2. Ngemuva kokuthi ngidle, angibanga nesicubu sobukhosi.

3. Umuzwa wokuba ophile kahle ukushaywa ukuthi unesikhumba futhi awunampilo.

4. Ukuzizwa unamandla kunamandla.

5. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi iyiphi enye i-PERO ngicela ucabange ukuthi umzimba wami awulona iqiniso.

6. Nginomzimba owodwa kuphela, ngidinga ukuwaphatha ngenhlonipho.

7. Umzimba wami ungenzela okukhulu kakhulu; Ngifuna ukukuhlonipha nokukuhlonipha lokho.

8. Nginamathanga amakhulu nesinqe esikhulu. Basebenza umsebenzi, ukwethemba ngokuletha impilo ku-Lomhlaba.

9. Cishe ngeke ngibe usayizi zero futhi, futhi angifuni ukuba njalo.

10. Umzimba wami uyisipho futhi ngifuna ukusiphatha kanjalo.

11. Njalo isicucu, umaki wolayini, i-cellulite, i-tattoo, imibimbi, ukugoqa nokulimala kukhuluma indaba yohambo lomzimba wami. Ngiyabonga ukuthi ngisaphila futhi ngiphile.

12. Uma ngivumela abanye abantu ukuthi bangitshele ukuthi umzimba wami uzobukeka kanjani, ngizoqondiswa indlela yokungajabuli, ngikhululeke, ngibe ngingekho futhi ngingagcwaliseki.

12 Things that I have learnt to accept about my body.

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It is a challenge to remain content about our physical states because we are often bombarded with photoshopped images of what we are influenced to look like. When, the people who are photoshopped don’t even look like that. So, how can we expect the same in reality?

After years of forcing my body to be something else and needing to conform my body into a figment of my imagination, I have made peace with my body. For me, health is number one. Everything else, like how it looks is a byproduct. My body’s function is primary. There are so many great things happening in my body and I want to honour and accept that.

Here are 12 things that I have accepted and learnt about my body:

1. My curves are precious.

2. After I eat, I won’t have a flat tummy.

3. The feeling of being healthy beats being skinny and unhealthy.

4. Feeling strong is powerful.

5. Confirming to what other people think of my body is not being true.

6. I have only one body, I need to treat it with respect.

7. My body is doing so much for me; I want to honour and respect that.

8. I have big thighs and a big butt. They serve a function, to hopefully bring life into This World.

9. I probably won’t be a size zero again, and I don’t want to be.

10. My body is a gift and I want to treat it as such.

11. Every scar, stretch mark, cellulite, tattoo, wrinkle, freckle and blemish tells a story of the journey of my body. I am grateful to still be alive and healthy.

12. If I let other people tell me what my body will look like, I will be headed down a path of unhappiness, dis-ease, not being present and unfulfillment.

Cher H, une lettre à moi-même.

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Cher H,



Je suis fier de toi et excité pour ton avenir.



Le chemin que vous avez choisi de prendre est celui qui rapportera avec le temps. Certaines personnes pourraient ne pas comprendre pourquoi vous avez choisi de vous comporter de la même façon que vous, mais vous le savez. Vous êtes conscient, conscient et vous semblez être reconnaissant pour la vie que vous avez créée.



Je sais que certaines personnes vous ont déçu et vous ont trahi, mais je suis fier de votre croissance. Vous apprenez à assumer la responsabilité de certaines situations et vous avez terminé les cycles de manque de respect et d’inconscience.



Je sais que précédemment, vous pensiez que si vous preniez la parole, les gens vous considéreraient comme nécessitant beaucoup d’entretien. Je suis donc fier de vous pour avoir appris à faire la différence entre demander le nécessaire pour vivre une vie heureuse et en bonne santé et ne faire que des égarements aléatoires.



Je suis désolé que toutes vos relations amoureuses n’aient pas fonctionné, mais je vois comment vous avez appris et je suis enthousiasmé par la relation qui se prépare. Je suis convaincu que vous saurez que cela vaut la peine, car vous recevrez le respect, la gentillesse et le pur amour que vous méritez vraiment.



Les circonstances et les personnes blessées pourraient vous inciter à revenir à penser comme une victime, mais je vous demande de prendre la grande route. Cela ne veut pas dire que les gens vous maltraiteront, mais que vous vous souviendrez de ce que vous avez appris, à savoir que vous êtes entraîné dans des schémas de négativité, c'est épuisant.



H, ta vie mérite d'être vécue aussi pleinement et avec le plus d'amour possible. Si quelque chose se passe entre cela, j’espère que vous réfléchirez et demanderez s’il vaut la peine de laisser de la distance entre ces deux choses.



Je suis heureux que vous ayez eu des exemples de souffrances infligées à d’autres personnes, afin que vous puissiez choisir de les libérer et d’éviter de blesser d’autres personnes.



Si vous pouviez voir votre avenir comme moi, vous feriez un effort pour sourire au moins une fois par jour. Alors, s'il vous plaît essayez! Il ya tant de raisons d’être reconnaissant et j’espère que vous vous concentrerez sur cela, en particulier lorsque vous souhaitez vous concentrer sur ce qui ne va pas.



Je t'aime.

3 blocages que j'ai relâchés pour pouvoir vivre en abondance.

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À l'approche de la fin de l'année, je suis très reconnaissant pour chaque événement qui m'est arrivé. J'ai appris que la vie m'était vécue pour que je puisse grandir, transformer, comprendre et améliorer ma vie et mon amour pour moi-même, ainsi que pour ceux qui m'entourent.

Cette année, j'ai appris ce que signifie vraiment vivre en abondance. L'abondance est gratitude, amour et bonheur pour le moment présent, ce qui nous permet de créer une conscience et une conscience qui nous aident à évoluer.

Avant cette année, je pensais que l'abondance signifiait de l'argent. Je suis donc parti à la recherche d'argent, de succès et d'hommes qui ont réussi parce que je pensais que l'abondance était une force externe. Cependant, cette année, j'ai appris que l'abondance ne concerne pas la satisfaction externe, mais l'acceptation interne. Dans cette acceptation, nous élevons notre vibration à un état de conscience créant de la gratitude, de l'amour et de l'élévation de l'intérieur vers l'extérieur.

Voici 4 blocages que j'ai appris à libérer pour que je puisse rester en abondance:

1. Je suis une victime

À la mi-juillet, je me suis réveillé chez un harceleur de ma maison. Cet homme me suivait à mon insu et m'avait professé son amour la nuit précédente. Après ses aveux, je lui ai demandé de me laisser tranquille; Cependant, il a refusé et s'est faufilé dans mes locaux. C’est arrivé si tôt dans la matinée que je n’ai mis ensemble 2 + 2 qu’après avoir appelé la police et l’avoir fait arrêter. Tandis que je racontais cette histoire aux gens, il y a eu choc, consternation et beaucoup de questions. La question la plus importante posée par les gens était: "Vous avez tellement de harceleurs, que faites-vous pour les attirer?" Cette question m'a rendue furieuse parce que cela m'a ramenée à l'époque où j'étais enfant et que quelques hommes pouvaient regarder mon corps, après quoi le blâme serait sur moi si je leur parlais de me regarder. Cela m'a fait sentir comme une victime. Oui, on nous donne la vie à vivre; Cependant, j'apprends à reformuler les questions de blâme et de victimisation à prendre des responsabilités. Oui, il nous arrive des choses qui pourraient ne pas être de notre faute; Cependant, comment pouvons-nous agir et aller de l'avant, apprendre et évoluer de la situation? J'ai appris de cette situation particulière que des choses inexplicables nous arrivent et que nous ne savons peut-être pas pourquoi. Mais, il est de notre responsabilité de rester aussi lucide et conscient que possible. J'ai vu cette opportunité comme une chance pour moi de pratiquer la compassion et la compréhension envers une personne souffrant de maladie mentale. J'ai abandonné les poursuites contre lui, j'ai prié pour lui et j'ai relâché ma colère envers les hommes.

2. Paroles basses vibrationnelles.

Nous sommes tous coupables de cela. En utilisant des mots tels que «les hommes sucent», «les femmes sont des chercheuses d’or» ou «rien ne m’arrive jamais de bon». Ces paroles nous empêchent de nous élever à un niveau supérieur. Ils retiennent littéralement tout ce qui est bon car si vous croyez que les hommes ou les femmes sont négatifs, comment voulez-vous que quelqu'un de grand, d'amour et de gentil vienne dans votre vie? Et quand ils le feront, comment allez-vous les traiter si vous ne pouvez pas leur faire confiance? J'avais l'habitude de croire que tous les hommes trichent ou sont incapables d'être fidèles, alors je continuais d'attirer des hommes qui me trompaient ou qui disparaissaient / se présentaient à leur guise. La version la plus dramatique de ceci était ma dernière relation, où je me trouvais avec un homme qui respectait peu ou pas les femmes (dans son ensemble) car il défilait dans ses vidéos autour de corps de femmes nues et alimentait l'idée de objectiver les femmes. Il a beaucoup d’autres qualités, alors j’admettrais ce comportement parce que mon subconscient répéterait: trouverez-vous un homme qui ne rabaisse pas les femmes d’une manière ou d’une autre ou qui peut rester fidèle à votre égard? Ces pensées m'ont gardé dans la peur jusqu'au jour où cela s'est tellement détérioré. Il était absent et je regardais ses reportages sur IG parce qu'il me manquait et que je le voyais avec deux femmes gambader sur un yacht. Leur comportement, je ne le divulguerai pas mais était très déconcertant. La douleur de ce souvenir est à jamais gravée dans mon cœur, ce qui est triste mais formidable! Parce que c’est un rappel de garder mes pensées sur les hommes positives et de ne pas m’aligner sur des hommes ou des gens irrespectueux envers moi ou les autres. Il y a de grands hommes qui sont fidèles et attentionnés envers les femmes ou les gens, en général. Se souvenir de cette croyance m'aide à recycler mon subconscient et à me protéger des cycles toxiques comme celui-ci.

3. Incrédulité

J'ai toujours été un penseur positif parce que je connais le pouvoir de ce que nous disons nous-mêmes. Mes deux grands-pères étaient de grands hommes et l'un d'eux (Martin) adorait le dicton suivant: "Chaque nuage a un côté positif." Alors, c'est peut-être dans mon ADN, mais une chose que je sais, c'est que c'est plus marrant que de rire. être triste et contrarié. Parfois, être triste est nécessaire; Cependant, je veux me concentrer sur la positivité autant que possible. Récemment, j'ai lancé l'une des plus grandes entreprises que j'ai jamais entreprises. Parfois, c'est accablant, mais je continue de me rappeler que la négativité est la cause du manque. Je veux croire en ce projet autant que je peux car là où je vais, c'est là où je suis censé être. L'univers a un plan et je marche pleinement sur le chemin de la confiance, de l'acceptation et de la reddition. Je veux travailler aussi dur que possible puis lâcher ce que je ne peux pas contrôler. Parce qu'essayer de tout contrôler crée une habitude d'incrédulité et de manque. Tout est en fait comme il se doit et je veux l’accepter et le garder en mémoire.

3 Blockages that I have released so that I can live in abundance.

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As we approach the end of the year, I am beyond grateful for every single that has happened to me. I have learnt that life happens for me so that I can grow, transform, understand and enhance my life and the love for myself, as well as those around me.

This year I have learnt what it truly means to live in abundance. Abundance is gratitude, love and happiness for the present moment so that we can create awareness and consciousness that helps us evolve.

Before this year, I used to think that abundance meant money. So, I went out looking for money, success and men who were successful because I thought abundance was an external force. However, this year, I have learnt that abundance is not about external satisfaction, it is about internal acceptance. Within that acceptance, we raise our vibration to a state of consciousness creating gratitude, love and elevation from within outward.

Here are 4 blockages that I have learnt to release so that I can stay in abundance:

1. I am a victim.

In the middle of July, I woke up to a stalker in my house. This man had been following me without my knowledge and had professed his love for me the night before. After his confession, I asked him to leave me alone; however, he refused and snuck his way into my premises. It happened so early in the morning that I didn’t put 2+2 together until after I had called the police and had him arrested. As I told people this story, there was shock, dismay and lots of questioning. The biggest question people asked was, ‘You have so many stalkers, what are you doing to attract them?’ This question infuriated me because it took me back to when I was a kid and a few men would to look at my body after which the blame would be placed on me if I spoke up against them looking at me. It made me feel like a victim. Yes, we are given life to live; however, I am learning to rephrase questions from blame and victimization to taking responsibility. Yes, things happen to us that might not be our fault; however, how do we take action and move forward, learn and grow from the situation? From this particular situation, I learnt that some inexplicable things happen to us and we might not know why they happen. But, it is our responsibility to stay as level-headed and aware as possible. I saw this opportunity as a chance for me to practice compassion and understanding towards someone with mental illness. I dropped the legal charges against him, I prayed for him and I released my anger towards men.

2. Low vibrational sayings.

We are all guilty of this. Using words like, ‘men suck’, ‘women are golddiggers’ or, ‘nothing good ever happens to me’. These sayings block us from elevating on a higher level. They literally hold anything good from coming because if you believe men or women are negative, how do you expect someone great, loving and kind to come into your life? And, when they do, how will you treat them if you can’t trust them? I used to have a belief that all men cheat or are incapable of being faithful so I kept attracting men who would cheat on me or disappear/show up when they pleased. The most dramatic version of this was my last relationship, where I was involved with a man who had little-to-no respect for women (as a whole) because he would parade around naked female bodies in his videos and feed into the idea of objectifying women. He has many other great qualities so I would allow this behaviour because my subconscious would repeat, will you find a man who won’t demean women in some manner or who can stay faithful towards you? These thoughts kept me in fear until one day, it got so bad. He was away and I was looking at his IG stories because I missed him and saw him with two women frolicking on a yacht, their behaviour I will not disclose but was very disconcerting. The pain of this memory is forever imprinted in my heart, which is sad but great! Because it is a reminder to keep my thoughts about men positive and to not align myself with men or people who are disrespectful towards me or others. There are great men out there who are faithful and considerate towards women or people, in general. Remembering this belief, is helping retrain my subconscious and protect me from toxic cycles like this happening again.

3. Disbelief

I have always been a positive-thinker because I know the power of what we tell ourselves. Both my Grandfathers were great men and one of them ( Martin) loved the saying, ‘Every cloud has a silver-lining.’ So, maybe it is in my DNA but one thing that I know is that it feels way better to laugh than to be sad and upset. Sometimes being sad is necessary; however, I want to focus on positivity as much as possible. Recently, I started one of the biggest ventures that I have ever began. At times, it is overwhelming but I keep reminding myself that negativity leads to lack. I want to believe in this project as much as I can because where I go is where I am meant to be. The Universe has a plan and I am stepping fully into the path of trust, acceptance and surrender. I want to work as hard as I can and then let go of what I can’t control. Because trying to control everything creates a habit of disbelief and lack. Everything is actually how it is meant to be and I want to accept and remember that.

Dear H, (a letter to myself)

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Dear H,

I am proud of you and excited for your future.

The path that you have chosen to taken is one that will pay off over time. Some people might not understand why you have chosen to behave the way that you have but you know. You are aware, conscious and seem to be grateful for the life that you have created.

I know that you have had some people disappoint you and betray you but I am proud of how you have grown. You are learning to take responsibility for situations and have completed the cycles of disrespect and unconsciousness.

I know that previously you had thought that if you spoke up that people would consider you high maintenance. So, I am proud of you for learning to differentiate the difference between asking for necessities to live a happy and healthy life and just making random respects.

I’m sorry that all of your romantic relationships have not worked out but I see how you have learnt and I am excited for the relationship that is on the way. I have faith that you will know that is worth the long haul because you will receive the respect, kindness and pure love that you truly deserve.

Circumstances and hurt people might tempt you to return to thinking like a victim but I ask you to take the high road. Not meaning that people will get away with mistreating you but that you remember what you have learnt, that being pulled into patterns of negativity is only draining.

H, your life deserves to be lived as fully and with as much love as possible. If anything comes in-between that, I hope that you reflect and ask if it’s worth having distance between these two things.

I’m glad that you have had examples of how you have hurt others and how others have hurt you, so that you can make a choice to release hurt and avoiding causing others hurt.

If you could see your future like I do, you would make an effort to smile at least once-a-day. So, please try! There is so much to be grateful for and I hope that you focus on that, particularly when you want to be focus on what is going ‘wrong’.

I love you.

4 choses que j'ai apprises en serveuse à New pendant presque 10 ans.

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Quand j'ai déménagé à New York, j'avais 19 ans. Bien que les dix années de ma vie aient passé si rapidement, j’ai tiré de nombreuses leçons précieuses. J'ai appris la plupart d'entre eux alors que j'étais serveuse à la table au milieu de mes études supérieures.

L’un de mes premiers souvenirs a été de travailler dans un café réputé du Lower East Side et j’ai demandé à une célèbre actrice comment sa fille s'appelait, pour rencontrer un regard désagréable et présumer que j’aurais dû connaître son nom. J'en ai ri, mais cela m'a appris que les gens d'une certaine stature s'attendent généralement à être traités d'une certaine manière.

Voici quatre autres choses que j'ai apprises alors que j'étais serveuse à The Big Apple:

1. Parfois, les personnes avec lesquelles vous êtes le plus en contact ne vous attendez pas à.

Je me suis fait la plupart de mes amis adultes des différents restaurants où j'ai travaillé, ainsi que des partenaires romantiques. À ce jour, un de mes amis les plus chers a dans les soixante-dix ans et a été rencontré dans un restaurant où j'ai travaillé à S.O.H.O. Je suis très reconnaissant pour l'expérience de travail dans les restaurants car cela m'a appris que nous sommes plus semblables que jamais. Et, lorsque nous nous cantonnons dans des catégories telles que la race, les tranches de revenu et les opinions religieuses, nous ne faisons que nous empêcher d'accepter la plus haute forme d'amour: l'amour de quiconque.

2. Le respect ne concerne pas un compte bancaire.

J'avais l'habitude de travailler dans un restaurant célèbre à TriBeCa, nous aurions une personne bien connue dans presque tous les jours. Pour être honnête, j'ai parfois eu peur d'aller au travail parce que certaines de nos autorités et de notre clientèle nous traitaient comme des ordures au sol. Parfois, cela me bouleversait et me blessait, mais je suis reconnaissant parce que j'ai appris l'une des meilleures leçons de tous les temps, le respect des autres n'est pas déterminé par le montant que l'autre personne a dans son compte bancaire. Jusqu'à ce que quelqu'un prouve le contraire, ils méritent mon respect. Il m'a fallu passer par cette expérience pour m'en souvenir et le comprendre vraiment.

3. Le bonheur ne dépend pas de "qui vous êtes" ou de combien d’argent vous avez.

J'ai vu de visu certaines des personnes les plus riches d'Amérique avec les visages les plus tristes que j'ai jamais vus. Nous avons été vendus cette idée que l'argent peut tout acheter. Oui, l'argent est un outil qui peut vous connecter à un objectif plus élevé et à l'accessibilité, mais si votre objectif est de vous apporter quelque chose que vous pouvez obtenir sans argent, vous avez perdu l'intrigue. L’argent est comme l’énergie, il peut être négatif ou positif dans votre vie, mais cela dépend de votre état d’esprit et de votre intention de le faire.

4. Tout le monde ne doit pas m'aimer.

Quand j'étais plus jeune, j'avais cette idée que tout le monde devait m'aimer, sinon, je leur avais probablement fait quelque chose ou je ne l'avais pas fait assez. Cette théorie m'épuisait et je permettais aux gens de me traiter avec irrespect. juste pour qu'ils restent dans ma vie me faisant me sentir mieux. Quand un responsable ou un client me traitait avec méchanceté, je le prenais personnellement et le conservais pendant des jours et des mois. Je pensais que si je pouvais contrôler la façon dont ils me voyaient, cela me donnerait plus de pouvoir; seulement pour apprendre que cela fait le contraire. En fin de compte, les gens me traitent comme ils le souhaitent. Tout ce que je peux faire, c'est être la meilleure personne que je puisse, me montrer, être gentil et tout donner. Comment les gens choisissent de me traiter, c'est leur choix. Mon pouvoir réside dans la compréhension du fait que je ne peux que me contrôler et que je me libère de ce que les autres attendent de moi.

4 Things that I learnt while waitressing in New York for almost a decade.

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When I moved to New York City, I was nineteen. Although the almost ten years that I lived there passed by so quickly, I learnt many valuable lessons. Most of them I learnt while I was waitressing tables on-and-off in the midst of receiving my tertiary education.

One of my first memories was working at a well-known café in the Lower East Side and I asked a famous actress what her daughter’s name is, only to be met with a nasty look and assumption that I should’ve known her name. I laughed it off but this taught me a lesson that people of a certain stature usually expect to be treated a certain way.

Here are four other things that I learnt while I was a waitress living in The Big Apple:

1. Sometimes the people that you connect with the most, you wouldn’t expect to.

I have made most of my adulthood friends from different restaurants that I have worked at, as well as romantic partners. To this day, one of my dearest friends is in his seventies and someone that I met at a restaurant that I worked at in S.O.H.O. I am so grateful for the experience of working at restaurants because it taught me that we are more alike than not. And, when we box ourselves into categories like race, income brackets and religious views, we only stop ourselves from accepting the highest form of love: love from anyone.

2. Respect is not about a bank account.

I used to work at a famous restaurant in TriBeCa, we would have a well-known person in almost everyday. To be honest, sometimes I dreaded going in to work because we were treated by some of our authority and clientele like garbage on the floor. Sometimes it would upset me and hurt my feelings but I am grateful because I learnt one of the best lessons ever, respecting others is not determined by how much money the other person has in their bank account. Until someone proves otherwise, they deserve my respect. It took me going through that experience to remember and truly understand that.

3. Happiness is not dependent on ‘who you are’ or how much money you have.

I saw firsthand some of the wealthiest people in America with the saddest faces that I have ever seen. We have been sold this idea that money can buy everything. Yes, money is a tool that can connect you to a higher purpose and accessibility but if the reason why you have it is to bring you something that you can get without money, you have lost the plot. Money is like energy, it can be negative or positive in your life but it depends on your mindset and your intention behind having it.

4. Not everyone has to like me.

When I was younger, I had this idea that everyone had to like me because if they didn’t, I had probably done something to them or wasn’t enough.This theory used to exhaust me and I allowed people to treat me with disrespect just so that they would stay in my life- making me feel better about myself. When a Manger or Customer treated me unkindly, I would take it personally and hold on to it for days and months. I thought that if I could control how they saw me, it would empower me; only to learn that it does the opposite. Ultimately, people treat me the way that they want to. All that I can do is be the best person that I am able to, show up, be kind and give my all. How people choose to treat me is their choice. My power lies in understanding that I can only control myself and freeing myself from other people’s expectations of me.

12 raisons pour lesquelles je suis reconnaissant aujourd'hui.

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Il est important de recentrer notre esprit et de nous concentrer parfois sur la positivité. Particulièrement quand on se sent déprimé. J'ai commencé à faire des affirmations quotidiennes il y a six ans et j'avais l'impression d'être idiot ou un simulacre quand je prononçais ces mots de la vie en moi.

Je me suis rendu compte que ce sentiment était juste mon Ego. Et en disant Affirmations dans ma vie de tous les jours, cela élève ma conscience et crée un système de croyance de positivité qui est stocké dans la mémoire musculaire de mon cerveau.

Voici 12 raisons pour lesquelles je suis heureux d'être en vie aujourd'hui (mon affirmation quotidienne):

1. Je suis capable.

2. Je suis en vie.

3. Je suis fort.

4. J'ai été doué d'un autre jour pour profiter.

5. Le soleil brille.

6. Mon corps fonctionne.

7. Je peux ouvrir les yeux.

8. Il y a beaucoup plus de raisons d'être heureux que de ne pas être heureux.

9. J'ai tout ce dont je pourrais avoir besoin.

10. Je suis en paix.

11. Je suis entouré d'amour.

12. je suis amour

4 Izizathu zokuthi kungani nginqume ukuhlala ngokweqiniso kimi.

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Eminyakeni emibili eyedlule ngidweba umdwebo wamagama athi, 'Yiba yiqiniso', ekubhaleni kukadadewethu engalweni yami ukungikhumbuza ukuthi ngihlale ngithembekile emaphusheni ami, ezinkolelweni naseqinisweni. Ukuze uma ngiphambuka kule mibono, ngenza isinqumo sokubuyela kulezizisekelo. Kungisizile kakhulu futhi lapho ngilahleka kokunye ukunganaki okukhuthaza okwangaphandle, ngizama konke okusemandleni ami ukubuyela ngaphakathi- ezweni lami elingaphakathi. Umhlaba wokwamukela, uthando nokuzazisa.

Angikaze ngizizwe ngale ndlela futhi angihlali ngizizwa ngale ndlela. Ngoba isifundo esikhulu kunazo zonke engisifunde ngale ndlela yempilo ukuthi zidinga ukubekezela, ukuqonda nokuphikelela.

 Ngithole induduzo nokwethembeka nobuqotho, Nazi ezinye izizathu ezine zokuthi kungani nginqume ukwenza le ndlela yokuphila:

1. Impilo yami ingeyami.

Ngaya esikoleni saseBrithani iningi lempilo yami futhi yize umndeni wami ungowaseBrithani ngokwengxenye, sithola ukuthi ungumAfrika. Ngakho-ke, ngaya esikoleni namantombazane amaningi aseCaucasian futhi ngesinye isikhathi ngangiwukuphela kwentombazane enobuhle base-Afrika ekilasini lami. Ngingakukhohlwa lokhu kodwa-ke uthisha abeke enze isitatimende esingesihle ngesiko lase-Afrika ngenkathi ebuka mina noma kanye, umlingani wami wangitshela ukuthi ngiqale ukugqoka oku-deodorant ukuze ngize ngibe nephunga 'lomuntu omnyama wangempela'. Ubuhlungu bala magama buyiqiniso impela futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngisawakhumbula ebhala ukuzithemba kwami ​​njengommese osika isiqeshana sezithelo. Kepha, bese ngikhumbula ukuthi luhlobo luni lwabantu olusho izinto eziwubala nezilimazayo njengale: abangenalwazi. Futhi, ukungazi into elula kunazo zonke yokuthethelela. Inhloso yami yokubathethelela hhayi ukungaxhamazeli ngokwenzeka kimi; kungukukhulula lezi zenzo ezinamandla nomoya onamandla wokulawula impilo yami.

2. Uma ngingangamukeli, ubani ozokwamukela?

Uhlobo lwe-yoga engiyifundisayo nengiyenzayo luyashisa futhi luphambi kwezibuko. Zenzelwe ukuveza ukuthi zibuyele kimi lapho ngizilolongela. Ngenkathi ngiqala lolu hlobo lwe-yoga, kwakunzima kakhulu ukuzibheka. Ngingakugwema ngandlela zonke. Kuze kube ngolunye usuku, uthisha wathi, 'Uma ungakwazi ukukubheka, balindela kanjani abanye?' Yebo, lesisho sasinhle kakhulu futhi engangikudinga ukuzwa kodwa lapho ngiguqula amanye amagama ukudala umbuzo omusha , 'Uma ungakwazi ukwamukela, ngubani ozokwamukela?', Kungisizile ukubhekana nami. Ngaleso sikhathi, ngangisebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nomuntu osemdala owayengenangusa okuhle kimi. Ukuzwa la magama kwangibona kimi ukuthi ngangimvumele ukuthi angiphathe ngale ndlela ngoba bengingaziqapheli. Bengingakaze ngiqaphele ngokweqiniso amandla alele ngaphakathi kimi futhi enza sengathi anginawo. Maye, ngemuva kokuthi ngizibuze lo mbuzo, inqubo yokuzamukela yaqala.

3. Akuyona imisebenzi yabanye abantu ukukuthanda.

Bengihlala ngisebenza kwesinye sezindawo zokudlela ezidumile eNew York City. Ngobusuku njalo, kwakufika umuntu osaziwayo, osopolitiki noma othile “owaziwayo” futhi abantu babezokhuluma kakhulu ngokuthi ngubani ozayo. I-pessimist yangaphakathi engaphakathi kimi yayikhipha amehlo ngenkathi ngifaka ukumamatheka okungelona iqiniso. Kule ndawo yokudlela, bekukhona umphathi ongangithandi ngoba angizukuthenga konke lokhu 'abanye abantu bangaphezulu kwengqondo yabanye.' Ubengangixhaphaza futhi angiphathe ngendlela embi. Uma ngicabanga ngakho, ngiyahleka ngoba manje sengikubona ngokucacile engikufundile kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho: kwakungewona umsebenzi wakhe ukungithanda noma kunjalo .Ngokubonga okuhle ukuthi ngesikhathi ngihlangana naye, ngibe nokuzethemba nenhlonipho eyanele ukungamvumeli ukuthi angihlukumeze futhi ngenze engangikudinga ukukwenza. Impela, ukuxhashazwa emsebenzini yimenenja yami bekungalungile futhi ukube bekuyingozi futhi kukhulu, ngabe ngihamba. Kodwa-ke, ungisizile ngakwazi ukwenza isethi yamakhono okuthi akekho noyedwa (futhi ngiqonde ukuthi akekho) ongabhala udaba lwami futhi akholelwe ngempela emandleni ami ngaphandle kwami.

4. Angisiye isikhwama sokubhoboza.

Ngisemncane, ngathola umbono wokuthi uma umuntu engiphatha kabi kufanele ngibe nobuntu nomusa kubo. Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuthethelela nokuvumela umuntu ukuthi aqhubeke nokukulimaza, kaninginingi. Ukuthethelela nemingcele kungahamba ngokubambisana. Ukuthethelela umuntu akusho ukuthi kufanele ube abangani bakho abahle kakhulu ngemuva kokuthi benze okuthile kuwe, kungasho ukwamukela ukuthi umuntu ngeke ashintshe futhi anqume ukuqhubekela phambili nempilo yakho. Njengoba sengikhulile, ngiyaqonda ukuthi angidingi ukumomotheka kubantu enginokuxhumana okungekuhle futhi angidingi ukubekezelela isimilo esingadingeki esivela kubantu abafuna ukungisebenzisa ukuze ngizizwe kangcono mayelana ngokwabo noma ukuba khona kwabo empilweni. Ngiphila impilo yokufeza izinto ezinhle kakhulu futhi lokho kusho ukuthi ngeke ngivume ukuthi ngidluliswe yinoma yini noma omunye umuntu.

12 cosas por las que estoy sorprendentemente agradecido.

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Cuando era más joven, solía pensar que solo podía estar agradecido por las cosas que estaban alineadas con lo que me gustaba y lo que era saludable o "bueno" para mí.

A medida que crecí, llegué a comprender que la gratitud puede ser para las personas y las cosas que son "malas" o que no están alineadas con lo que me gusta porque pueden ser los mejores maestros que uno pueda tener.

Al contrario de lo que queremos pensar, a menudo son las personas negativas las que más nos enseñan sobre nosotros mismos y nuestros caminos.

Aquí hay 12 cosas por las que estoy sorprendentemente agradecido:

1. Mis defectos porque me permiten aceptar los defectos de los demás también.

2. Cuando las personas son negativas o desagradables hacia mí porque me recuerda practicar la amabilidad.

3. Cuando la gente trata de usarme porque me recuerda establecer límites claros para que pueda hacer lo que pueda para evitar ser usado en el futuro.

4. Cuando alguien me ignora porque me recuerda quién debe ser en mi vida y quién no.

5. Cuando alguien es falso o condescendiente conmigo porque recuerda ser sincero.

6. Cuando alguien habla falsedades sobre mí porque me recuerda que soy el único que puede decir mi propia verdad.

7. Cuando alguien proyecta sus inseguridades sobre mí porque me recuerda que tengo que lidiar con las mías.

8. Cuando alguien espera que sea perfecto porque me recuerda que lo que siente es una extensión de sí mismo y que necesito extender la compasión y la aceptación para que otros crezcan.

9. Cuando alguien traiciona mi confianza porque solo prueba que no estaban destinados a estar en la vida de todos modos.

10. Cuando alguien juega conmigo porque me ayuda a preguntarme si ya no tengo juegos o si estoy dispuesto a jugar con ellos.

11. Cuando alguien intenta controlarme porque me recuerda que solo puedo ser controlado si le doy control sobre mí.

12. Cuando alguien insulta mi apariencia física porque me recuerda centrarme en mi belleza interior para poder exudar una belleza que es de mi núcleo, hacia afuera.

12 Things that I am surprisingly grateful for.

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When I was younger, I used to think that I could only be grateful for things that were in alignment with what I liked and what were healthy or ‘good’ for me. 

As I have grown, I have come to understand that gratitude can be for people and things that are ‘bad’ or not in alignment with what I like because they can be the greatest teachers that one will ever have. 

Contrary to what we may want to think, it is often the negative people that teach us most about ourselves and our paths. 

Here are 12 things that I surprisingly grateful for: 

1. My flaws because they allow me to accept others’ flaws too. 

2. When people are negative or nasty towards me because it reminds to practice kindness. 

3. When people try to use me because it reminds me to set clear boundaries so that I can do what I can to avoid being used moving forward. 

4. When someone ignore me because it reminds me who is meant to be in my life and who isn’t. 

5. When someone is fake or condescending towards me because it reminds to be sincere. 

6. When someone speaks mistruths about me because it reminds me that I am the only one who can speak my own truth. 

7. When someone projects their insecurities onto me because it reminds me that I need to deal with my own.

8. When someone expects me to be perfect because it reminds me that how they feel is an extension of themselves and that I need to extend compassion and acceptance for others to grow. 

9. When someone betrays my trust because it just proves that they weren’t meant to be in life anyways. 

10. When someone plays games with me because it helps me ask myself if I have outgrown or games or willing to play with them. 

11. When someone tries to control me because it reminds me that I can only be controlled if I give them control over me. 

12. When someone insults my physical appearance because it reminds me to focus on my inner beauty so that I can exude a beauty that is from my core, outwards.

4 Reasons why I have decided to stay true to myself.

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Two years ago I tattooed the words, ‘Be true’, in my sister’s handwriting on my forearm to remind me to stay true to my dreams, beliefs and authenticity. So that when I stray from these ideas, I make a choice to come back to these fundamentals. It has helped me immensely and when I get lost in some of the negativities that are promoted by the outside, I try my best to come back in- to my inner world. A world of acceptance, love and self-appreciation. 

I haven’t always felt like this and I don’t always feel this way. Because the biggest lesson that I have learnt about this way of life is that it requires patience, understanding and persistence.

 I have found comfort and honesty and integrity, here are 4 other reasons why I have decided to practice this way of life: 

1. My life belongs to me. 

I went to a British School for the majority of my life and although my family is partially British, we identify with being African. So, I went to school with mostly Caucasian girls and sometimes I would be the only girl of African decent in my class. I would forget this but then a teacher would make a nasty remark about African culture while looking at me or once, a peer of mine told me to start wearing deodorant so that I don’t smell like a ‘real black person’. The pain of these words is very real and sometimes I still remember them slicing my self-esteem like a knife cutting through a piece of fruit. But, then I remember what kind of people say silly and hurtful things like that: ignorant ones. And, ignorance is the easiest thing to forgive. My intention behind forgiving them is not to be passive about what happened to me; it is to release these mean-spirited actions and words from having control over my life. 

2. If I don’t accept me, who will?

The kind of yoga that I teach and practice is in the heat and in front of mirrors. They are meant to reflect myself back to me when I am practicing. When I first started this type of yoga, it was so difficult to look at myself. I would avoid it at all costs. Until one day, a teacher said, ‘If you can’t look at you, how do expect others to?’ Yes, that quote was great and what I needed to hear but when I interchanged some of the words to create the new question, ‘If you can’t accept you, who will?’ , it helped me face myself. At the time, I was in a toxic relationship with an older guy who was not very kind towards me. Hearing these words dawned on me that I had allowed him to treat me that way because I hadn’t noticed myself. I had never truly been aware of the power that lied within me and acted like I had none. Alas, after I asked myself this question, the process of self-acceptance began.

3. It is not other people’s jobs to like you. 

I used to work at one of the most famous restaurants in New York City. Literally every night, a celebrity, politician or someone “well-known” would come by and people would make a big deal about who was coming. The inner pessimist inside of me would roll her eyes while I put on a fake smile. At this restaurant, there was a manager who disliked me because I wouldn’t buy into this whole ‘some people are above others’ mentality. She would bully me and treat me in an awful manner. When I think back on it, I laugh because now I see so clearly what I learnt through that experience: it was never her job to like me anyways.Thank goodness that by the time I met her, I had enough self-confidence and respect to not let her bother me and do what I needed to do. Sure, being bullied at work by my manager was not ideal and if it were hazardous and extreme, I would’ve left. However, she helped me practice the skill set that no one (and I mean no one) can write my story and truly believe in my capabilities but me.

4.  I am not a punching bag. 

When I was younger, I bought into the idea that if someone does me wrong that I still have to be cordial and kind towards them. There is a big difference between forgiveness and allowing someone to keep hurting you, over and over again. Forgiveness and boundaries can go hand-in-hand. Forgiving someone does not mean that you should be best buddies with them after they have done something to you, it can mean accepting that a person won’t change and deciding to move forward with your life. As I have gotten older, I understand that I don’t need to smile at people who I have negative interactions with and I don’t have to put up with un-necessary behaviour from people who just want to use me to feel better about themselves or their existence in life. I am living life to accomplish great things and that means I will not allow myself to be walked over by anything or anyone. 

12 Reasons why I am grateful to be alive today.

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It is important to re-centre our minds and focus on positivity sometimes. Particularly, when we feel down. I first started daily affirmations six years ago and, it felt like I was being corny or a phony when I would speak these words of life into me. 

I came to realize that feeling this was way was just my Ego. And by speaking Affirmations into my life everyday, it elevates my consciousness and creates a belief system of positivity that is being stored in the muscle memory of my brain. 

Here are 12 reasons why I am happy to be alive today (my daily affirmation):

1. I am able. 

2. I am alive. 

3. I am strong. 

4. I have been gifted with another day to enjoy. 

5. The sun is shining. 

6. My body is functioning. 

7. I can open my eyes. 

8. There are many more reasons to be happy than not. 

9. I have everything that I could possibly need. 

10. I am at peace. 

11. I am surrounded by love. 

12. I am love.

12 cosas que debemos enseñar a los niños en la escuela.

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No es ningún secreto que no era fanático de la escuela. Aunque tuve algunos maestros excelentes, fue uno de los momentos más restrictivos y succionadores de mi vida. Todos tienen una experiencia diferente: la mía fue un poco corta de tortura.

Estoy agradecido de que mis padres puedan permitirse llevarme a una de las mejores escuelas de África. De lo contrario, estoy seguro de que mi experiencia hubiera sido incluso peor de lo que fue.

La dinámica de la escuela es interesante porque cuando nacen los niños, son amables y sinceros. Entonces, ¿qué pasa en el camino a la edad adulta? Pasamos algún tiempo haciendo esta pregunta cuando muy pocos de nosotros nos sentimos aceptados y apreciados en nuestra vida escolar, ¡lo cual debería responder la pregunta!

En general, pasamos tanto tiempo centrados en los materiales y en cómo sobrevivir en este mundo corporativo que olvidamos enseñar los fundamentos en nuestros hijos que son esenciales para el mejoramiento y la salud de nuestra sociedad.

Si queremos criar niños que sean completos, amables, amorosos y compasivos, debemos enseñar las siguientes cosas en la escuela, que son tan importantes como Matemáticas, Geografía, Historia, Inglés y otras materias que enseñamos a nuestros hijos a mantener. una vida de materialismo:

1. Ser amable.

2. Para escucharse unos a otros.

3. Dar más que tomar.

4. Para apoyar a otros niños.

5. Para competir con quienes eran ayer.

6. Para encontrar la paz interior.

7. Continuar teniendo una mente y un corazón abiertos.

8. Que el dinero y los materiales no son importantes a menos que podamos apreciarlos y regalar algunos de ellos a otros.

9. Para tratar de alegrarle el día a alguien.

10. Ser genuino.

11. Pensar en los demás también.

12. Buscar amor, felicidad, aprecio, validación y aprecio primero.