Walk into 2018 with these four empowering mantras.

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I’m not sure about you, but 2017 was a challenging year for me.Although I am grateful for the character building characteristics of being challenged; a little ease and positivity after it most certainly feels good.

As a firm-believer of affirmations and manifestations, it is important to keep ourselves motivated and empowered regardless of what happens to us.

We said goodbye to 2017 and now let’s welcome 2018 with love and assurance that our best days are ahead of us, with these mantras:

1. I am stronger than my challenges because I am still here.

Regardless of how difficult some things may seem while you are in them. Once they are done, it is clear that you are stronger than them because you are still here and your problems or challenges are not. If they are, I can guarantee you that there will be a moment in time when they won’t be with you anymore.

2. Breathe, believe and succeed.

In my opinion, the equation to a fulfilled life is remaining at peace, believing in yourself , what you love and doing the hard work. It’s important to remain calm because worrying during this process will block your blessings. To be blessed, you must be open to receive your blessings. Negativity and worry only blocks that,

3. There is power in now.

This mantra can be applied to all areas of your life. It can help you practice being in the present moment, it can help you make the most of the moment and it can remind you to live this moment because it will be gone. Choose what it means to you. And, use it to progress this year.
4. Feed your destiny.

I heard this mantra from a sermon by Joel Osteen. In the sermon, he explained that it is easy to go through periods in time that are challenging and to get caught up in being negative; however, feeding your past can only get in your own way. To maximize the potential of your future, use words and energy that positively impact your future and what lies ahead.

🇫🇷Marcher en 2018 avec ces quatre mantras habilitants.

Je ne suis pas sûr de vous, mais 2017 a été une année difficile pour moi.Bien que je suis reconnaissant pour les caractéristiques de construction du personnage d'être contesté; un peu de facilité et de positivité après tout cela se sent certainement bien. En tant que fervent défenseur des affirmations et des manifestations, il est important de rester motivé et responsabilisé indépendamment de ce qui nous arrive.

Nous avons dit au revoir à 2017 et maintenant accueillons 2018 avec amour et assurance que nos meilleurs jours sont devant nous, avec ces mantras:

1. Je suis plus fort que mes défis parce que je suis toujours là.

Indépendamment de la difficulté que certaines choses peuvent sembler pendant que vous êtes dedans. Une fois qu'ils ont terminé, il est clair que vous êtes plus fort qu'eux parce que vous êtes toujours là et que vos problèmes ou vos défis ne le sont pas. Si c'est le cas, je peux vous garantir qu'il y aura un moment où ils ne seront plus avec vous.

2.Respirez croyez et réussissez.

À mon avis, l'équation d'une vie accomplie reste en paix, en croyant en soi-même, en ce que vous aimez et en faisant le dur labeur. Il est important de rester calme car s'inquiéter pendant ce processus bloquera vos bénédictions. Pour être béni, vous devez être ouvert à recevoir vos bénédictions. La négativité et l'inquiétude ne font que bloquer cela.

3. Il y a du pouvoir maintenant.

Ce mantra peut être appliqué à tous les domaines de votre vie. Il peut vous aider à vous entraîner dans le moment présent, il peut vous aider à profiter au maximum du moment et vous rappeler de vivre ce moment car il sera parti. Choisissez ce que cela signifie pour vous. Et, utilisez-le pour progresser cette année.

4. Nourrissez votre destin.

 J'ai entendu ce mantra d'un sermon par Joel Osteen. Dans le sermon, il a expliqué qu'il est facile de traverser des périodes difficiles et de se laisser prendre au piège de la négativité; cependant, nourrir votre passé ne peut que vous suivre à votre façon. Pour maximiser le potentiel de votre avenir, utilisez des mots et de l'énergie qui ont un impact positif sur votre avenir et sur ce qui vous attend.

🇨🇮Caminar hacia 2018 con cuatro mantras de empoderamiento.

No estoy seguro de ti, pero 2017 fue un año desafiante para mí. Aunque estoy agradecido por las características de construcción del carácter de ser desafiado; un poco de facilidad y positividad después de que se sienta bien.

Como firme creyente de afirmaciones y manifestaciones, es importante mantenernos motivados y con poder independientemente de lo que nos suceda. Nos despedimos de 2017 y ahora recibamos 2018 con amor y seguridad de que nuestros mejores días nos esperan, con estos mantras:

1. Soy más fuerte que mis desafíos porque todavía estoy aquí.

Independientemente de cuán difíciles pueden parecer algunas cosas mientras estás en ellas. Una vez que terminan, está claro que usted es más fuerte que ellos porque todavía está aquí y sus problemas o desafíos no lo están. Si lo son, te puedo garantizar que habrá un momento en el que ya no estarán contigo.

2. Respira, cree y triunfa.

En mi opinión, la ecuación para una vida plena es permanecer en paz, creer en ti mismo, lo que amas y hacer el trabajo duro. Es importante mantener la calma porque preocuparse durante este proceso bloqueará tus bendiciones. Para ser bendecido, debes estar abierto para recibir tus bendiciones. La negatividad y la preocupación solo bloquean eso,

3. Hay poder ahora.

Este mantra se puede aplicar a todas las áreas de tu vida. Puede ayudarte a practicar el estar en el momento presente, puede ayudarte a aprovechar al máximo el momento y puede recordarte vivir este momento porque ya no estará. Elija lo que significa para usted. Y úsala para progresar este año.

4. Alimenta tu destino.

Escuché este mantra de un sermón de Joel Osteen. En el sermón, explicó que es fácil atravesar períodos en el tiempo que son desafiantes y quedar atrapado en ser negativo; sin embargo, alimentar su pasado solo puede ponerse a su manera. Para maximizar el potencial de su futuro, use palabras y energía que tengan un impacto positivo en su futuro y en lo que le espera.

5 words that you should remove from your vocabulary

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Words carry power, and I've found called myself names I thought I didn't mean, only to find out later that I did mean them. Because behind every word is intention.

If my intention is to be kind to myself and to others, then I have no reason to use the following words:

1. Stupid

We call ourselves, people and things stupid if they don't do what we want them to when we want them to. Releasing this word from your vocabulary allows you to accept things the way they are. Who are we to judge who someone is? What something is? And when something occurs?

2. Fat

If you're calling yourself and others this word, STOP! This word spreads pure hate. Do you want to contribute hate or love to this world? If you want to be a positive influence in this world, using this word will do the opposite of your intention.

3. Should

If things were meant to be a certain way, they would be that way. If you were meant to be with your former partner, you would be. If you were meant to be a millionaire, you would be one. If you were meant to have different parents, you would have different parents. You are exactly where you are meant to be, and you can use what you have to progress. Wishing things were different from how they are now will stop you from progressing successfully.

4. Hate

It isn't only a strong word, but a word that promotes negativity. Why focus on what's going wrong with your day and life, when you can focus on what's going right.

5. Loser

People have their own routes in this journey of life. Most of the time there isn't a winner and a loser because all of us have something to learn from life. If someone has decided to live life the way that they want to, which may seem bizarre to you and others, you aren't the judge of how and what they are meant to achieve. Have enough respect and consideration for people to let them live life the way they want, without them being fearful of labels and restrictions.

15 more reasons to forgive

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Every three months, I take a yoga challenge. I practice hot yoga for 30 consecutive days, and I also give myself 30 reasons to forgive. Here are 15 of my favorites from my last challenge:

1. I forgive because holding onto judgements about myself and others only shackles my mind and soul to negativity.

2. I forgive because I want to remember more than the wrong that's been done to me.

3. I forgive because we are all humans. Counting what is wrong with others will only bring me down; how long can I keep fighting?

4. I forgive because I am not a victim. Anything that has been done to me was not under my control.

5. I forgive because I will not allow negative people and negative situations to have a hold over my life.

6. I forgive because today is too beautiful to be spent judging and scrutinizing people around me.

7. I forgive because if I don't move past offense, I will drive myself crazy.

8. I forgive because I don't expect people to be kind; I merely appreciate those who are. The only way I can appreciate those who are kind is by forgiving those who are unkind.

9. I forgive because what has happened, has happened. It's time to let it go.

10. I forgive because in this imperfect human body I am in no state to hold anything against anyone.

11. I forgive because I can't expect others to live by my expectations.

12. I forgive because I can't rewrite the past, and I don't want to.

13. I forgive because my sense of peace is not worth sacrificing over something that happened in the past.

14. I forgive because I want to wish others well, including those who have hurt me.

15. I forgive because I want to have hope. Hope is not obtained by holding onto what has gone wrong.

4 ways to create the life that you want

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It may seem difficult to create the life that you want. Whether it may be a dream job, a new business venture or a relationship, it is possible to achieve what you want.

If you see a vision for yourself that is higher than what you see around you, make it happen. It is definitely possible!

Here are some tools to help you do so:

1. Manifest.

Manifestation is power. It is powerful because by manifesting you are raising your vibrations and putting what you want out into The Universe. Whenever I want something, I manifest it through meditation and let it go. And, most of the time it comes to pass.

2. Trust.

Through the process of creating the life that you want, you must trust The Universe or higher-being. When you trust, you release any anxiety, worry or stress because you understand that if it is meant for you, it will be. Surrender your vision and your plan to your higher-being and trust that it will come to pass.

3. Visualize.

Visualization can be powerful. I highly recommend creating a vision board. This is so that when things get difficult during the process of creating what you want, you keep going and moving towards your goals. It’s easy to get lost in the negatives of why things aren’t working. Elevate yourself by keeping a board that has images of why want what you want and the reward for doing it.

4. Make it happen.

You can manifest, visualize and trust until you are black and blue form effort; however, you must also get out there and make it happen. It may seem daunting to go after what you want because you could fail, right? But, failure is just redirection. No one who is successful got there by sitting on their couch. Creating the life you want requires making it happen.

4 façons de créer la vie que vous voulez.

Il peut sembler difficile de créer la vie que vous voulez. Que ce soit un travail de rêve, une nouvelle entreprise ou une relation, il est possible de réaliser ce que vous voulez. Si vous voyez une vision qui est plus élevée que ce que vous voyez autour de vous, faites en sorte que cela se produise. C'est définitivement possible! Voici quelques outils pour vous aider à le faire:

1. Manifeste

La manifestation est le pouvoir. C'est puissant parce qu'en manifestant vous élevez vos vibrations et mettez ce que vous voulez dans l'Univers. Chaque fois que je veux quelque chose, je le manifeste à travers la méditation et je le laisse partir. Et, la plupart du temps, cela arrive.

2. Confiance.

À travers le processus de création de la vie que vous voulez, vous devez faire confiance à l'Univers ou à l'être supérieur. Lorsque vous faites confiance, vous libérez toute anxiété, inquiétude ou stress parce que vous comprenez que si cela est fait pour vous, ce sera le cas. Abandonnez votre vision et votre plan à votre être supérieur et ayez confiance que cela arrivera.

3. Visualisez.

La visualisation peut être puissante. Je recommande fortement de créer un tableau de vision. C'est ainsi que lorsque les choses deviennent difficiles au cours du processus de création de ce que vous voulez, vous continuez et progressez vers vos objectifs. Il est facile de se perdre dans les aspects négatifs de la raison pour laquelle les choses ne fonctionnent pas. Élevez-vous en gardant un tableau avec des images de pourquoi vous voulez ce que vous voulez et la récompense pour le faire.

4. Faites-le arriver.

Vous pouvez manifester, visualiser et faire confiance jusqu'à ce que vous soyez un effort de forme noir et bleu; Cependant, vous devez également aller là-bas et y arriver. Cela peut sembler décourageant d'aller chercher ce que vous voulez parce que vous pourriez échouer, non? Mais, l'échec est juste la redirection. Personne qui a réussi n'est arrivé en s'asseyant sur leur canapé. Créer la vie que vous voulez exige que cela se produise.

4 formas de crear la vida que deseas

Puede parecer difícil crear la vida que deseas. Ya sea que se trate de un trabajo de ensueño, una nueva empresa comercial o una relación, es posible lograr lo que desea. Si ves una visión para ti que es más alta que lo que ves a tu alrededor, haz que suceda. ¡Definitivamente es posible! Aquí hay algunas herramientas para ayudarlo a hacerlo:

1. Manifiesto.

La manifestación es poder. Es poderoso porque al manifestar estás elevando tus vibraciones y poniendo lo que deseas en el Universo. Cada vez que quiero algo, lo manifiesto a través de la meditación y lo dejo ir. Y, la mayoría de las veces se trata de pasar.  

2. Confianza 

A través del proceso de crear la vida que deseas, debes confiar en el universo o ser superior. Cuando confías, liberas cualquier ansiedad, preocupación o estrés porque entiendes que si es para ti, lo será. Entregue su visión y su plan a su ser superior y confíe en que sucederá.

3. Visualiza.

La visualización puede ser poderosa. Recomiendo crear una tabla de visión. Esto es para que cuando las cosas se ponen difíciles durante el proceso de creación de lo que deseas, sigas avanzando y avanzando hacia tus objetivos. Es fácil perderse en lo negativo de por qué las cosas no funcionan. Alégrese manteniendo un tablero que tenga imágenes de por qué quiere lo que quiere y la recompensa por hacerlo.

4. Haz que suceda

Puedes manifestar, visualizar y confiar hasta que seas negro y azul; sin embargo, también debes salir y hacer que suceda. Puede parecer desalentador perseguir lo que quieres porque podrías fallar, ¿no? Pero, el fracaso es solo una redirección. Nadie que tenga éxito llegó allí sentado en su sofá. Crear la vida que deseas requiere hacerlo realidad.

What I would tell my 18 year-old self

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I remember graduating from high school almost as though it was only a few years ago, not a decade ago. When I was 18, I felt very lost.

I had no idea what I was doing in life, my career because I hated school and, secretly, had little hope that I would survive in the ‘real world’. Which, gave me anxiety because the worst thing in the world is not being able to survive.

Clearly I did survive! Being a young adult has been challenging but great. But, I wish I had been told the following things:

1. Believe in yourself.

I know that it is difficult to believe in yourself but if you don’t, who else will? People trust and hire confident people. Give yourself a leap forward in life by supporting and believing in yourself, it makes life easier.

2. Set boundaries of respect for yourself.

Right now, I see that people in your life treat you however they want to and you don’t know how to tell people to treat you with respect. First, start with respecting yourself and you will notice that most people will follow suit. Also, don’t be afraid to communicate to someone if you feel they have disrespected you. I truly believe that most people are unaware of how they behave and, in Maya Angelou’s words, ‘When people know better, they do better’.

3. Forgive!

Forgiveness is so important. Hali, there is no point in holding onto what that girl, Claire said to you, she will forget and you will be stuck holding onto negativity and stress within your body. That’s the biggest problem with unforgiveness, most of time, the person who has done wrong has no idea and we hold onto anger for something that can just be let go of. Your life belongs to you, not those who have done you wrong or hurt you.

4. You don’t have to prove that you are lovable, you just are.

You are about to go through three long-term relationships where your biggest lesson is to learn that you are lovable- you don’t need to convince others that you are. As a woman, you have been told that you are only worth being loved at a certain weight, with a certain hair colour and if you can be a good ‘wife’. But, Hali, all of that is a lie. You were made from love, The Universe’s love, and therefore, you are an expression of it. No matter what you look like, you are already worthy of love.

5. There is enough to go around.

Contrary to what you have been told, there is enough to go around. There is enough money, enough men, enough water, enough food and enough anything to let go of the need to compete with your fellow humans to get what you need, particularly fellow females. When you see another woman doing well, let it inspire you. Use her well-doing to motivate you. If she is able to achieve, so are you. Live life to life others up, not push them down.

Or, maybe learning them was part of my experience. So, I am grateful for the process that lead me to learn from them.

6 reason why I forgive myself.

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There’s truly nothing worse than regret. The truth is that when we don’t do our best or feel like we could’ve done better, we feel regret, even guilt or shame.

These negative feelings lead us no where but down a hole of anxiety and depression. We deserve better than that.

For this reason, am a firm-believer in self-forgiveness. Here are 6 other reasons why:

1. I am constantly learning and growing.

Growth is a process which will involve making mistakes. Yes, we all fall but what’s powerful is getting back up. I forgive myself because I am constantly learning and growing.

2. I am not perfect.

We are expected to do and be a lot. Nowadays, you say or do one wrong thing and people come after you via twitter or social media. We are not meant to be perfect and there is a beauty in that. If we all walked around as perfect robotic beings, life would be boring. I forgive myself for not being perfect.

3. I am in control of my happiness.

Yes, I could spend hours, days and months dwelling on my mistakes but where would that get me? Repeating negative thoughts will only bring me down. I forgive myself because I am in control of my happiness.

4. Now that I know better, I can do better.

These words are from Maya Angelou. Sometimes the only way to become a better person is through trial and error. I recently went through a situation with a man where I was beating myself up for allowing him to treat me the way that he did. A reminder of this quote came into my head and I felt calm. It took me not knowing better to find out and understand what better is. I forgive myself because now that I know better, I can do better.

5. I am stronger than what I went through.

I am stronger than my mistakes because I am still here. If I have gotten through them, then it is time to let them go. Sometimes being stronger than a situation speaks more volumes than how you got into it to begin. I forgive myself because I am stronger than what I went through.

6. I don’t always have to be right.

In the words of Joss Stone, ‘I’ve got a right to be wrong, my mistakes will make me strong.’ As a human being, I am allowed my mistakes. I’m not saying that they will happen often, however, I can let go of the notion that I need to be perfect and never do any wrong. I forgive myself because I don’t always have to be right.

4 types of people that you need to distance yourself from.

If you asked me a few years ago if I knew how to set boundaries for myself, I would  have replied, ‘Boundaries? What boundaries?’

Truthfully, I wasn’t the greatest at setting boundaries but now I find them necessary. What is also necessary is distancing yourself from toxic people.

This article is inspired by a meme that I saw on Instagram that quotes Dwayne Johnson on the type of people that we should distance ourselves from:

1. People who lie to you.

Like we were told when we were young kids, ‘A liar is a thief and a thief is a liar’. This may sound a bit exaggerated, however, you can’t trust people who lie to you. To avoid conflict and issues in your life, distance yourself from people who lie to you because you won’t be able to trust them. And, what good is a relationship that doesn’t have trust?

2. People who disrespect you.

Like my mother always used to tell me, ‘Every doormat says welcome’. That saying has stayed with me everyday of my life. When we allow people to disrespect us, we are responsible too. To protect yourself from disrespectful behaviour, distance yourself from disrespectful people because only you can stand up for yourself.

3. People who use you.

We all have people in our lives who like to push our buttons, harass us for money or feel entitled to our time. Well, it’s time for you to distance yourself from them. It is not always your problem when people find themselves in a bind. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help but don’t become someone’s crutch, you deserve better than that.

4. People who put you down.

Unfortunately insecure, mean and unfriendly people exist. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with them. You deserve to be surrounded by people who support, appreciate and acknowledge you; not people who put you down. If you hang around people who call you names, disrespect you or treat you badly, you will soon do the same to yourself.

Why setting boundaries is so important

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I don't remember when it started but I do remember being in my early twenties and letting people talk to me and treat me however they wanted too, particularly men.

I was so afraid of being labelled mean, cold or the B-word. As years passed, I realized that it's up to me to protect myself against disrespect or unfair behaviour regardless of what people thought of me.

This is what I have learnt:

1. Most people don't realize how they are treating you.

Living in New York, I would take it so personally when people would bump into me, ignore me or try to take advantage of of me. It took me a few years to understand that people have acquired their behavioural patterns over sometime. And, how people treat me is not personal.

2. You show people how to treat you.

I am a firm-believer in respect starting with the self. If you are going around telling yourself that you are not worthy, ugly or fat, don't be surprised when other people say the same about you. When you speak words of positivity, joy and love about yourself, you encourage others to do the same. Same goes with how you treat yourself with nutrition and exercise. When you take care of yourself, you open the door to be taken care of by others.

3. Every doormat says welcome.

My mother would tell me this growing up and I never really understood it until I was an adult. I was in a toxic relationship with someone who cared very little about me and my wellbeing. I knew this about him and I still let him into my life, over and over again. Every time that I did, I complied with his disrespectful behaviour towards me. This is not true for everything, obviously; however, it is true for a lot of situations.

4. Be Kind.

Contrary to what we often think, we don't always have to set our boundaries with a grunt or nasty face. We can set boundaries by being kind and respectful. As I mentioned before, a lot of people are not aware of how they treat us. So, the first time that you set boundaries, don't act like you have already done it before. Generally people are more respectful when you treat them with respect.