3 Izinto engizifundile mayelana nokubonakaliswa nangobuningi.

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Kuleminyaka eyishumi edlule, ngihambile ngaya phambili futhi ngisiya phambili ngomgwaqo wokubonakaliswa nobuningi. Lolu hambo luvule iso futhi kufanelekile ukuluthatha njengoba ngifunde kakhulu.

Ngiqale loluhambo lapho ngineminyaka engu-18 futhi ngifunda Imfihlo: incwadi ekhuluma ngezinto ezibonakalayo nezinto ozifunayo empilweni yakho. Ngesikhathi ngiyifunda, bengifuna ukubonisa amamaki amahle ngonyaka wami wokugcina esikoleni esiphakeme. Futhi, empeleni kwasebenza!

Unyaka wami wokugcina esikoleni esiphakeme, ngathola iziqu nge-B lapho ngangiwumfundi weC / D kuyo yonke impilo yami yokufunda esikoleni. Kuyavunywa, kwenzeka ezinye izinto. Kodwa-ke, ukubonakaliswa nokufinyeleleka kweningi kudlale indima enkulu.

Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, ngifunde amandla enala nokubonakaliswa. Ngokufunda la mandla, ngithole ulwazi mayelana nezinye izinto, futhi.

Nakhu engikufundile:

1. Kufanele ukholelwe ukuthi uyakufanelekela.

Abaningi bethu banokuqonda esikufunayo; kodwa-ke, okumi phakathi kwethu ne-'Into 'ukwesaba. Ukwesaba kungamandla, angabonakala ebhlokini. Ukwesaba ukuthi awukufanele kuvumelekile kepha kwenziwa ngokuphelele.I-block kungenzeka ingabi ngokomzimba kepha inamandla. Kungakuvimba ekufezeni lokho okufunayo ngoba omunye wemithetho yokuqala yobuningi nokubonakaliswa ukholelwa ukuthi uyakufanelekela lokho osokuthola. Uma ukholwa ukuthi ungumuntu ofanele ukuthi leli thuba, into noma umuntu ulibhekise kulokho (ngamandla) kuzolunga nawe ngaphezulu uma ungazi.

2. Trust The Universe ukukuqondisa kuyo noma kuwe.

Ingxenye enkulu yobuningi ukuthembela. Iningi lethu likhuliswe ukubeka umzamo omkhulu kunalokho esikudingayo ezimweni, abantu nezinto ngoba sinovalo lokuthi uma singenzi konke okusemandleni ngeke kusithole noma ngeke sikuthole . Lokhu kucabanga kuvumelekile; nokho, ukwesaba nokusinda-okusekwe. Njengoba siqala ukuqonda kabanzi ngobuchopho bomuntu, sesithole ukuthi iningi labantu lisebenza ngokusuka emphefumlweni wemvelo- ubuchopho bethu bokhokho. Kuyindlela yokusinda futhi akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ngoba iningi lethu akudingeki lizingele noma libulale ukuze siphile.

Ngokwesayensi, njengoba ubuntu sebuthuthukile, ubuchopho bethu bukhula ngosayizi kodwa hhayi ngobukhulu. Imikhuba egcwele kanye neyokomoya isisiza ekufinyeleleni amandla wobuchopho futhi isikhulule emvelweni yethu yokusinda. Lapho sikhulula lesi sici sokucabanga, sakha isithombe esikhulu futhi sifunde ukuthi uma sinikela ngokusemandleni ethu, gcina ingqondo evulekile, inhliziyo futhi, futhi sazi lokho esikufunayo, sikuvumela ukuba kungene ezimpilweni zethu. Esikhundleni sokuphoqa izinto nabantu ezimpilweni zethu, ikakhulukazi lezo ezingafuni ukuba lapho.

3. Imvamisa yithina kuphela ngendlela yethu.

Ngigcina ngifunda lokhu njalo. Muva nje, bengine-epiphany enkulu kakhulu ngalokho engangikwenzile ukuvimba izibusiso empilweni yami. Lapho ngiseyingane, abazali bami badlula ngesehlukaniso. Ngiyabathanda bobabili abazali bami futhi ngiyazi ukuthi benze konke okusemandleni; kodwa-ke, isehlukaniso sabo saba nesifiso sokuphila kimi sokuthi ubudlelwane obuthile abufanele busebenze, ikakhulukazi nabantu besilisa. Futhi, ukuthi ngihlala ngidingida ukuhambisa izinto ngoba impilo yami ingahle ijulwe ngomzuzwana osheshayo, imali kungenzeka ukuthi ihambile ngaphambi kokuba ngiyazi. Okunye okuvezwa yilokhu isidingo sokusebenzisa lokho okuku-akhawunti yami yasebhange ukuqinisekisa ukuthi nginakho konke engikudingayo uma kwenzeka kwenzeka okuthile.

Okunye futhi okwabanjwa yingane yami yangaphakathi ukuthi imali kubi. Ngiseyingane, ngaba nentukuthelo nenzondo kubaba owayezogodla yonke imali emndenini wakhe lapho esithukuthelela. Ngakho-ke, ngabona imali njengenkinga hhayi ukuthi yayisingathwa kanjani. Muva nje, ngithole ukuqaphela ukuthi imali iyindlela yamandla. Uma usebenzisa imali ukukhohlisa abantu nezinto, lawo ke mandla owakhipha. Kodwa-ke, uma wamukela futhi usebenzise imali ngokuhle, kungasiza ukufaka isithombe esikhulu sobuningi: ukukhwela nokugeleza kwalokho esibekelwe yi-Universal. Ukuhlomela ngokwezezimali kungaba yithuluzi elihle lokwenza okuhle, kwesinye isikhathi sikukhohlwa lokho.

3 Things that I have learnt about manifestation and abundance.

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Over the past decade, I have walked farther and farther down the road of manifestation and abundance. This journey has been eye-opening and worthy of taking as I have learnt so much. 

I started this journey when I was 18 and read The Secret: a book about manifesting materials and things that you want into your life. At the time that I read it, I wanted to manifest good grades in my last year of High School. And, it actually worked! 

My last year of High School, I graduated with a B average when I had been a C/D student throughout the rest of my schooling-life. Granted, other things came into play. However, manifestation and accessing abundance played a big part. 

Ever since then, I have learnt the power of abundance and manifestation. In learning this power, I have accumulated knowledge about other things, too. 

Here is what I have learnt: 

1. You have to believe that you are worthy. 

Many of us have a grasp of what we want; however, what stands in-between us and ‘That thing’ is fear. Fear is energy, which can manifest into a block. Being afraid that you are not worthy is valid but completely made up.The block may not be physical but energetic. It can stop you from achieving what you want because one of the first rules of abundance and manifestation is believing that you are worthy of what you are about to receive. If you believe that you are the right person that this opportunity, thing or person is headed towards then (energetically) it will align with you more than if you don’t. 

2. Trust The Universe to guide you to it or it to you.

A big part of abundance is trust. Most of us have been raised to put in more effort than we need in to circumstances, people and things because we fear that if we don’t do absolutely everything that we can then it won’t find us or we won’t find it. This thinking is valid; however, it is fear and survival-based. As we start to understand more about the human brain, we have discovered that the majority of people operate from their survival instinct- our ancestral brain. It is a survival mechanism and is not always necessary because most of us don’t need to hunt or kill to survive. 

Scientifically, as humanity has progressed, our brains are growing in size but not in capacity. Holistic and spiritual practices assist us in accessing the capabilities of the brain and release us from our survival instinct. As we release this aspect of thinking, we develop a bigger picture and learn that if we give our best, keep an open mind, heart and, know what we want, we are allowing for it to come into our lives. Rather than forcing things and people into our lives, particularly those that don’t want to be there anyway. 

3. Usually we are the only ones in our own way. 

I keep learning this over and over. Recently, I had the biggest epiphany about what I had done to block the blessings from my life. When I was a child, my parents went through a divorce. I love both of my parents and I know that they did everything that they could; however, their divorce developed a survival instinct in me that certain relationships are not worth working on, particularly with men. And, that I constantly need to hoard things because my life might be turned upside down in a quick second, money might be gone before I know it. Another byproduct of that is the need to spend what is in my bank account to ensure that I have everything that I need in case something happens.

Something else that my inner child was holding onto was that money is evil. As a child, I developed anger and hate towards my father who would withhold money from the rest of his family when he was angry with us. So, I saw money as the problem and not how it was handled. Recently, I came to the realization that money is a form of energy. If you use money to manipulate people and things, then that is the energy that you are putting out. However, if you receive and use money for good, it can help contribute to the bigger picture of abundance: the ebb&flow of what The Universe has in store for us. Being financially equipped can be a great tool to do good, sometimes we forget that. 

12 maneras en que quiero crecer cuando trato con otras personas.

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Recientemente pasé por una transformación interna donde aprendí claramente a establecer límites. No solo con los demás sino también conmigo mismo.



A decir verdad, me había centrado tanto en el trabajo que había dejado que algunos aspectos de mi vida, particularmente las relaciones personales, se vieran en el lado de la basura. Entonces, durante The Summer, decidí liberar la toxicidad de mi vida, las formas internas y externas que me habían estado deprimiendo.



Creo firmemente en todo lo que le pido a los demás, necesito encarnarme. De lo contrario, soy simplemente un hipócrita.



En el espíritu de verdad, crecimiento y madurez, aquí hay 12 cosas que me estoy pidiendo que crezca como ser humano:



1. Para escuchar más.



2. Ser más indulgente.



3. Ser más tolerante.



4. Hablar menos y escuchar más.



5. Abrazar el dolor.



6. Bajar la guardia.



7. Creer más en mí mismo.



8. Para confiar más.



9. Para juzgar menos.



10. Para crear más paz.



11. Vivir con un corazón compasivo.



12. Aceptar mis defectos.

Dear Hali, an apology letter to my younger self.

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Dear Hali, 

I’m sorry that I didn’t believe in your capability and I believed people who knew nothing of what you are or what you are made of. 

I’m sorry for ever telling you that you are ugly, fat, worthless or not enough. Those words are untrue and only stopped you from reaching your potential. 

I apologize for letting people into your life that came in-and-out with disrespect, unkind words and toxicity. 

I’m sorry for being ignorant about your heritage and not allowing you to be proud of who you are and where you come from. 

I’m sorry that I let what happened to you build walls up against other people, for fear that it wouldn’t happen again. That fear only brought the same kind of people around over-and-over. I have now learnt that peace is power. 

I’m sorry for ever doubting you, fearing your strength and allowing anything to hide your light. 

You deserve to shine bright and I promise to make choices that align with your purpose in life, true love and peace of mind. 

I love you,

12 Ways that I want to grow as a person, in dealing with other people.

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I recently went through an inner transformation where I learnt clearly to set boundaries. Not only with others but also with myself. 

Truthfully, I had focused so much on work that I had let some aspects of my life, particularly personal relationships fall to the waste side. So, during The Summer, I decided to release toxicity from my life, inner and outer ways that had been bringing me down. 

I am a firm-believer in anything that I ask of others, I need to embody myself. Otherwise, I am merely a hypocrite. 

In the spirit of truth, growth and maturity, here are 12 things that I am asking of myself to grow as a human being: 

1. To listen more. 

2. To be more forgiving. 

3. To be more accepting. 

4. To speak less and listen more. 

5. To embrace pain. 

6. To let my guard down. 

7. To believe in myself more. 

8. To trust more. 

9. To judge less. 

10. To create more peace. 

11. To live with a compassionate heart. 

12. To accept my flaws. 

3 raisons pour lesquelles je ne ferai plus jamais de régime.

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J'ai passé beaucoup de ma jeunesse à être en guerre avec mon corps. Je passais des heures et des heures à regarder FashionTV, à découper des articles de modèles maigres et, par conséquent, à développer plusieurs troubles de l'alimentation.

Mon obsession pour «maigre» a commencé lorsque les gens me disaient que je paraissais bien après avoir perdu du poids. Donc, je voulais recevoir ce genre de compliments tout le temps. Je suis devenu obsédé par l’entendre dire aux gens: «Hali, tu es tellement maigre!

Hélas, j'ai commencé mon parcours en faisant tout ce que je devais pour maintenir un physique mince. Même si cela m'a coûté la paix. Je passais des heures à calculer les calories, à calculer le poids que je pouvais perdre chaque semaine et, si je décidais de manger à l'excès, je vomissais ma nourriture pour ne pas perturber la quantité de kilogrammes que je devais perdre à ce moment-là.

Au plus fort de mes troubles de l'alimentation, je pesais entre 50 et 52 kilogrammes (110 livres), me pesais tous les jours et j'étais si faible que je me suis évanouie avant un défilé de mode auquel je participais.

C'était tortueux.

Quand je repense à ces jours, je suis triste de vivre dans une culture qui favorise tant de misère et de malheur. Je suis particulièrement reconnaissant d'avoir trouvé un réconfort dans le yoga, le bien-être et la positivité.

Voici 3 raisons pour lesquelles je ne ferai plus jamais de régime:

1. Mon corps est un cadeau.

Quand je pense à la façon dont je traitais mon corps, je pleure. Parfois, je me demande ce que je pensais être si impliqué dans un cycle toxique et sans fin. Honnêtement, les choses ont changé quand j'ai commencé à pratiquer le yoga presque tous les jours à l'âge de 19 ans. J'ai établi un lien profond avec mon esprit et mon corps. Grâce à cette connexion, j'ai libéré le besoin pour mon corps de regarder d'une certaine manière parce que j'ai compris (pour la première fois) à quel point mon corps est puissant et les choses étonnantes qu'il fait. L'aspect de mon corps est un sous-produit de la façon dont je m'en occupe. Mon corps est le meilleur cadeau que je puisse recevoir et j'ai promis de le traiter avec soin.

2. Je choisis la paix.

Quand j'ai décidé de choisir d'aimer mon corps, je me suis demandé comment j'étais entré dans la position dans laquelle j'étais. Quelque soit mon poids, ma taille ou ma nourriture, j'étais si malheureuse avec mon corps. À ce jour, je ne suis toujours pas sûr de la réponse; Cependant, je sais que vivre dans le passé ne m'aidera pas. Alors, j’ai pris la décision de choisir la paix et, ce faisant, j’arrêterai de chercher des raisons pour imputer mon manque d’estime de soi à quelqu'un ou à d’autres choses. Chaque jour, je choisis d'être en paix avec mon corps, ma vie et les choix que j'ai faits auparavant.

3. La santé est la chose la plus importante pour moi.

Quand j'avais 15 ans, je me suis contentée d'un défilé de mode et j'ai perdu parce que j'étais trop maigre. L’organisateur m’a dit qu’il ne souhaitait pas représenter une image malsaine de ce qu’était un modèle. J'étais abasourdi de penser qu'ils penseraient cela parce que (dans ma tête) j'étais en surpoids et plus lourd que les autres modèles. Quand je regarde les photos de cette journée, j’avais au moins 10-15 livres de moins que mes concurrents et je ne pouvais même pas m'en rendre compte. Quel était le but de tout ce régime, fixation et obsession, si j'étais si malsain et n'avais aucune idée de ma minceur?

À ce moment-là, j'avais si peu d'énergie que même marcher me donnait des palpitations cardiaques. Parfois, j'avais besoin d'aide pour monter les escaliers de notre maison. J'étais clairement malsain. Je pensais à combien de temps je pouvais continuer à me sentir en mauvaise santé et comme si je n'avais presque pas d'énergie et que je devenais fatigué de l'être.

J'ai choisi d'être en bonne santé et je le fais tous les jours. À travers le yoga, la méditation et le choix d'habitudes progressives, je n'ai pas regardé mon corps sous un jour négatif depuis près de dix ans. Tant de personnes souhaitent avoir un corps sain et fonctionnel; au lieu de me concentrer sur les aspects négatifs de mon corps (qui est généralement une construction de l'esprit), j'ai choisi de me concentrer sur la force, la positivité et l'amour.

3 Reasons why I will never diet again.

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I spent a lot of my youth being at war with my body. I would spend hours and hours watching FashionTV, cutting out articles of skinny models and, as a result, I developed several eating disorders. 

My obsession with ‘skinny’ started when people would tell me that I looked good after losing weight. So, I wanted to receive those kind of compliments all the time. I became obsessed with hearing people say, ‘Hali, you are so skinny!’

Alas, began my journey with doing whatever I had to to maintain a thin physique. Even if it cost me my peace. I would spend hours calculating calories, calculating how much weight I could lose ever week and, if I decided to binge eat, I would throw up my food- to avoid disrupting the amount of kilograms that I had to shed at that time. 

At the height of my eating disorder, I weighed 50-52 kilograms(110 pounds), would weigh myself daily and was so faint that I passed out before a fashion show that I was modelling in. 

It was torturous.

When I think back on these days, I get sad that we live in a culture that promotes such misery and unhappiness. I am extra grateful that I found solace in yoga, wellness and positivity. 

Here are 3 reasons why I will never diet again:

1. My body is a gift. 

When I think of how I used to treat my body, I cry. Sometimes I wonder what I was thinking to be so caught up in a cycle that is toxic and is never-ending. Honestly, things shifted when I started an almost-daily yoga practice when I was 19 years-old. I made a deep connection with my mind and body. Through this connection, I released the need for my body to look a certain way because I understood (for the first time) how powerful my body is and the amazing things that it is doing. How my body looks is a byproduct of how I care for it. My body is the best gift that I will ever receive and I made a promise to treat it with care. 

2.  I choose peace. 

When I decided to choose to love my body, I asked myself how I had gotten into the position that I had been in? One that seemed like no matter what I wore, how little I weighed or how little I ate, I was still so unhappy with my body. To this day, I am still not sure of the answer; however, I do know that living in the past will not help me. So, I made a decision to choose peace and, in doing so, I will stop looking for reasons to blame my former lack of self-esteem on anyone or anything else. Everyday, I choose to be at peace with my body, my life and the choices that I have made beforehand. 

3. Health is the most important thing to me. 

When I was 15, I contented in a fashion show and I lost because I was too underweight. The organizer told me that they didn’t want to represent an unhealthy image of what a model was. I was stunned that they would think that because (in my head) I was overweight and heavier than the other models. When I look back at the pictures of this day, I was at least 10-15 pounds skinnier than my competitors and I couldn’t even realize it. What was the point of all the dieting, fixating and obsession, if I was so unhealthy and had no idea how thin I actually was? 

At that time, I had so little energy that even walking would give me heart palpitations. Sometimes, I would need help up the stairs of our house. I was clearly unhealthy. I thought about how long I could continue to feel unhealthy and as though I had almost no energy and I became tired of always being tired. 

I chose to be healthy and, do so everyday. Through yoga, meditation and choosing habits that are progressive, I have not looked at my body in a negative light in almost ten years. So many people are wishing to have a healthy and functioning body; instead of focusing on my body’s negative aspects (which is usually a construct of the mind), I choose to focus on strength, positivity and love. 

Una lista de reproducción yogui inspirada en la confianza.

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La música es el alma de la vida. Nos permite unirnos y puede elevar sus vibraciones, permitiéndole vivir en altas vibraciones, si lo deseamos.



Ha habido una nueva investigación que se centra en cómo la música puede elevar nuestros niveles de energía. O haz lo contrario de eso.



Aquí está nuestra lista de reproducción inspirada en la confianza:

1. I am light- India.Arie.

2. Never mess with Sunday- Yppah.

3. Gooey- Glass Animals. 

4. You- Petit Biscuit. 

5. Suited- Shekhinah.

6. Retrograde- James Blake.

7. Antidote- Morcheeba. 

8. Buscó me- Bebe.

9. Always in my head- India.Arie

10. Orange Sky- Alexi Murdoch. 

A yoga playlist inspired by surrender and trust.

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Music is the soul of life. It allows us to come together and can raise your vibrations, allowing one to live in high vibrations- if we want. 

There has been new research that focuses on how music can elevate our levels of energy. Or, do the opposite of that. 

Here is our trust inspired playlist:

1. I am light- India.Arie.

2. Never mess with Sunday- Yppah.

3. Gooey- Glass Animals. 

4. You- Petit Biscuit. 

5. Suited- Shekhinah.

6. Retrograde- James Blake.

7. Antidote- Morcheeba. 

8. Buscó me- Bebe.

9. Always in my head- India.Arie

10. Orange Sky- Alexi Murdoch. 

4 Things that traveling alone has taught me- by Diana Athena.

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My whole life I have been so attached to people around me: my romantic partners, my friends and my family. So much so that I never really took the chance to understand or even to explore what I wanted for myself. 

Traveling in a group was a big part of it for all the obvious reasons like splitting travels costs and having someone to keep me company because I felt secure with others, letting them make choices and decisions for me.

Until one day, I realized that by doing so I was depending on the people that I travel with.

In September 2016, I took my first solo getaway. I made a leap and booked the trip. I can’t say that it was an easy decision; but, it certainly was the right one. That time away was the best quality time I have ever spent with myself. 

Ever since then, I have become very careful in choosing a traveling buddy and I always consider traveling alone being the best time spent with me. 

Here are a few things traveling solo has helped me understand: 

1. Being in a new environment clears the mind. 

Having a routine is comforting and knowing your neighborhood, your hometown can feel safe and secure. But a lot of time worrying about the same problems can also become a part of a monotonous routine, leaving no space for change in thoughts and patterns. That’s when traveling can come in handy. Better yet, traveling solo! Nothing clears one’s mind better than new surroundings, a push to solve new challenges and figure out new ways. The mind simply has no room or energy to loop around what seemed like a problem if it’s occupied and overwhelmed by figuring out all new sensory overload from the new exciting world. 

2. Traveling requires an element of surrender, going with the flow. 

It is likely that things may not be the same way as they are where you live. You won’t have access to your favorite supermarket or your regular cup of a bedtime tea.This may become uncomfortable if you are used to and like controlling your experiences (not to mention flight delays or unwanted traffic). However, try considering those things as a part of the adventure. This can be an opportunity to fill up that empty space with something new or do something that you have been holding off doing, like listening to that podcast you didn’t have time for.

3.It is important to keep an open and curious mind.

You can always find reasons to not like something and to stick with what seems familiar. However, it takes more courage to accept risks of new experiences, but that is also the only way to expand your perspective. 

4. You have to take full responsibility for your emotions/experiences.

Being with myself has truly helped me to get in touch with my own feelings as emotions can be contagious when we share them. While traveling with a partner, it is easy to express certain feelings to find approval/support. It also becomes easy to adopt your partner’s opinions as your own if you spend a lot of time together. However, when you are the only one making choices and conclusions about your experiences, you have plenty of room to be honest about the emotional coloring of your experiences. For me, that is the best way of getting to know myself better. Because I don’t have to worry about anyone else, so the only question remains is what do I want/experience/feel. 

12 Meer dinge wat ek seker weet.

Al weet ek dat ek baie geleer het, is daar nog meer om te leer. Ek is vasbeslote om tyd te neem om na te dink oor iets  wat tyd nodig het om na terug te kyk.



Dus, voordat ek meer leer, is dit my pouse-knoppie. Die kans is dat ek 'n paar dinge wat ek seker weet, erken:



1. As ek iemand anders vra om my lief te hê, moet ek myself eers liefhê.



2. Soms beteken liefde om meer van iemand te vra.



3. Eenvoudig is nie maklik nie, maar dikwels waar ons almal moet begin.



4. Wees getrou aan u drome en wat u moet doen om dit te laat gebeur.



5. Mense kom en gaan, maar jy sal altyd bly.



6. Wie is beter om jou lief te hê as jy?



7. Is u genoeg sonder u telefoon, huis, motor, geld, titel of status?



8. Soms beteken liefde om te laat vaar om iemand te dwing om te verander en hulle te aanvaar vir wie hulle is. Skep dan afstand sodat dit jou nie beïnvloed nie en waarin jy glo nie.



9. 'n Baie goeie, gelukkige lewe met moraliteit, vriendelikheid en waardes is gratis.



10. Mense wat in 'behoort' te leef, leef in die verlede.



11. Alles wat waardevol is in die lewe, insluitend welstand, verg werk en moeite.



12. Om oor iets te doen en dit te doen is twee verskillende

12 More things that I know for sure.

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Even though I know that I have learnt a lot, there is still more to learn. I am a firm-believer of taking the time to reflect upon something(s) that might need time to look back on.

So, before I learn more, this my pause button. A chance where I get to acknowledge a few things I know for sure: 

1. If I ask someone else to love me, I need to love myself first. 

2. Sometimes love means asking more from someone. 

3. Simple is not easy but often where all of us need to start. 

4. Be true to your dreams and what you need to do to make them happen. 

5. People come and go but you will always remain. 

6. Who better to love you than you? 

7. Without your phone, house, car, money, title or status, are you enough? 

8. Sometimes love means letting go of forcing someone to change and accepting them for who they are. Then, creating distance so that it doesn’t affect you and what you believe in. 

9. A really good, happy life with morality, kindness and values is free. 

10. People who live in ‘should’ve’ are living in the past. 

11. Everything valuable in life, including wellbeing, takes work and effort. 

12. Talking about doing something and doing it, is two different

3 Formas de negatividad que debes dejar si quieres vivir una vida más feliz y mejor.

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Todos hemos estado en una situación o alrededor de una persona que quería llevarte a su vibración negativa, nivel de energía. Todos hemos experimentado los celos, la ira, la inseguridad, el resentimiento o la venganza de otra persona y deseamos no estar separados de eso.

De hecho, todos hemos sido los que enviamos estas bajas vibraciones. La mayoría de las veces, sin siquiera darnos cuenta de que los estamos enviando.

Lo bueno de nuestras vidas es que tenemos la oportunidad de elegir la vida que queremos. A través de los hábitos de reentrenamiento, los pensamientos y los sistemas de creencias, podemos elevar nuestras vibraciones, manifestar nuestros sueños y vivir nuestras mejores vidas. Esto solo es posible a través de la elección, elecciones diarias que nos alinean con nuestro poder superior.

Aquí hay 3 formas de negatividad que debes dejar si quieres vivir una vida mejor y más positiva:

1. Inseguridad.

Solía ​​ser muy inseguro, a veces todavía lo soy. Solía ​​querer que otras personas tuvieran, lucir como se ve alguien más o decirme a mí mismo que no era digno porque era quien soy. Suena triste, lo sé; Sin embargo, la mayoría de la gente piensa así. Vivimos en un mundo de constantes comparaciones y una sociedad en la que rara vez nos hablamos amablemente, nos motivamos y nos elevamos. Hace unos años, decidí amarme más día a día porque estar en guerra conmigo solo me estaba deprimiendo. En lugar de mirarme al espejo y criticar quién era yo; Elegí apreciarme por lo que soy. No fue fácil pero valió la pena. Ahora entiendo completamente que ser inseguro solo atrae más inseguridad y negatividad en mi vida. Cuando soy amoroso y confiado, un mundo de felicidad está abierto y listo para que lo explore.

2. La necesidad de tomar y no dar.

Otro aspecto negativo de nuestra cultura es que antes de dar, queremos tomar. Creo que esta es la mentalidad más repugnante que podemos tener, ya que afecta todo en nuestra vida. Cuando entramos en una situación que busca obtener, levantamos la guardia y luego el verdadero amor, el respeto y la amabilidad salen por la ventana. Muchos de nosotros estamos alimentados con la idea de que no hay suficiente para todos, pero esto es una mentira. Una de las formas tóxicas más grandes de pensar es que lo que está destinado a mí está destinado a otra persona. Si trabajas lo suficiente, das lo suficiente, amas lo suficiente, disfrutas lo suficiente y vives a tu máximo potencial, entonces lo que significa para ti definitivamente te encontrará. Por lo tanto, no hay necesidad de luchar por ello ni de quitárselo a otra persona.

3. Miedo.

El miedo puede ser muchas cosas y podría ser el paraguas sobre los dos temas anteriores. Sin embargo, cuando menciono el miedo en este párrafo, me refiero a tener miedo de expandir sus horizontes debido a lo negativo que podría suceder. Si piensas en nuestras vidas, más bien está sucediendo que no. Estás vivo, tienes aliento, eres capaz, eres capaz, eres suficiente, has hecho lo suficiente ... en última instancia, todo funciona para tu bien. Asegúrate de hacer lo mismo y de alinearte con la elevación y la intención

3 Ways of negativity that you need to let go of if you want to live a better and more positive way of life.

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We’ve all been in a situation or around a person that wanted to bring you down to their negative vibration, energy level. We’ve all experienced someone else’s jealousy, rage, insecurity, resentment or vengefulness and wished that we weren’t apart of it. 

In fact, we have all been the ones who have sent these low vibrations out. Most of the time, without even realizing that we are sending them out. 

What’s so great about our lives, is that we have the chance to choose the life that we want. Through re-training habits, thoughts and belief systems, we can raise our vibrations, manifest our dreams and live our best lives. This is only possible through choice, daily choices that align us to our higher power. 

Here are 3 ways of negativity that you need to let go of if you want to live a better and more positive way of life:

1. Insecurity. 

I used to be very insecure, sometimes I still am. I used to want other people have, look the way that someone else looks or, tell myself that I wasn’t worthy because I was who I am. Sounds sad I know; however, most people think like this. We live in a World of constant comparisons and a society where we rarely speak kindly to each other, motivate each other and lift one another up. A few years ago, I decided to love myself more day-by-day because being at war with myself was only bringing me down. Instead of looking in the mirror and criticizing who I was; I chose to appreciate myself for who I am. It wasn’t easy but it was all worth it. I now fully understand that being insecure only attracts more insecurity and negativity into my life. When I am loving and confident, a world of happiness is open and ready for me to explore. 

2. The need to take and not give.

Another negative aspect of our culture is that before we give, we want to take. I believe that this is the most sickening mindset that we can have, as it affects everything in our life. When we go into a situation looking to get, we put up our guard and then true love, respect and kindness go out of the window. Many of us are fed the idea that there is not enough to go around but, this is a lie. One of the biggest toxic ways of thinking is that what is meant for me is meant for someone else. If you work hard enough, give enough, love enough, enjoy enough and live to your fullest potential then, what is meant for you will definitely find you. So, there is no need to fight for it or take it from somebody else.

3. Fear. 

Fear can be many things and could be the umbrella above the two previous topics. However, when I mention fear in this paragraph, I am elaborating upon being afraid to expand your horizons because of a negative that might happen. If you think of our lives, more right is going on than not. You are alive, you have breath, you are capable, you are able, you are enough, you have done enough... ultimately, everything is working for your good. Make sure that you are doing the same and aligning yourself with elevation and intention. 

Dear God, I’m sorry (A prayer of hope).

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Dear God, 

I am sorry for falling into the trap of negativity that was set up by me listening to what he (my former partner) had to say about me. W’s expression towards me hurt because I feel like it is not valid. I know that I am not heartless and one who is constantly seeking attention. So, to hear the opposite of that hurt me deeply. 

Thank you for this experience because I am learning two very important things: that if I really believe that I am better off without him, now is the time to prove it, and that my life is worth living in happiness, peace, respect and abundance. Anything that doesn’t fall within those boundaries, I want to leave behind. 

God, please help me call on The Angels that I need to get through this difficult time. This period is one where people who have hurt me think that they deserve me. Please give me the strength to prove to myself and be a testimony that I am worthy of what I truly want, a World of abundance. With that, a partner who treats me as an equal. 

I ask for all the courage that I need to walk into ‘The Unknown’ because I can feel that where I am headed is better than where I came from. 

I believe in a life of prosperity, hope, joy and strength. Please help me get there. 

Amen,

5 Ways to stay inspired everyday by Diana Athena.

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Five Ways to Stay Inspired.

I am a fiery person so, I get inspired and motivated quickly. And then, I dive right into doing what I need to, to get it done. Working, chasing after what you want, getting things done- these are all great qualities to have. However, unfortunately, that first feeling of huge inspiration can sometimes start fading away, over time. Especially if we are talking about long time goals which require patience and consistency. And, sometimes it can become very hard to stay committed to what seemed like pure magic in the beginning. 

Through years of practice and self-awareness, I have found a few strategies which help me to stay with the flow of motivation. I would love to share these, and hope that you will be able to catch that inspiration and make it a part of your working process. 

Inspiration can not be forced, but it can be carefully tended to. I hope those simple tricks will help you to stay motivated on your journey:

1. Break long term goals into smaller steps.

Long-term goals can be overwhelming. Not only is it hard to believe that they are achievable, but it is also very hard to find the right path towards them and to see the bigger picture. I found it helpful to break the big goal into a few smaller steps first. For example, what would be the first step towards that thing you really want? It may be buying a laptop if you are planning to write a book or taking an additional course to learn more about business managing, if you are looking to start your own company. 

2. Celebrate and acknowledge your victories.

Congratulations! You are one step closer to your goal, this is a big deal! You put in the work and you have made it happen and you should give yourself credit for it. My biggest mistake has always been thinking that I haven’t done enough. While driving myself crazy with it and waiting for someone else’s approval. But, the fact is I am my own best judge. If I don’t give myself credit for the work I have put in, no-one else will notice it. So, the next time you have a spare five-to-ten minutes, find and acknowledge things you have already done so that you can you can be proud of yourself. 

3. Give yourself time.

Just as much as it is important to work hard, it is important to give yourself time to rest. Change is overwhelming and even if it is getting you closer to your finish line, it is important to give yourself time to rest and recharge in order to receive the benefits of the work you’ve put in. Stepping aside for a little while can also give you a clearer view at your work and result in fresh ideas. 

4. Create a routine. 

As clichéd as it may sound, setting up a routine is incredibly helpful. We all have busy lives and sometimes things can get in the way. Finding  exciting stuff like spending time with friends and discovering new relationships, with the addition of demanding and overwhelming events like problems with family or health issues. However your busy schedule may look, it is important to still find time and space for your commitment. Not only will it keep you accountable, but it may also help to keep you grounded. So go ahead and set aside that important time a day that you will spend working on achieving your goals and make it your routine. 

5. Set up your working space. 

Get creative with your working space. Bring on all the crazy ideas! Print out pictures of people who inspire you, display your work that makes you proud, burn some candles or sage or use essential oils, buy some fresh flowers or, get a plant. There are so many ways to make put an imprint on your space, regardless of whether it’s your office, home or a shared space. The main goal is to use what you like, what will keep you motivated and to create a space where you would want to spend your time. 

Ce dont chaque zodiac astrologique a besoin pour devenir plus émotionnellement évolué.

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L'astrologie est l'une des premières formes de science traditionnelle, elle est basée sur la manière dont l'Univers est aligné dans un moment particulier. Bien que je ne sois pas un astrologue, c'est une de mes passions. Un que j'ai passé de nombreuses heures à étudier.



De temps en temps, j'écris des articles sur l'astrologie. Cette fois, c’est comment chaque signe peut évoluer émotionnellement en fonction de son placement dans le zodiaque.



Voici comment votre signe peut évoluer vers un personnel plus équilibré, émotionnellement:




1. Capricorne - Pour libérer le besoin de contrôler.
2. Verseau - Écouter les émotions des autres sans les forcer à agir face à un problème particulier.
3. Poissons - Pour voir les situations des deux côtés, pas seulement les vôtres.
4. Bélier - Abandonner la nécessité d'être le centre d'attention.
5. Taureau - Pour être plus ouvert d'esprit.
6. Gemini - Pour méditer ou penser quand vous êtes en colère ou contrarié.
7. Cancer - Pour baisser la garde.
8. Léo - Pour aligner tes vies avec bonheur.
9. Vierge - Pour accepter plus que les gens.
10. Balance - Pour pratiquer l'équilibre de l'intérieur, d'abord.
11. Scorpion - Prendre la responsabilité de vos émotions ou sentiments intenses.
12. Sagittaire - Laisser les autres diriger aussi.

What each zodiac needs to be emotionally evolved.

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Astrology is one of the first forms of traditional science, it is based on how The Universe is aligned in a particular moment. Although I am not an Astrologer, it is a deep passion of mine. One that I have spent many hours studying. 

Every once-in-while, I write articles about astrology. This time, it is how each sign can emotionally evolve based upon their zodiac placement. 

Here is how your sign can progress into a more balanced personal, emotionally: 

1. Capricorn- To release the need to control. 
2. Aquarius- To listen to others’ emotions without forcing them to take action about a concern.
3. Pisces- To see situations from both sides, not only yours.
4. Aries- To let go of the need to be the center of attention. 
5. Taurus- To be more open-minded. 
6. Gemini- To meditate  or think when you’re angry or upset. 
7. Cancer- To let your guard down. 
8. Leo- To align your lives with happiness. 
9. Virgo- To be more accepting of how people are. 
10. Libra- To practice balance from within, first. 
11. Scorpio- To take responsibility for your intense emotions or feelings. 
12. Sagittarius- To let others lead, too.

Izinto ezi-3 engizifundile mayelana nobudoda obunobuthi.

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Ngesonto eledlule, ngangiprakthiza i-yoga esitishini seyoga yendawo futhi owesilisa wabeka umatilasi wakhe phambi kwami, lapho kunesikhala esiningi eduze kwami. Lokhu kungivimbele ukuthi ngizibone ezibukweni zangaphambili- ezinye iziteshi ze-yoga zinezibuko ngaphambili ukuze ukwazi ukulungisa ngokwakho ukuqondanisa kwakho ekilasini.

Ngenkathi lo omunye uzakwabo eqala ukuzilolonga, wayelokhu engibheka kulo lonke lelo klasi ukuze ngimbone. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngangifuna ukuhamba kepha ngabe sengikhumbula esinye sezifundo ezinkulu kakhulu engizifundayo. Ukuthi, ubudoda obukhulu kakhulu kumuntu budala ubuthi ezimpilweni zabo. Uhlupheka nje.

Uma sicabanga amandla wesilisa, sihlobanisa nobulili. Kodwa-ke, sonke (ngamandla) senziwe ngobudoda nangowesifazane. Ukuba nokuningi kokunye kukwakha ukungalingani kithi ngokwethu, impilo kanye noMhlaba. Kwifilosofi yasempumalanga, bakholelwa ukuthi ibhalansi inokulingana phakathi kwamandla wesilisa nowesifazane.

Ngakho-ke, lokhu akwenzelwe amadoda kuphela. Abesifazane nabo bafakiwe.

Yilokhu engisanda kufunda ngakho mayelana nobudoda obunobuthi:

1. Kungakhathala.

Muva nje ngiphumelele ekuphumeni kahle. Ngenkathi sihlukana, ngasola mina futhi ngamthukuthelela ngokuphila ngamandla anobuthi besilisa. Ukusola kwami ​​njalo kuye akuzange kuzwakale kulungile ngoba ngifundile futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ukuze ngiqhubekele phambili, kumele ngizisebenzele. Ngabaza ukuthi ngidonsela kanjani umuntu onje empilweni yami. Ngesikhathi ngimbonisa empilweni yami, ngangikhathalele imali. Ukwenza imali, ukwakha amabhizinisi ami nokwakha ikusasa. Okuyikho, kusebenza.

Kodwa-ke, lapho sichitha isikhathi esiningi emalini, emsebenzini nakwenza, siphila kuphela emandleni ethu wesilisa. Ibhalansi idalwa ngokuthatha isikhathi sethu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, siyozikhathala.

2. Kwenza ukuzithiba.

Wake wambona umuntu onenkani futhi onamandla, ofuna ukuthatha yonke into futhi enobunzima bokuthatha izeluleko kwabanye? Uma une, akuwena wedwa. Ngisanda kuvumela umuntu othile empilweni yami ofaka lezi zimpawu.

Isizathu sami esikhulu sokuqeda ubudlelwane bethu ukuthi, abantu abanenkani, abaqhutshwa yi-Ego futhi abahlangabezana nobunzima bokuhamba, badale izinkinga ezimpilweni zabo nakwezinye izimpilo zabanye abantu ngoba imvamisa kungumuntu osendleleni yabo. Kuze kube yilapho bafunda ukuyeka, zinikele, babe nozwela futhi babe nokuthula ngokwabo, akukho lutho ongabenzela khona. Kungithathe ukuthi ngifunde le mfundo kaninginingi kodwa, ekugcineni ngiyifundile.

3. lonakalisa ubudlelwane.

Kunezikhathi eziningi kuphela ukuthi ungaba ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophila ngokuyinhloko kumandla abo wesilisa kuze kube yilapho uqala ukuzizwa egijimile, ebalekela phansi futhi kungathi udinga ukuvikeleka ngoba ubudoda obukhulu kakhulu bungadala ukuhlukunyezwa ku ukubambisana.

Ukuze ube nokuxhumana okunempilo nomunye, umuntu kufanele azimisele ukuvuma lapho ziye zazwisa umuntu ubuhlungu. Okungukuthi, uma umuntu ehlala kubesilisa babo, uzothola ubunzima bokwenza. Ubuningi bendoda ngokuvamile bubangela abantu bacabange ukuthi bazi konke nokuthi bahlala beqinisile, okuyinto engenakwenzeka. Wonke umuntu uyakhula, uyafunda futhi lapho siqala ukucabanga ngenye indlela kulapho sicindezela abantu kude nokungazinaki kwethu nezenzo zethu zobugovu

3 Things that I have learnt about toxic masculinity.

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Last week, I was practicing yoga at a local yoga studio and a man placed his mat right in front of mine, when there was a lot of space around me. This prevented me from seeing myself in the front mirrors- some yoga studios have mirrors in the front so that you can correct your own alignment during class. 

As this fellow practitioner began to practice, he kept looking at me throughout class so that I would notice him. At one point, I wanted to leave but then I remembered one of the biggest lessons that I am learning. That, too much masculinity within a person creates toxicity in their lives. He is merely suffering. 

When we think of masculine energy, we associate it with gender. However, all of us (energetically) are made of masculine and feminine. Having more of one creates imbalance in ourselves, life and The World. In eastern philosophy, they believe that balance is having equilibrium between masculine and feminine energy. 

So, this is not only for men. Women are included too. 

This is what I have recently learnt about toxic masculinity: 

1. It can be tiring. 

I recently went through a well-needed break-up. When we broke up, I blamed him and was angry at him for living in his toxic masculine energy. My continual blame towards him didn’t feel right because I have learnt and know that to move forward, I must work on myself. I questioned how I attracted someone like this into my life. At the time that I manifested him into my life, I was concerned with money. Making money, building my businesses and creating a future. Which, is valid. 

However, when we spend too much time on money, work and action, we live only in our masculine energy. Balance is created by taking time for ourselves. Otherwise, we will tire ourselves out. 

2. It creates self-sabotage.

Have you ever come across someone who is so stubborn & forceful, who wants to take on everything and has difficulty taking advice from others? If you have, you are not the only one. I recently let go of someone in my life who embodies these characteristics. 

My ultimate reason for ending our relationship was that, people who are headstrong, Ego-driven and have difficulties letting go, create problems in their own lives and other people’s lives because they are usually the person who is in their own way. Until they learn to let go, surrender, be compassionate and be at peace with themselves, there is nothing that you can do for them. It has taken me learning this lesson over and over but, I have finally learnt it. 

3. It ruins relationships. 

There are only so many times that you can be in a relationship with someone who is living primarily in their masculine energy until you start to feel run-over, run-down and as though you need protection because too much masculinity can create abusive behaviour in a partnership. 

In order to have a healthy connection with another, one must be willing to admit when they have caused someone pain. Which, if someone is living in their masculine, will find difficulty doing. An abundance of masculinity usually causes people to think that they know everything and that they are always right, which is impossible. Everyone is growing, learning and when we start to think otherwise is when we push people away with our negativity and selfish actions.