3 raisons pour lesquelles je ne considère pas les célébrités, les gourous et les superyogis comme mon sauveur.

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J'ai vécu dans trois grandes villes différentes où résident des célébrités et des personnalités: Londres, New York et (maintenant) Los Angeles. Fait intéressant, chaque ville aborde et traite différemment les célébrités. À Londres, la personne moyenne ne pouvait pas être dérangée. De même à New York. Cependant, à Los Angels, il existe une culture axée sur les célébrités et applaudissant. Peut-être à cause d'Hollywood; cependant, il est évident ici que les personnes de stature renommée sont traitées au-dessus des autres.

Bien que je sois sorti avec quelques personnes bien connues et que je sois parfois fasciné par la culture des gens qui croient qu'ils sont au-dessus des autres, j'ai rarement été influencé ou aspiré à être comme une célébrité.

Oui, j'ai (et je continue d'admirer) ce que représentent certaines personnes qui ont réussi dans leur propre domaine. Mais ce n'est pas seulement dans une industrie; c'est dans toutes les industries. Voici 3 raisons pour lesquelles je ne considère pas les célébrités, les gourous et les SuperYogis comme mon sauveur:

1. La plupart d'entre eux sont déconnectés.

je me souviens d'un membre de ma famille, qui était célèbre en Afrique du Sud, j'ai des souvenirs de la façon dont elle a dû fuir les gens pour se sentir comme elle-même. Cela m'a laissé une impression pour le reste de ma vie. Vous voyez, j'ai toujours aimé chanter mais détestais ce qui allait avec. Un membre de ma famille m'a montré ceci: des contrats louches, des personnes dignes de confiance et la nécessité de toujours être numéro un.

Quand j'étais dans une relation avec un producteur bien connu, j'ai encore eu un avant-goût de cela. Il ne pouvait jamais baisser sa garde parce qu'il devait garder une image / un personnage qui était contraire à qui il était. Sa bataille entre qui il percevait et est, a créé une lutte et (à mon avis) il a perdu de vue pourquoi il avait commencé à faire de la musique en premier lieu.

Bien que de nombreuses personnes célèbres se fassent sembler relatables; la personne moyenne partage très peu avec eux. Ce qui est bien. Après avoir rencontré et fréquenté des gens bien connus, j'ai appris que je n'avais presque rien en commun avec eux. Je préfère admirer les gens avec qui je peux vraiment m'identifier et parler de leur caractère à partir d'un endroit authentique; plutôt qu'une image qui est dépeinte dans le monde à travers des campagnes et des médias.

2. Le travail acharné n'est souvent pas récompensé par un chèque de paie.

J'ai eu le plaisir de rencontrer certaines des personnes les plus travailleuses de ma vie et la plupart d'entre elles n'ont pas été reconnues ou bien connues. Cela ne signifie pas que les personnes célèbres ne travaillent pas dur; cela signifie simplement que parfois nous regardons au-delà du travailleur moyen quand il peut être plus inspirant que quelqu'un qui fait la couverture d'un magazine.

J'ai eu le privilège de travailler dans de nombreux emplois différents et de rencontrer la personne qui nettoie les toilettes, ramasse après d'autres personnes et gère un groupe d'employés sans la reconnaissance qu'ils méritent, mais avec un grand sourire, ce sont les gens que j'admire et regarder vers l'espoir. L'un des souvenirs les plus distinctifs que j'ai de mon école secondaire était de saluer l'un de nos jardiniers qui avait toujours le sourire aux lèvres.

Chaque matin, il me faisait la grâce de son sourire blanc et nacré et cela me donnait de l'espoir et m'inspirait à toujours rester positif. Cela a laissé une empreinte sur ma vie et je me souviendrai toujours de lui comme d'une inspiration pour moi.

3. Je veux une vie simple.

J'ai été très expressif et très littéraire quand j'ai décidé de quitter l'industrie musicale. D'après mon expérience, j'ai dû changer pour pouvoir faire ce que je peux faire naturellement, chanter. Je crois à l'évolution; cependant, je ne crois pas à changer mon moi authentique pour apaiser les autres. Ce qui est en contradiction avec ce que certains publicistes et producteurs m'ont dit de me faire reconnaître pour mon travail. Un producteur m'a dit que la plupart des gens célèbres ne savent pas bien chanter, c'est une question d'image.

C'est alors que j'ai promis de rester authentique envers moi-même et les gens que j'aimais. J'ai quitté l'industrie et j'ai commencé à faire des recherches et des guérisons sérieuses. 8 ans plus tard, je suis reconnaissant d'être exactement là où je suis. Aux yeux de la société, je ne suis peut-être pas aussi digne que quelqu'un comme Kylie Jenner ou une autre personne extrêmement riche qui est un jeune adulte. Mais, j'ai ma dignité, ma fierté et je peux me promener dans un parc et me perdre dans mon imagination sans être reconnu ou remarqué.

Je me remarque et je m'aime, c'est ce que j'apprécie plus qu'une fausse reconnaissance basée sur une image, de l'argent et ce que je peux faire pour les autres.

Ma vie est simple et je l'aime comme ça.

3 Reasons why I don’t look up to celebrities, Gurus or SuperYogis to be my saviour.

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I’ve lived in three different major cities where celebrities and well-known people reside: London, New York and (now) Los Angeles. Interestingly, each city approaches and deals with famous people differently. 

In London, the average person couldn’t be bothered. Similarly in New York. However, in Los Angels, there is a culture that is celebrity-focused and applauding. Might be because of Hollywood; however, it is apparent here that people of fame stature are treated above others. 

Although I have dated a few well-known people and am sometimes fascinated by the culture of people who believe that they are above others, I have rarely been influenced or aspired to be like a celebrity. 

Yes, I have (and still) admire what some people who have acquired success in their own field represent. But, that is not just in one industry; it is in all industries. 

Here are 3 reasons that I don’t look up to Celebrities, Gurus and SuperYogis to be my saviour: 

1. Most of them are out of touch

When I remember one of my family members, who was famous in South Africa, I have memories of how she had to run from people to feel like her true self. This left an impression on me for the rest of my life. You see, I have always loved to sing but detested what came with it. My family member showed me this: shady contracts, untrustworthy people and the need to always be number one. 

When I was in a relationship with a well-known Producer, I was given a taste of this again. He could never let his guard down because he had to keep up an image/persona that was contrary to who he was. His battle between who he perceived to be and is, created a struggle and (in my opinion) he lost touch of why he started making music in the first place. 

Although many famous people make themselves seem relatable; the average person shares very little with them. Which is okay. After meeting and dating some well-known people, I have learnt that I have almost nothing in common with them. I would rather look up to people that I can genuinely relate to and speak of their character from an authentic place; rather than an image that is portrayed to The World through campaigns and media. 

2. Hard work is often not rewarded through a paycheck. 

I have had the pleasure of meeting some of the most hardworking people in my life and most of them have not been recognized or well-known. This does not mean that famous people don’t work hard; it just means that sometimes we look past the average worker when they can be more inspiring than someone who is on the cover of a magazine. 

I have had the privilege of working many different jobs and meeting the person who cleans toilets, picks up after other people and manages a bunch of staff without the recognition that they deserve but with a big smile on their face are the people that I admire and look up to for hope. 

One of the most distinctive memories that I have of my junior school was greeting one of Our Gardeners who always had a smile on his face. Every morning, he would grace me with his white and pearly smile and it gave me hope and inspired me to always stay positive. It has left an imprint on my life and I will always remember him as an inspiration to me. 

3. I want a simple life. 

I have been very vocal and literary expressive about when I decided to leave the music industry. My experience was that I had to change to be able to do what I can do naturally, sing. I believe in evolution; however, I don’t believe in changing my authentic self to appease others. Which is a contradiction to what some Publicists and Producers told me would get me recognized for my work. I had one Producer tell me that most people who are famous can’t sing well, it is about image. It was then that I promised to remain authentic to myself and the people that I loved. 

I left the industry and began to do some serious soul-searching and healing. 8 years later, I am grateful to be exactly where I am. In society’s eyes, I may not be as worthy as someone like Kylie Jenner or another extremely rich person who is a young adult. But, I have my dignity, pride and I can walk in a park and get lost in my imagination without being recognized or noticed. I notice myself and love myself, that is what I value more than false recognition based off of an image, money and what I can do for others.

My life is simple and I like it this way. 

9 Reasons why I choose to forgive.

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Having all this extra time on my hands has brought up some memories of people and situations that I need to forgive. 

Because I am not in work and rush mode, situations and things are showing up in my life requiring my attention to forgive them because I still feel hurt, resentment and vengefulness towards them. 

So, I am setting aside time to write them and myself letters of forgiveness so that I can release my body and mind of un-necessary drama and tension. I deserve a life of peace and sometimes that means acknowledging that I can’t go to the past and force things to be different. 

Here are 9 reasons why I forgive:

1. Memories are both positive and negative. The ones that I put on a pedestal determine how I progress. 

2. My body and mind belong to me; not someone who has down me wrong. 

3. Yes, someone else’s actions and words have hurt me but that doesn’t mean that they need to keep hurting me. Forgiveness releases them of that hurt. 

4. I can’t control how others behave towards me or think about me but I can control what I focus on. Forgiveness helps me release others having control over me. 

5. Forgiveness is empowering because it reminds me that I am not a victim. 

6. Forgiveness reminds me that I can set clear boundaries for my happiness. 

7. Forgiveness reminds me to connect within for the answer to be here now. 

8. Forgiveness allows me to detach a lesson and message from the hurt that might be attached to it. 

9. I choose forgiveness because my life belongs to me and I have control over it. 

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Umzimba Othandekayo,

Ngiyabonga ngokunginakekela, ikakhulukazi lapho angikho lapho kuwe. Sihlangana ibanga elide futhi ngemuva kwalesi sikhathi sonke, ngijabule kakhulu ukuthi uphilile nokuthi ungixolele ngalokho engikubekezelele kukho ngaphambili.

Kungithathe ngifunda ukuthi ngabe nginesimo kanjani ukubheka indlela ethile yokwephula lelo cwecwe futhi ngikwazise. Wanamathela, wangithanda ngaphandle kwemibandela. Ngiseneminye imicabango yokuthi ungahluka kanjani kepha ngiyazihlola ngoba ngiyayazi inhloso yakho. Ungigcina ngiphila, ngiqinile futhi ngikwazi ukufeza inhloso yami.

Ngakho-ke, nami ngizokwenza okufanayo nakuwe. Umzimba, ngiyathembisa ukukuthanda ngokungenamibandela. Ikakhulu uma kungekho lula ukwenza njalo. Uma ngidle cishe ithani lamapancake, ngigxishwe kakhulu ewayinini futhi angikwazi ukuya e-yoga studio noma ukusebenza ngalolo suku noma olulandelayo, ngizobe ngikuthanda ngoba sobabili senza konke okusemandleni futhi lolu hambo lwe impilo.

Dear Body,

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Dear Body, 

Thank you for being there for me, particularly when I wasn’t there for you. We’ve come a long way together and after all this time, I am so grateful that you are healthy and that you forgave me for what I put you through before. 

It took me learning how I had been conditioned to look a certain way to break that chain and appreciate you. You stuck around, loving me unconditionally. 

I still have some thoughts of how you can be different but I check myself because I know your purpose. You keep me alive, strong and able to fulfill my purpose. So, I will do the same for you. 

Body, I promise to love you unconditionally. Especially when it is not easy to do so. When I’ve eaten almost a ton of pancakes, over-indulged on some wine and can’t get to a yoga studio or workout that day or the next, I will still love you because we are both doing our best and this journey of life. 

9 raisons d'être reconnaissant pendant les périodes difficiles.

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Je mentirais si je vous disais que je n'étais pas (parfois) frustré et ennuyé par le leadership actuel, ou le manque là-bas, où j'habite aux États-Unis. D'autant plus que nous subissons les effets d'une pandémie, la plus importante du cent ans.

Bien que nous puissions tous ressentir une certaine manière, des moments comme celui-ci doivent se produire pour que nous puissions évoluer. Je suis désolé pour tous ceux qui sont malades et ont perdu la vie en ce moment. Mon message ne fait pas référence à cela. Cela s'applique à ceux qui sont en bonne santé, capables et forts. Nous devons transporter la vibration et l'esprit à travers cette période. Et, la meilleure façon de le faire est par gratitude.

Voici 9 raisons pour lesquelles je suis reconnaissant en cette période difficile:

1. C'est ainsi que cela doit être.

2. Parfois, la croissance est difficile.

3. Un jour, je comprendrai.

4. Je suis appelé à être plus fort. Si je suis vraiment aussi fort que je le dis aux autres, il est maintenant temps de le prouver à moi-même.

5. Je peux marcher, chanter et mettre un sourire sur mon visage.

6. Je vis dans un monde de possibilités infinies.

7. Cela peut toujours être pire qu'il ne l'est.

8. Ce qui sera, sera. La façon dont je l'aborde dépend de moi.

9. J'ai assez de ce dont j'ai besoin pour le moment présent.

9 Reasons to be grateful during challenging times.

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I would be lying if I told you that I wasn’t (at times) frustrated and annoyed with the current leadership, or lack there of, where I live in The U.S.A. Especially as we experience the effects of a pandemic, the biggest one in a hundred years. 

Although we may all feel a certain way, moments like this need to happen so that we can evolve. I am sorry for all those who are ill and have lost their lives at this time. My message does not refer to that. It applies to those who are healthy, capable and strong. We need to carry the vibration and spirit through this time. And, the best way to do that is through gratitude.

Here are 9 reasons why I am grateful during this challenging time:

1. This is how it is meant to be. 

2. Sometimes growth is challenging. 

3. One day I will understand. 

4. I am called to be stronger. If I really am as strong as I tell others then now is the time to prove it to myself. 

5. I can walk, sing and put a smile on my face. 

6. I live in a world of infinite possibilities. 

7. It can always be worse than it is. 

8. What will be, will be. How I approach it is up to me. 

9. I have enough of what I need for this present moment. 

9 Affirmations to stabilize fear.

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With all the fear in the atmosphere regarding being quarantined and not being able to work and have a regular a regular schedule, I feel that it is necessary to not allow this energy to lower our vibration. 

We have come so far as a collective to not go back to a time when yes, we had things to worry about. But, we used it as ammunition to spread hate, animosity and lack of community. This is not a time to panic and worry. It is a time to reflect. Sometimes situations like this are sent to us to ground us, help us find gratitude and question how we got there in the first place. 

We all know that fear creates stress and this thinking has an effect on our immune system. 

So, instead of freaking out, let’s a moment to place our hands on our hearts, light a candle, incense, nurture ourselves and each other. 

Here are 9 affirmations that help stabilize fear: 

1. ‘Everything is always working out in my favour’- taken from Abraham Hicks meditation. Sometimes our favour might not be how we imagined it to be. 

2. I am in the flow of allowing and letting go. 

3. I am done holding onto things that want to leave my life. 

4. What is going right? 

5. How can I find gratitude? 

6. Thy will be done whether I am at peace with it or not. Being at peace with it makes my life easier. 

7. Change is constant.

8. How can I be a blessing? 

9. My life is too precious to spend worrying about something that I have little control over. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. Virgo Full moon affirmation 2020

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I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He is in the form of someone who genuinely likes me. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He is not afraid to speak to me and let me in to his life. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He lets me in on what is going on his life, so that I don’t have to guess. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

We have created a bond based on honesty, kindness and respect. One that no one can come in-between. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

We support one another and choose peace and unity everyday. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He takes responsibility for what he needs to in our relationship. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect.

There is no need to manipulate either of each other because what we have is authentic and meant to be.

3 Things that I wish I’d known before my emotional healing process.

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When I look back at the beginning of my emotional healing process, it consciously began in 2012. I was in a toxic relationship with a man who was going through a divorce and all that I could do was think about him and wonder when he would be with me because he was my dream man. 

Ironically, my fear of losing him evaporated after I was almost arrested for being drunk and disorderly in August, 2012. After being saved by three random people who came by the cab that night, I made a promise to God that I would finally do the work that I had been avoiding. It was clear that my toxic thoughts and actions had led me down a path to a man that didn’t really care about me, a career path that was inauthentic and, a lifestyle that had me exhausted and wishing to be living in someone else’s skin. 

When I made this promise to Our Higher Source, I said that no matter how hard it was, I was going to pull through and be a better version of myself. Who knew that this path would have made me a Yoga Teacher, Spiritual Coach and Business woman? 8 years later and I am grateful for ever step of the way. 

Here are 3 things that I have learnt and wish I had known before I started my emotional healing process: 

1. We all have memories that eat us up but how can we empower ourselves through these memories. 

During my first awakening in 2012, when I decided to surrender my life to God and Source, I had left my boyfriend who was going through a divorce. I previously mentioned how he and I would drink a lot together and on the night that I was almost arrested, I had been with him beforehand. The majority of our relationship was drinking and being verbally abusive with one another. I thought that it was okay to have a relationship where we create intense toxicity, in the name of passion. 

After I made a promise to God, I stopped drinking for a while and began a 30-day hot yoga challenge where I practiced hot yoga everyday. Many people thought that I was crazy and wondered what was wrong with me. However, as I shed physical weight, I also shed mental and emotional weight. I was done carrying the burden of hate and unforgiveness.

I noticed that the situation I had been in with that boyfriend was similar to the one that I had had with my father. Both would come and leave as they pleased, both were successful CEOs and lacked emotional intelligence but made up for it with materials and compliments. I specifically remember a memory (when I was a kid) of being next to my Dad and feeling how much emptiness was between us even though we were next to one another. 

As an adult, I made a choice to forgive my father for being a victim of and accentuating the role of toxic masculinity where putting up walls is more beneficial than letting people in. When I first had memories like this, I would cry from my soul but I knew that that was healing taking place. I had to release my past to move forward with my life. And, forgiveness was essential- to myself and to others. 

2. It gets worse before it gets better

I had no idea that I was capable of having a life that is loving and genuinely kind. When I started my emotional healing process, I knew that the past would try to grip me and take me under its wing but I saw right through it. I knew that there was a rainbow (figuratively) on the other side. 

Before I made a conscious decision to be kind, loving and focus on the negative, I found myself in looping ideas that would manifest into my life. I would end up dating the same kind of person, have the same type of friend and resist the idea of change- which is inevitable. I was stuck. 

I am a firm-believer that everything is happening for us but it might not be how you want it to be. Just because it doesn’t present itself to you this way doesn’t mean that it is not for your benefit. 

Just because I decided to heal moving forward in 2012, doesn’t mean that my life miraculously becomes better because; that is not the human experience. We are meant to grow through circumstances and what we go through. However, our mindset can create trauma and have an effect on our physical and mental well-being. 

Victimizing ourselves reminds us that we are victims; however, empowering thoughts remind us of our authentic power that no one can take away form us, no matter what we face or go through. 

3. Healing is not about money or anyone else. 

Like many others, I began healing with this idea that there are levels of healing and that I would present myself to others as a good person if I appeared to be enlightened. 

But, this is where The Ego loves to reside- in levels, monetary worth and hierarchy. We are all on our own mission. My mission is very different to yours, which is okay. I am very wary of people who create a façade of telling others what healing should feel like and that there is an outcome because everyone encounters their own experiences. 

Ultimately, we can influence each other by sharing our stories but forcing another to feel what we have felt through awakening or healing is counteractive to true healing. 

3 cosas que desearía saber antes de comenzar BiologiqueLife.

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En 2017, después de escribir para una popular plataforma internacional de blogs en línea, decidí comenzar la mía. Aunque había publicado artículos para este sitio web, no sentí que me representara de una manera auténtica porque algunos de los artículos estaban tan editados que a veces no sonaba como mi propia voz. En un momento, fui su autor más popular y odiado. A veces lo tomé demasiado personalmente. Lloraba cuando leía comentarios negativos tras comentarios que trataban de palabras que no eran mías. Para evitar sentir amargura y resentimiento, decidí no escribir más para ellos y comenzar el mío, alineado con la autenticidad y la espiritualidad. Una plataforma donde no estoy solo para ganar dinero y de manera rápida con titulares impactantes sino porque la gente resuena con las historias.

Cuando comencé BiologiqueLife, acababa de pasar por una dificultad personal y quería crear una plataforma para curarme a mí mismo y a los demás. No me arrepiento de ninguno de los resultados y estoy agradecido de haber aprendido todo esto. Sin embargo, si me contaran algo sobre el proceso de BiologiqueLife, me gustaría saber lo siguiente:

1. No todos los días es un día para la creatividad.

Soy un creativo natural: me encanta escribir, dibujar, cantar, colorear y diseñar. Sin embargo, cuando se trata de estructura, dinero e impuestos, estoy bien informado al respecto, pero me encuentro posponiéndolo hasta más tarde. En los últimos años, he tenido que ser honesto sobre cuáles son mis puntos fuertes y usarlos para contrarrestar mis debilidades. Por ejemplo, tomé cursos de negocios y pedí a amigos que me ayudaran con detalles finos porque creo en el éxito de la misma. Ha habido días en que preferiría dormir antes que hacer cálculos. Entonces, me recompensé con un regalo después de haber completado algo que no me gusta hacer. Trayendo equilibrio para mí y para BiologiqueLife.

2. Comprenderá el verdadero significado de un enemigo, ¿cómo responderá?

Solía ​​tener miedo de hacerlo bien por miedo a que la gente pensara que pensaba que era mejor que ellos. Al crecer, la gente me decía constantemente que estaba lleno de mí mismo porque estaba y tengo confianza. A veces se puso esta confianza, pero creo firmemente en poner tu mejor yo para representarte a ti mismo como tal. Cuando comencé BiologiqueLife, sabía que hay personas negativas en el mundo, pero no veía la capacidad total de lo que otros podrían ser capaces cuando no pueden manejar su éxito.

En su mayor parte, las personas han sido de apoyo y amor, que es para quien escribo. Sin embargo, he tenido los pocos que claramente no apoyan lo que he creado. Y está bien, no tienen que serlo. Cuando se comportan de esa manera, he tomado la decisión de aceptarlo y entender que tengo algo que aprender. A veces es tener una piel más gruesa, aprender más o ignorar cualquier cosa que intente derribarme. Los que odian siempre estarán cerca, no merecen mi tiempo o energía.

3. La consistencia y la devoción es clave.


La gente me pregunta, ¿dónde encuentras el tiempo para escribir? Y, sinceramente, no estoy seguro porque en mi cabeza, no tengo que encontrar el tiempo, ya está allí. Solo tengo que usarlo.

Mi vida sin escribir no es vivir. Todos tenemos algo que nos trae vida y nos recuerda por qué necesitamos compartirlo con otros; sin embargo, la mayoría de nosotros no lo compartimos o no somos consistentes con él porque podríamos tener miedo, postergar o pensar que no vale la pena. Hubo días en que tuve que convencerme de por qué comencé BiologiqueLife y escribir casi todos los días porque cualquier cosa que requiera consistencia puede ser un desafío. Sin embargo, el resultado es más gratificante.

Nada que sea digno de lograr en la vida viene sin esfuerzo, consistencia y devoción; de lo contrario, todos los demás lo harían. Al servir a los demás, la devoción y renunciar a nuestro Ego, cumplimos un propósito mayor y más elevado. Aprendemos que el crecimiento y la transformación requieren profundizar, pero es posible si lo hacemos con coherencia.

3 Things that I wish I had known before I started BiologiqueLife.

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In 2017, after I had written for a popular online international blog platform, I decided to start my own. Even though I had published articles for this website, I didn’t feel like it represented me in an authentic way because some of the articles were so editted that sometimes it didn’t sound like my own voice. 

At one point, I was their most popular and hated author. At times I did take it too personally. I would cry when I read negative comment after comment that was about words that were not my own. To avoid feeling bitter and resentful, I decided to no longer write for them and start my own, that aligned with authenticity and spirituality. A platform where I am not out to make money only and in a quick way with shocking headlines but because people resonate with the stories. 

When I started BiologiqueLife, I had just gone through a personal difficulty and wanted to create a platform to heal myself and others. I don’t regret any of the outcome and am grateful that I learnt all of this. However, if I was told anything about the process of BiologiqueLife, I would want to know the following: 

1. Not everyday is a day for creativity

I am a natural creative: I love writing, drawing, singing, colours and designing. However, when it comes to structure, money and taxes, I am knowledgeable about it but find myself putting it off till later.

In the past few years, I have had to be honest about what my strengths are and use them to counteract my weaknesses. For example, I have taken business courses and asked friends to help me with fine details because I believe in the success of it. There have been days when I would rather sleep in than do calculations. So, I reward myself with a treat after I have completed something that I don’t like doing. Bringing balance to myself and BiologiqueLife. 

2. You will understand the true meaning of a hater, how will you respond? 

I used to be afraid to do well for fear of people thinking that I thought that I was better than them. Growing up, people would constantly tell me that I was full of myself because I was and am confident. Sometimes this confidence was put on but I am a firm-believer in putting your best self out there to represent yourself as such. 

When I started BiologiqueLife, I knew that there/are negative people in the world but I didn’t see the full capacity of what others might be capable of when they can’t handle your success. For the most part, people have been supportive and loving- which is who I write for. However, I have had the few that are clearly not supportive of what I have created. And, it is okay, they don’t have to be. When they behave that way, I have made a decision to accept it and understand that I have something to learn. Sometimes it is to have thicker skin, to learn more or to ignore anything that is attempting to bring me down. Haters will always be around, they do not deserve my time or energy. 

3. Consistency and devotion is key. 

People ask me, where do you find the time to write? And, honestly, I am not sure because in my head, I don’t have to find time- it is already there. I just have to use it. My life without writing is not living. We all have something that brings us life and reminds us why we need to share it with others; however, most of us don’t share it or are not consistent with it because we might be fearful, procrastinating or think that it is not worthy. 

There have been days when I have had to convince myself of why I started BiologiqueLife and write almost everyday because anything that requires consistency can be challenging. However, the outcome is more rewarding. Nothing that is worthy of achieving in life comes without effort, consistency and devotion- otherwise, everyone else would be doing it. 

Through serving others, devotion and giving up our Ego, we serve a bigger and higher purpose. We learn that growth and transformation requires digging deep within but, is possible if we do it with consistency.

Traits of the emotionally immature and mature zodiac sun signs.

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As I have touched on this before, every Zodiac sign has it’s emotional immature aspect and once they work on what they need to, they can emotionally evolve into their best selves. No person is immune to this. It is a part of the human experience to learn and grow, we only become stuck when we focus on blaming others and put responsibility on others to do the work for us. 

Astrology is a map that can guide us to what we need to work on within ourselves. If this doesn’t resonate, it is not for you. This article is for those that this aligns with because even though you might be one sun sign, you have other elements in your birth chart that can affect your emotions, communication, how you love, appear to the world and how you represent yourself at different phases in your life. 

Here are traits of the emotionally immature and mature sun signs of the zodiac:

•Immature Aries ♈️:

Needs to be number one, impatient and is obsessed with material worth and possessions.

Mature Aries

Natural leader, naturally encourages other people to thrive and do well. Focusing on what people can offer them that isn’t based on money.

•Immature Taurus ♉️:

Sees things in black&white, lacks compassion and stubborn. 

Mature Taurus: 

Patient, driven and mentally strong. 

•Immature Gemini ♊️:

Behaves like a teenager, impatient and emotionally inconsistent. 

Mature Gemini: 

Creative, great communicator and sees both sides of a situation with judgement. 

Immature Cancer ♋️:

Thinks the world is out to get them, overly defensive and thinks in a linear fashion. 

Mature Cancer: 

Opens up to people, speaks from a place of boundaries; not vengeance and, doesn’t jump to conclusions. 

Immature Leo ♌️:

Has difficulty processing emotions, needing to be the centre of attention and has difficulty being vulnerable. 

Mature Leo: 

Is vulnerable with their ‘weak’ emotions too, accepts that they don’t always have to strong and is compassionate to those who aren’t always at their peak. 

•Immature Virgo ♍️:

Only thinks about work, avoids human interaction and comes across passive aggressive. 

Mature Virgo

Deals with people in a humane, acknowledges that they are not always right and brings health to the mainstream. 

Immature Libra ♎️ :

Irritable, indecisiveness and projects internal conflict onto others. 

Mature Libra

Balances their emotions out through meditation, has let go of the need to be right and listens to others. 

•Immature Scorpio ♏️:

Thrives on vengefulness, seeks out drama to prove dominance and highly obsessive. 

Mature Scorpio

Accesses and transforms their deep emotions to help others heal of suffering, let’s go of the need to get others back and doesn’t take things personally. 

Immature Sagittarius ♐️:

Looks at life as a playground, lacks loyalty and compassion.

Mature Sagittarius: 

Explores diversity, is consistent and understands that if they want consistency, they have to create it in their own lives first. 

Immature Capricorn ♑️: 

Cold, social-climber and believes in hierarchy. 

Mature Capricorn: 

Practices humility by doing tedious things, enjoys daily activities and let’s go of the need to prove who they are through work. 

•Immature Aquarius ♒️:

Arrogant, bully and thinks that everyone else is lower than they are. 

Mature Aquarius: 

Shows their emotions, practices compassion and can self-reflect with acknowledgement that they made mistakes like everyone else. 

Immature Pisces ♓️:

Takes everything personally, controls others by doing things for them and jaded from the past. 

Mature Pisces

Meditates on positivity, aligns themself with supportive people who want the best for them and turns pain into wisdom. 

3 Things that I learnt attending a British School as a South African girl.

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I have only made peace with one of the schools that I went to recently and, it has taken me many years to do so. I did have some great teachers, yes! But, it didn’t stop me from sometimes feeling like an outcast as a minority in my school- for most of my secondary schooling years. 

I went to a British School in South Africa for most of my schooling. And, although it provided me with a lot, I felt confined and as though I was never enough. A lot of it had to do with my heritage. Although I am of mixed heritage, some being British, I identify fully with being South African. The two cultures are very different- as variety of cultures are.

I spent a lot of time being angry at British culture and needing to fit into a particular academic bracket or ‘keep up with The Joneses’, so I ran away from this part of my life after I left High School for a long time. When I moved to America, people would confuse my accent for being British and (at first), I would get angry but now I don’t care. 

I have forgiven the negative side of history that Britain has largely contributed to. Which, to me was manifested in what I was taught at School and part of my ancestry. 

Here are 3 things that I learnt while attending, and since have left, The British School that I attended: 

1. To speak up. 

Coming from a politically active family, I was raised to speak up for injustice. A lot of which I would see at This School. We had a teacher who, I believed to be racist and when we would confront The Headmistress (Principal) about it, we were met with phrases like, ‘How do you know?’, ‘Study harder’ or, ‘Give her a reason to like you.’ Although I didn’t agree with what she said, there was nothing else that I could do but listen to her and hope that she was right. What if it worked? What if I could push down that intuitive feeling of being singled out because of my culture and race? 

Of course, no matter how much I tried, I was still met with the feeling that I wasn’t good enough and my intuition knew why. I learnt from this experience that I can only speak up and from a place of intuition and truth, everything else is up to the other person. 

2. Discrimination is real. 

Unfortunately most of us have been raised to be threatened by other people, cultures and races because we fear that they will steal from us. This fear-based thinking creates prejudice against women, people of different races and religions. The thing about discrimination is that it is stifling. For the discriminator, it leaves negativity and for the person who is being discriminated against, it leaves negativity with them too. 

One of my most painful memories of being discriminated against was when I 15 and had a huge crush on this boy from our brother school in Johannesburg . He will remain nameless but I was smitten by him. I felt like we had a vibe. We would talk almost everyday and one night, he tried to kiss me but (typical me) my head was in the clouds and I didn’t get what he was trying to do. 

The next week, I was in class and after class I mentioned how he had tried to kiss me. One of the girls that I trusted told me that she asked him about me and he said that he would only do physical things to me but would never date me because he is not inclined to date or be seen with a black girl.I felt the biggest punch in my heart and started to feel tears warm my eyes. After that, I promised not to date a man from South Africa again. I was burnt. 

It took me a long time to date anyone again because I felt like I couldn’t date anyone or fit in with any demographic because of how I was raised and being from a mixed heritage. It is only until recently that I have healed from situations like this because I have acknowledged that not everyone is racist and those who are, are conditioned that way because of who they are and what they choose to believe in; it has nothing to do with me. 

3. Share your stories with those who care ONLY

I have been through a lot and when I was younger,I would share my stories with everyone because I trusted everyone. Although I kept the stories of experiencing prejudice at schools silent for a long time, years after I started to tell them and noticed who responded in a kind and compassionate way. Some people would ask me to see the positive when I was merely speaking from a place of truth and it infuriated me. I learnt that there are some people who care about our truths and those who don’t care.

Not everyone will care, they don’t have to. However, I choose to surround myself with people who I share a story of how I feel with and allow me to embrace my vulnerable side. People who don’t blame me for my past but trust me to be okay once this situation has passed. People who allow me to be angry at the injustices in The World but support me in transforming that emotion into healing, art, writing and seeing the silver-lining in every situation. 

There is a stereotype of an angry black woman and I was so afraid to be that portrayal. I have released this image that has been pushed onto us and know in my heart that all people feel anger, it is okay. As long as we do something about what we are angry about. Emotions have a purpose and so do actions.

12 Things that I would rather be called other than mean.

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We all have faced some harshness and unkindness in our lives. I used to believe that this was normal so I was unkind and accepted behaviour in my life that was not positive, affirming and reassuring. 

Who knows why I used to settle for less than I deserved but I see it all around- people accepting unkindness and mean-spiritedness when we shouldn’t. About 4 years ago, I went through a culmination of different events that changed my perception of how I approach people and what I wanted to project to the world. Ever since then, I made a promise to myself to practice kindness as much as possible. I don’t always get it right but that doesn’t mean that I stop trying. 

Here are 12 things that I would rather be as opposed to mean

1. Kind.

2. Understanding.

3. Compassionate. 

4. Mature. 

5. Fulfilled. 

6. Loving. 

7. Happy. 

8. Joyful. 

9. Playful. 

10. Honest. 

11. Aligned. 

12. Purposeful. 

Ukuze ufike kimi.

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What it took to get to me- abundance.

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It took letting go of what I didn’t need

To get to me

It took me learning to be happy for myself and others

To get to me

It took me releasing old conditions that limited what I reap

To get to me

It took me believing that I am capable of anything magnificent and powerful

To get to me

It took me letting go of people who don’t believe in me and themselves 

To get to me

It took me accepting that I am in control of my life

To get to me

It took me elevating my consciousness and vibration 

To get to me

It took me developing a daily meditation and spiritual practice

To get to me

It took me accepting that I am unique and meant to be so

To get to me

It took me accepting my purpose and call

To get to me

It took me surrounding myself with supportive, compassionate and understanding people

To get to me

It took me acknowledging that not everyone is going to like me and I am not going to like everyone 

To get to me

It took me releasing thoughts based on fear

To get to me

It took me allowing myself to shine bright

To get to me

It took me reminding myself that I am in alignment with abundance

To get to me

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9 Things that I know for sure about haters.

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We have all been, are or know someone who is a hater. Someone who is attracted to drama, loves to complain, is insecure or doesn’t believe in being positive. I have been both the hater and have come into contact with other people who have hated. Only to realize that when I was a hater, it had nothing to do with anyone else but me. I had some serious healing- which I did and am still doing. 

The biggest shift that I had which took me out of a low-vibrational frequency of negativity was to understand and know that I am love and am worthy of anything that I have ever wanted, and so is everyone else. There is enough for everyone so I don’t have to be jealous and angry when someone else is doing well or is thriving.

Whenever I encounter a hater these days, I try to practice compassion because I know what it feels to be in that position. I have learnt that I can still have my boundaries up and practice compassion from a distance because how they behave has nothing to do with me. Being hateful is a symptom of lack of self-awareness, kindness, understanding, compassion and empathy. 

Here are 9 things that I am sure of about haters

1. We have all been a hater at some point in our lives. 

2. Living life from a negative point of view only affects the person who sees it this way. 

3. Stepping out of a hateful mindset takes worth and effort but the end result is worth it. 

4. Hateful people are suffering and want to spread that feeling to others. 

5. Some people don’t mean well for you. 

6. Haters are only at war with themselves. 

7. You will never win an argument or situation with someone who is dead set on being negative. Sometimes the best boundary is distance and letting go. 

8. We can influence haters but it is up to them to change. 

9. It is okay and beneficial to put up boundaries towards people who don’t mean well for you. 

9 Affirmations that I remind myself when I see another woman succeed.

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I used to be very insecure and being confident in my own skin has not come easily. In fact, it has been one of the most challenging that I have to embrace because, in general, we are not raised to be at peace with ourselves. It is a societal condition to look at what someone has, looks or has done as better than yours. This thinking is toxic. My insecurity was so bad that it became unbearable to see other women succeed when I was insecure because I felt like if they did well; I wasn’t able to succeed too. 

I understand now that when someone else does well, it is a chance for me to celebrate them and me. It has taken me years and practice. And, I wish that I could credit it to one specific thing; however, it has been an holistic approach to wanting to be love and embody love. I have seen how jealousy, insecurity and envy has created destruction in my life and others- each day I choose to embrace confidence and inner confidence so that I can be at peace. 

Yes, I have come a long way. Here are 9 affirmations that I remember when another woman does well: 

1. Sometimes winning is being happy for someone else. 

2. There is enough for everyone. 

3. If she can do it, so can I. Vice versa.

4. Being together in peace is better than being separated by insecurity and hate. 

5. I won’t always be at the top and number 1. I am not meant to be. 

6. I want to compete for fun; not for self-destruction and misery. 

7. Recognizing someone else’s power helps me see my own. 

8. There is power in praising someone else’s work and what they have achieved. 

9. It feels good to be happy for myself and for others. We are all connected.

3 Reasons why practicing Satya is so important as a yoga teacher and practitioner.

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I love teaching yoga. It is my passion and has given me a foundation for growth, elevation and the ability to expand my beliefs beyond what I thought I knew. I used to have limited thoughts, sometimes still do; however, yoga has helped me believe there is more than I might think. It has opened my mind to the unknown, instead of fearing it. 

I have been teaching yoga for seven years now and there is a reason why many of the people that I went to training with are not teaching or don’t even practice anymore. It is not for the faint-hearted and it is not everyone’s destiny. Which is okay. 

As a yoga teacher, I believe that it is important for me to stay true to the integrity of the practice and devote my time and energy to the authenticity of this mind, body and spirit connection. 

Here are 3 reasons why practicing Satya (non-falsehood) are so important: 

1. Without truth, we have nothing. 

How I made it to yoga was just like most of our stories, I had a previous belief system that I needed to be at war in order to live life to my full potential. I had to face that truth to change it. I remember lying down on my mat during a hot yoga class and crying my eyes out as I wept about a romantic situation that I had been forcing myself into. My truth at that time is that, he and I were more in battle than in union and I felt it in my body every time that I practiced. 

Even though I practiced yoga 5 times a week, I had been running away from this truth- which I needed to face because until I came to terms with what I had to, I wasn’t truly living. Sometimes we think that running away from honesty means that we are strong but the truth always catches up to us and we understand that it is brave to face it and stop running away. 

2. Wellness is based on reality

Honestly, I haven’t always been well as a yoga teacher and I have had times where I have been a hypocrite because I have spoken from a place of asking others to be at peace and face their truth when I have done the opposite. I have had moments when I have taught tired, annoyed and while going through some serious emotional pain. 

One day, I was in class and felt so depleted that I could hardly speak. This was a sign that I needed to be honest with myself and let go of the need to be right and above others when I am human. Especially because I teach, I need to be truthful with myself and face if I am unwell so that I can become well. 

3. Being authentic helps us align with our purpose. 

I have been traveling and along my travels, I take class at different studios. I recently practiced at a boutique studio outside of The U.S. and heard conversations in the changing room after a magnificent class. Another teacher had mentioned how her mentor was missing and my instinct was to ask if he was okay. Which I did. My question was followed by an answer that he was okay, then the teacher said that her mentor had told her all of his teachings and now she was able to teach and take his place. 

I was in shock because instead of showing compassion, she used this as a platform to promote her class. Which seemed very inappropriate. It was a learning lesson for me that, there is a time and a place. Being a teacher can be competitive because we are not always sure if we can get numbers up and develop a steady following which can sustain a class that we have been given. In these past seven years, I have learnt that if I am truthful and teach from a place of integrity and devotion, students will show up. I can encourage people to take my class; however, there is no need to force anyone to take my class because forcing only repels people from my intention. 

Not everyone will take my class and that is okay. I would rather have students who are genuinely interested in yoga and what I have to offer than those who don’t want to be there anyways. I will not force, lie and compete to have anything and anyone in my life- and that carries into my yoga practice and teachings.