I have never been so happy to be single. I used to have this idea that being single meant waiting for ‘the one’. But, at this moment in my life, being single (to me) means being in love with and appreciating myself. Some may call this self-conceited; however, to be able to truly invest in others, we must have invested in ourselves, first.
Relationships, including the ones with ourselves, require investment, time and respect. All of which, we cannot give to others if we haven’t given them to ourselves.
With that being said, moving forward, I will apply The 12 Laws of Karma to dating, relationships with family &friends and future life partnerships:
•The Great Law. Whatever we put into The Universe will come back to us.
If we are clear, sincere, loving and respectful with our intentions, then (most likely) so will others around us.
•The law of humility. One must accept something to change it.
Red flags about someone’s behaviour don’t just disappear over time, I must accept them and decide to continue the relationship or not.
•The law of responsibility. We must take responsibility for what is in our lives.
Being in a dysfunctional relationship or in a relationship with someone who continues to disrespect me is a reflection of what I think about myself. If I believe that I am worthy of respect, then I won’t accept or tolerate disrespect.
•The law of here and now. We cannot be looking present if we are looking backwards.
Whoever and whatever moves with us to the future is our choice. If I am holding onto baggage, that baggage is coming with me. If I truly want to let go of a former partner or someone who hurt me, I need to forgive them and move on with my life.
• The law of patience and reward. The most valuable rewards require persistence.
Relationships are about daily commitment and effort; not jumping to the future.
• The law of creation. Life does not happen, we have to make it happen.
Just like a flower or tree, relationships require nurturing, patience and love to grow.
• The law of growth. When we change ourselves, our lives change too.
Love and respect comes from within. There is no need for me to desperately seek it from someone else.
• The law of connection. The past, present and future all connected.
Today is the beginning of my future. How I treat others and allow others to treat me will have an impact on our relationship and how we connect in the long term.
• The law of giving and hospitality. Our behaviour should match our thoughts and actions.
If I love someone, my actions and words should embody this. Love is kind, patient and respectful, my words and actions should be so, too.
• The law of change. History repeats itself until we learn from it and change our path.
If I spend my life on someone who I have already tried to be with but it didn’t work out with, I am missing out on a World of opportunities. I deserve to give myself the most of the present and the future by letting who I have been with before, go.
• The law of significance and inspiration. Rewards are a direct result of the energy and effort that we put into it.
If I believe in a relationship, I will give it a hundred percent. Giving many different people a part of me sets future relationships up for failure because I am not being fully present in each of them. If I believe in a future with someone, I will give it my all.